Cary Deuber has been through her fair share of ups and downs during her time on the Real Housewives of Dallas.
Between dodging questions about her husband’s sexuality and being accused of having an affair with her now-husband, it’s not surprising Cary considered leaving the Real Housewives of Dallas following season two.
In a new interview with AOL.com, Cary opens up about almost walking away from the Real Housewives and dishes about the current season 3 drama.
Cary says, so far, fans have been loving season 3.
“It’s been really positive,” Cary explains. “Last year was a great one, and coming off of that it’s going to be even better this year. From a personal standpoint for me, it’s better because it couldn’t have gotten worse. It’s been a much more even-keel year for me.”
Speaking of last season, Cary admits that she and her husband Mark considered walking away from it all following all the drama last season.
“My husband and I are like, “We don’t need this, this isn’t something that we need to do.” We did it for something fun and something to help our business. We wanted to try it. It’s not every day that Bravo calls you and asks if you want to be on a show, and I decided that it’s worth the risk. With every risk, there’s always a downside. My husband and I went through that and came out stronger on the other side, but it was definitely a struggle. We had a few discussions and a lot of tough, dark days. Our kids did, too. I think some people don’t think about that impact on your family and the impact it has on your people. My step-kids are adults, so they got it and it was a struggle for them,” Cary revealed.
When Cary decided to return for season 3 she knew a sit down with LeeAnne Locken needed to happen since she perpetuated all the rumors surrounding Cary and Mark’s marriage.
Cary says she wanted to find common ground with LeeAnne and figure out a way to agree to disagree.
“That was my goal with it, to coexist and not be nervous and scared and be fearful, but I think that I was very honest,” Cary explains.
Ultimately, Cary was able to get past her fear of LeeAnne by showing her who she really is.
“I showed her who I really am. I was scared for a couple of years: I’m a nurse, I’m a normal person and I have a normal life, so for me to jump into this and be on TV and have people watching me, I was probably in my shell a bit more. When I was in a shell, I thought I would protect myself, but I think I shot myself in the foot because I wouldn’t say things that were on my mind because I was scared of what the reaction might be. Instead, a lot of things were inferred that weren’t true, and now I think I just have more open communication and a better dialogue.”
However, Cary says fans will just have to wait and see to find out what happens between her and LeeAnne.
“You’ll have to wait and see, but we take it one day at a time. It’s a work in progress every day. I want to move forward in a positive direction and I don’t want history to repeat itself.”
As for drama, Cary admits that she didn’t hold back this season and it may have landed her in hot water.
At the beginning of the season, Cary found herself in the middle of D’Andra Simmons and Brandi Redmond‘s drama over D’Andran’s now infamous Adderall comment. (P.S. Did you know/notice that our coverage of D’Andra/Brandi Adderall drama was featured on the first 3 episodes of RHOD? Soooo exciting!)
“I will say that I think I run my mouth a little too much this year. There’s a point where I say, “Maybe I shouldn’t have said all of that,” because at this point in the game I think that I should just be honest. Before, I feel like I haven’t been as forthcoming and was lying by omission. I felt like saying, “Here’s the deal. You totally talked to me about this, D’Andra, and I told Brandi what we were talking about. I told her what I said, what you said, and if you have an issue, I want you to be able to talk to me.” If you don’t like it, then…”
Adding, “You just have to take someone’s word for it. I don’t care anymore, because I know my truth. Love me or hate me, I am who I am.”
Cary says there’s a moment coming where you’ll see her be a little too forthcoming. But on the other hand, Cary says this season is the first season where fans are really seeing the true Cary.
“Well, there might be a moment coming. I haven’t seen it, either, but I do recall that I might have bit myself in the butt by trying to be too honest, but then I think I come back around. I don’t sign an NDA with these girls, but maybe there’s a point that, when they tell me something, there is a line that I’m trying to navigate,” Cary explained. “This year is the first year that I look like myself, and I don’t know if that’s because I’ve held back and been so nervous and in my shell. I think I shot myself in the foot with [not being] as forthcoming, where I just sort of stood there and thought, “Girl, you shouldn’t be saying that,” where I should’ve just said, “Girl, you shouldn’t be saying that.” Now I’ve learned that, you’re on TV and people aren’t in your head and you need to voice your opinion and how you’re feeling. This year you get to see more of me and who I am, my family and my husband and who he really is.”
Despite the show’s success, Cary can’t say whether the show is finally being accepted by the Dallas community.
“You know, I don’t know. I seldom leave the house, unless I’m going to work or bringing my kid to school. I am not big in the social scene in Dallas anymore. I don’t have time for it. We donate money and don’t go to a whole lot. Dallas is an ultra-conservative place still — there’s a subset of people who are ultra-conservative — but there is also a subset who are more liberal, and I’m definitely one of those more liberal people. Probably the most [liberal] on our show. For sure, like not even close. I’m sure there are still some of those old school people that have their panties in a wad about it, but I think it’s generally more accepted.”
Well, Cary says, “You’ll see how the dynamics between the girls change because I feel like there’s a lot of change this year. I didn’t expect it. It was out of nowhere, so it’s very interesting.”