Roxanne 
Real Housewives of Orange County’s newest housewife Lydia McLaughlin is sticking to the fact that she believes Alexis was not being bullied by the other ladies especially because she “signed up for it.” Lydia states that true friends tell it like it is and she is simply being a true friend to Alexis. See what Lydia had to say below
“True friends keep it real.
To bully or not to bully, that is the question!
This was another hard episode for me to watch and it stirred up a lot of emotions. Let me just start by saying that Alexis is an amazing person. She is kindhearted, funny, and I love being around her. I consider Alexis a true friend, and it was in the spirit of friendship that I was trying to calmly explain to her why I felt the other girls got so fired up. However, I don’t believe she was being bullied, and I don’t think feeling that way makes me a bad friend. I know my heart and intentions were good. I left the party with Alexis and checked in on her a few days later as any friend would do for someone they care about.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that Alexis shouldn’t have been upset about the evening. I truly believe she had every right to have hurt feelings. But don’t forget, we signed up to be on a reality TV show. We get paid to show up and express our opinions and our feelings regardless of whether or not anyone else agrees with us. It’s that dynamic that makes for good TV and why you all tune in to watch, right? So, for Alexis to call the girls bullies in my opinion is not playing by the rules and what I meant when I tell her, “you know what you signed up for.”
Again, I’m not condoning the girls’ actions at all — as you can see by my “oh my goodness what is happening” expression and the fact that I ran after Alexis to see how she was and left with her. I have never witnessed such a spectacle and wouldn’t have wanted to be in Alexis’ shoes at the party. But she knew what she was walking in to. These women have unsettled history with each other. Alexis is a strong, articulate woman capable of defending herself and was not the “weaker person”as the definition of being bulled describes.
People have the right to disagree with each other. If more than one person in a situation disagrees with you than I think you should take a moment and reflect on that. That’s not bullying. Bullying is when you attack someone for no justifiable reason — they have a foreign accent, they have red hair, their religion or sexual orientation is different from yours. Bullying is an epidemic. I believe it exists. However, because of our circumstances, I don’t think Alexis was being bullied.”
My opinion: The ladies were attacking Alexis. They were being bullies. Lydia says that Alexis signed up for it but what is that supposed to mean? Just because she signed up for a show she can’t feel attacked or bullied? I read a comment on the blog that made a fascinating point. When you get a job, you are getting paid..correct? So when your boss keeps smacking your butt should you not feel like he’s wrong because he’s paying you? Lydia makes it like Alexis shouldn’t feel like she’s being bullied because she’s getting paid to be on this show but I feel like that should not have any factor! Thoughts on what Lydia had to say?
