The Dubrows are putting the Real in Real Housewives.
A year after Heather and Terry Dubrow’s oldest daughter Max Dubrow came out as bisexual, their second daughter, Kat, is ready to share her story with Bravoverse as well.
In an upcoming episode of the Real Housewives of Orange County, set to air later this month, Kat reveals that she’s a lesbian. While the 15-year-old came out to her family for over a year, it wasn’t until this year that she was ready to open up to the world about her sexuality.
“We’ve got four kids, they are different genders, different sexualities, and all at interesting places in their lives, figuring out who they are and where they belong as humans,” says Heather, who is mom to son Nick and twin sister Max, as well as Kat, and Coco, 11.
Sharing their family’s story and using the Bravo platform for good played a huge role in the Dubrow family’s decision to return to RHOC.
“I felt like our purpose is to keep those conversations going in other families,” says Heather.
Terry adds, “Coming out with your sexuality is something that broadly affects a lot of different people. We just want people to realize it should be part of normal conversations.”
Heather explains that her oldest daughter came out to her at the start of the pandemic and that nearly a year later, her second daughter did the same.
“I guess I didn’t make a big deal about it,” she recalls of Max revealing she’s bisexual. “She texted me and goes, ‘I’ve got to tell you something.’ I’m like, ‘What?’ She’s like, ‘I’m bisexual.’ I’m like, ‘Yeah. I know. Remember we talked about it?’ “
Kat “had been talking about her sexuality for a while,” Heather explains, noting that the 15-year-old was very low key about breaking the news to the family. “Kat decided to drop in our family group text, ‘By the way, I’m a lesbian. I didn’t see it, and I was mad because the dogs pooped in the house, so I wrote back, ‘Who let the dogs poop in the house?’ It was a total mom fail, and they’ve never let me forget that.”
“All I cared about was creating an environment where they all felt safe, comfortable, happy,” says Heather.
Max and Kat agree that their parents have fostered a space at home for them to safely explore their identities and have been very accepting, even if they don’t always understand things from the get-go.
“Even if she doesn’t understand something, my mom tries very hard, and she learns and teaches herself, and she grows with us,” says Max.
Adds Kat: “She’s asked me trillions of questions that really show she cares. She’s asked me about my pronouns. It’s really easy to talk to her. It’s not like I have to build up courage if I have something to tell her.”
However, Kat admits she had mixed feelings about opening up about her sexual identity on RHOC.
“I was really stressed about it,” Kat says. “But I’m really grateful that I have Max as an older sister, that she has already gone through all of this. Seeing my sister be so proud, and to see her be so comfortable with herself, it just makes me feel like I have nothing to worry about.”
“Even though our family is very inclusive and accepting, of course, you worry about what people [are] going to be like out in the world. And on social media,” Heather admits.
“It’s hard. Being unapologetically yourself, you just have to not care because it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. But that’s much easier said than done,” Max adds.
As for Heather, she thinks her kids are confident enough to handle anything thrown their way.
“These guys grew up with social media. They’re better at filtering [negative] comments than adults are,” she says. “They’re all solid kids, and they have each other’s back. Even if they’re bickering, they protect each other. They always take care of each other.”
The Real Housewives of Orange County airs on Wednesdays at 9 pm EST on Bravo.
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