Tamra Barney, I should say, Tamra Judge, invited the girls to go wedding dress shopping on Real Housewives of Orange County this week. That included Alexis Bellino, who has made peace, or at least come to a cordial place with Tamra and Heather. Gretchen still seems to not like her, so she got upset when Tamra invited Alexis!
Tamra explains in her Bravo blog this week that Gretchen holds on to a grudge when it comes to Alexis. She says she wanted to focus on the things she had in common with Alexis, and no longer on their differences! Tamra writes:
When I met Alexis for lunch I told her that we should keep things between us for a while because I didn’t want any outside influences. I wanted to get to know Alexis and try and bond on things that we DO have in common and not dwell on the things that we DO NOT have in common. It was hard for me to tell Gretchen that I made peace with Alexis, and she really made me feel horrible when she heard I invited her.
I invited everyone to my dress shopping day because it was MY day and I COULD! I did not expect anyone to have a problem with it. Gretchen had no problem being at the Salsa Party with Alexis and even gave her a hug goodbye. I was so confused and even considered rescinding the invitation to make Gretchen happy. Gretchen was right, I was not extremely close to Alexis at the time — but I was trying to move on and get her more involved in the group of girls. I did not have drama on my mind. I had dress shopping on my mind.
Here is the biggest difference between me and Gretchen: I forgive, forget, and move on. I do not hold a grudge like her. People make mistakes, no one is perfect. But, it is very hard to move on with someone when they wont let things go.
Tamra makes a great point – it’s HER day and she can invite whoever the hell she wants! Gretchen is so dramatic this season. Everything is about her even when she makes it seem like she is looking out for someone else’s interest.
Do you think Tamra should have excluded Alexis? Was Gretchen right to badger Tamra about inviting her to the wedding dress day?