The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills was filled with drama this past season and during the reunion we were all shocked to see Kyle Richards and former BFF Lisa Vanderpump’s friendship take a turn for the worse. At the reunion, Lisa was clearly getting attacked by her cast mates while her BFF watched, and did nothing. Since then it seems as if Brandi Glanville and Lisa have gotten close while Kyle and Lisa have drifted. Kyle spoke to TheCWDC to promote her latest book, talk reality TV, and defends why she didn’t stick up for her former BFF at the reunion.
How important is social media to you?
I grew up in an era where we would get fan mail delivered to our agent and you’d have to pick it up. It was very hard to get through all that stuff. To be able to interact with the fans of the show, I really prefer to call them viewers. I don’t know why but the word fan bothers me. It’s just amazing. The instant access to be able to answer viewer questions is awesome. Our viewers are unbelievably observant. I’ve never in my life seen anything like it. I cannot imagine anyone would say, “What nail polish did you have on at Farrah’s graduation?” But I remember because I’m like that. And then of course there’s the downside to Twitter. Which is very difficult, very painful. People tweet things and they don’t realize that you are a human being and that I actually read them. It’s not like I have an assistant reading them or tweeting for me, sometimes I think wow that really hurts. Other times I think God these people are so nice. It has the good and the bad.
You are not an amateur to the entertainment business. You started at a very young age. How old we’re you when you began working in the industry?
Technically I was sticking my toe in around three years old. I think I first started getting a lot parts around four years old. But it’s so different reality television; it’s a completely different beast. And I intentionally use the word beast (laughs).
NeNe Leakes (Real Housewives of Atlanta) always describes reality TV as “bittersweet.” There’s a lot of perks but there are also some bitter aspects to it.
I tend to agree with NeNe on that but that doesn’t quite grasp it enough, it is extremely bitter at times. It’s very difficult. If you would have told me it was difficult being on a reality show before I did this, I would think oh please, give me a break how hard could that be? But it is very difficult. People are judging you based on snippets of our lives and they’re not always privy to the back-story, which leads to certain things. They base their opinions on one moment and you want to scream out and say you don’t understand why or how. And you really can’t, a lot of times your hands are tied.
I’ve always said that one thing about a reality show is that people feel like they know you, they’ve been in your home, they’ve seen your bedroom etc. They’re so invested!
Exactly!Yes! They’re so invested in our lives its unbelievable. That took some getting used to. Forgetting Twitter where the majority of the feedback is positive. But on the street people are so overwhelmingly positive and excited about the show. Strangers come up to me all the time and ask, “How is your sister?” I hear all the time “I’m the Kim in the relationship” Or ” I’m Kyle.” It’s funny to think people know that much about our lives.
If you could do without the reunion specials, would you do without it? Do you feel like it just rehashes too much negativity? Cause you guys have all moved on.
We were all fine before the reunion. There were things going on that weren’t addressed. People could sense with Lisa and I that there was something going on. But it was all off camera, so the audience doesn’t really know what’s going on. So you start to address those things on camera and it’s just hard. I’d much rather deal with it without a camera in person, but if you’re going to do a reality show and be real and honest. That’s what it’s all about. I think that’s why our show is so successful. If they want us to sit there and drink tea and laugh, they maybe should watch a scripted show.
If you could set the record straight on anything from the reunion shows, what would it be?
Where do I begin? (laughs). When I watch the show, I think you can even see in meeting me right now that that’s not how my facial expressions normally are. I’m a very happy person, I love to have fun, and I love life. But when I look at myself and I look like a different person. But I guess when I’m stressed that’s how I look. I look very rigid and uptight. I’m so not an uptight person. People were also really upset that I didn’t come to Lisa’s defense with the Adrienne situation about the radar online comment but I was in a very bad position. Because I am friends with all of them and Mauricio and I are very good friends with Adrienne and Paul. That’s the number one thing. And number two, Adrienne was not making it up that she was told that. Even though it wasn’t true, they (radar online) owe everyone an apology because it caused that whole thing. What was I going to do? I cannot get involved in every fight. I got a lot of comments from people asking why didn’t I step in? And the next week when I defended Taylor, people said why didn’t you stay out of it, it’s none of your business. You’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t in reality television. You can’t make everybody happy. I know who I am and that’s all that matters.
I’ll be honest. I didn’t sense that Kyle or Lisa were having a problem. I did notice that Kyle wasn’t being very good to Lisa during the show but other than that I thought it was Kyle just being Kyle. I must admit Kyle’s book ‘Life is not a reality show’ was great so if you haven’t already read it, you should check it out! Do you think Lisa and Kyle can ever get past this?