The former Real Housewives of New York star started off saying, “I was telling my boyfriend Paul the other day how trashy is very in now. Just like just being slutty and talking about dick, that you want dick, that you haven’t had enough dick lately.”
She continued, “I think Samantha on “Sex and The City” started this thing. Where it was liberation and sexuality. Which I get. I get it; the men have been the players, and the men talk about their conquest and sex. why can’t women.”
The Skinnygirl mogul explains that she was telling Paul how “sex sells” when he brought up Cardi’s song WAP, which stands for Wet A** Pu**y.
Bethenny says she was taken aback by the song title. While B admits the song is catchy, she was shocked by the song’s explicit lyrics.
She went on to explain that she was worried about her daughter Bryn, 9, hearing the song on TikTok. She added that she understands freedom of speech but insists there’s a line, and she thinks this song crossed it.
“I don’t like when men speak like that. We haven’t like that men have been players. We haven’t like that men have called women sluts, so that doesn’t mean that now we’re going to like being called a whore,” B said.
To kick things up a notch, the RHONY OG took the conversation to Instagram and received quite a reaction from fans.
On Instagram, Bethenny shared the above quote with her followers, who were happy to sound off on the topic.
“This was a disappointing take to read. It’s about reclaiming sexual empowerment and the focus actually being on women valuing their own pleasure,” one fan wrote, to which Bethenny replied, “I’m not interested in my daughter thinking being a whore in a house is the definition of female empowerment. And I totally value your opinion.”
Another added, “These are 2 Black Women reclaiming their right to be sexual beings. This society doesn’t truly protect or value the voices of black women. I LIKE YOU BUT STAY IN YOUR LANE. Move around us (Black Women) because we will not be silenced or policed by your opinions.”
That’s when Bethenny clapped back with: “I am in my lane. I am a woman with a daughter. And this Instagram feed is also my lane, so I’m happy to drive with you and have a conversation. If you’re not capable of a dialogue, get off my highway.”
Other fans believe the meaning of the song went over Bethenny’s head.
“You might’ve missed the point,” one fan commented while another said, “Bethenny, I will always support and Stan for you as one of my faves, but the meaning and premise of the song went over your head.”
Another fan pointed out: “It’s a song about women owning their sexuality.”
However, Bethenny insisted she “completely” understands what the song is about, adding, “NOPE. I totally get the point. There are many ways to convey a message.”
“I don’t mind that men have been players; I just want women to be able to do the same thing without derogatory name-calling or shaming,” one Instagram user wrote.
Bethenny disagreed, countering, “I don’t want that. I want women to be better. I’m not looking to emulate what we’ve criticized men for decades.”
She later addressed all the criticism in a pinned comment at the top of her post. Bethenny fired back at being called a “Karen” and a “racist.” While Bethenny insisted she was all for “healthy debate,” she encouraged fans to avoid “grabbing the lowest hanging fruit-personal insults.”
“THIS THREAD IS [fire], and I appreciate anyone who can have a constructive and opposing dialogue,” she said. “For those of you who want to call me racist and Karen and whatever other labels you can rattle off, I look forward to you being able to have a discussion with someone versus grabbing the lowest hanging fruit-personal insults. It says so much more about you than it does about me.”
She continued, “Healthy debate is wonderful. Being so devoid of the tools to talk without character assassinating makes me proud to be a woman who can deal with the love or the hate. Either way, it’s a point of view, and I respect it. Any vile choice of words seems like projection or some displaced anger. Xo. Keep it coming. I don’t back down when called Karen. My name is Bethenny.”