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Amber and Jim Marchese Respond to Allegations They Will not Pay for Son’s College Tuition Due to his Sexuality!

Wow – what a crazy 24 hours for Amber and Jim Marchese.

Yesterday we reported that Jim’s eldest son started a ‘Go Fund Me’ page asking for assistance with his college tuition. While college is expensive for everyone, the reasoning behind Michael Marchese’s request was different from other students as he claimed that his father Jim refused to pay for his college due to him coming out (for original story click here.) Soon after, fans were understandably outraged as Michael stated he was on his own financially unless he admitted that his sexuality was a choice and agreed to living under his father’s standards which included dating girls.

Soon after, Jim and Amber came out with their own side of the story stating that the tuition disagreement had nothing to do with sexuality but rather with dollars and cents. Taking to Twitter, Amber stated that she was upset their family feud went public but felt forced to speak out on what happened:

Speaking out to ChampionDaily Jim states:

“This has nothing to do with sexuality. It has to do with money. He wants to go to a no name college in Connecticut that costs $275,000 when he doesn’t even have a career path that he’s focused on versus going to a state school that would cost $40,000. Who pays that much for Fairfield college? If he had gotten into Yale, Harvard, MIT, U Penn, Wharton Business School- any of the top 20 schools- we would have a conversation. The idea that he wants to spend $275,000 without regard to the fact that he’s got four other siblings who also need financial help is absurd and selfish.”

Jim then went into descriptive details regarding the material that they found which led to Michael coming out as gay to his father:

“The way we found out that Michael was even gay was that his younger brother Sebastian, who is age 14, received this rancid nasty gay porn on his phone and computer while we were watching a family movie with his younger siblings. The reason it was sent to Sebastian was that some of my older sons senior friends at Christian brothers academy wanted to gang bang Sebastian. They even sent him a video on the discord – new Snapchat for kids- called three gentlemen slam jamming where two guys were raping a third. They specifically said ‘his a**hole is mine.’ They were preying on him.’

As for Amber? She states:

““I’m really upset that he chose to make this public. We tried to keep it out of the public for a reason so Michael can heal from past traumas (that have NOTHING to do with being gay and/or a member of the LGBTQ community) that have happened to him. I have said since day one since we found out that we love him, we adore him, and we want the best for him.”

“What he’s doing is called extortion. as he is using my public platform coupled with him being gay in order to try to get us to pay for something. Also, it would be wise to not forget that Jim and I have put all four of our kids through private school which is an expensive investment (almost a half million spent already) coupled with the fact that I am a two time breast cancer survivor. I have paid out of pocket hundreds of thousands of dollars in order to ensure that I am cancer free and stay healthy for ALL four of my children.”

She went on to add: “Michael can go to any other college that is more economical that would make financial sense for our family, but he cannot browbeat us into paying for something that we just cannot afford. Also, one other thing I think it’s important to mention, is that Jim and I both made it very clear to him that if he is gay, we would still welcome him with open arms into our family and would not love him any differently and certainly we would never kick him out of our home because of it.”

Wow – these are two very different versions of what is going on and no matter how you slice this it’s just plain sad. I’m sure we will be hearing more over the next few days so stay tuned for updates.

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