Tamra Explains Why She Thinks Alexis Is Fake Plus Apologizes For Throwing Terry Under The Bus!
RHOC star Tamra Barney took to her blog to explain why she thinks Alexis Bellino is fake. Tamra admits that she was only being honest and didn’t want to sugarcoat anything. She also apologizes for throwing Terry Dubrow under the bus and telling Alexis that he too said she was phony!
“When Alexis asked to meet me I said “no” at first. I figured she just wanted to start some drama, and I was not up for it. So far this season I have tried to bite my tongue and rise above most of the drama, and I didn’t want to go there with her. I knew I had strong feelings and I was not able to hold them back. Therefore nothing good would come out of it. I know that we will never be true friends, and I was OK with that. Not everyone needs to be friends.
After thinking about it for a day or so and talking with Gretchen, I decided “what did I have to lose”? Lets get one thing straight, I do not hate Alexis. I actually feel sorry for her. Sure you see me rip on her about the things she says or does, but honestly off camera she doesn’t ever enter my mind. Her priorities are so screwed up which makes her very hard to be around. I tried for two years to get to know her. I invited her to my home for parties and to workout with me. It’s just not in the cards for us.
I think she is beautiful and oftentimes has a kind heart, but the other stuff she does and says is just hard to tolerate.
When I say she is fake I am not talking about her appearance. I don’t judge people by what they look like. I learned a long time ago you can’t judge a book by its cover. I think she is a very pretty girl with great fashion style — but she doesn’t have a clue. I actually see a little of myself in her ten years ago in regards to her being so insecure.
As a viewer you see her as the dingy blonde that is harmless and tries to live by the Bible. Whats wrong with that…Right? Nothing if that was truly her!
When I call her fake it is because what you see on TV is NOT what you see off-camera. We are on a reality show and we are hired to be REAL people. Not to put on a show of what we think is more interesting for the viewers. I take this job very serious as I do every job I have in life. You can say a lot of things about me but one thing you can’t say is that I act fake or I don’t do my job 100 percent. I will show you the good, bad, and ugly. I am not worried about being the richest, smartest, or prettiest Housewife. I am just me and I want people to know that everyone has problems, if you’re on TV or not.
Why do I call her fake and pretentious? I could give you a list of reasons (including rented lifestyle, her “careers,” attempts to look popular, etc.) but the thing that really makes me upset is the way she talks down to people at stores, restaurants, the girl that designs her dresses, etc. I am a person that does not care if you pick up my trash or perform surgery on me — everyone should be treated the same. There is so much more but I will save it for the reunion show that we film in two weeks.
Some of you asked me if I was too hard on her and my answer is:
First, she asked to meet me and to confront me on our issues. I did not ask for this. I told her up front I was going to be brutally honest with her, and I was. I am not one to sugarcoat my feelings and she knows that. Other than the show, Alexis is not in my life at all. As you will see in upcoming episodes I am not the only one that is annoyed by her. . .
I am sorry if I hurt her feelings. It was not my intention. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering not everyone has thick skin like me. Again, it is not my intention to hurt her — maybe just open her eyes.
Most of all, I am sorry for repeating what Gretchen told me. After 45 minutes of arguing with her I was so frustrated, and it just came out of mouth. I threw Terry under the bus and that was not cool. I am truly sorry for that.”
It’s great that Tamra is honest with her feelings and not fake. She is as real as it gets. I think she should just be cordial with Alexis, put her feelings out there, move forward, and be okay with saying hello to her! They should both truce on not saying anything about one another and that’s that. Do you think Tamra was wrong for throwing Terry under the bus? How do you feel Tamra handled the situation?!
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She was being a tad harsh but Alexis deserves it
I can tell the reunion is going to be crazy and Alexis will be getting called out by everyone except Vicki. Tamra was in the wrong for calling Terry out
yeah but he said it so he shouldn’t care
I kind of thing Terry’s the phony
She was being extremely honest, yes it may have been a bit harsh and it wasn’t cool that she threw Terry under the bus, and I am so happy she acknowledged that and apologized for it.
I like Tamra but thought she was a little harsh. You can be honest with someone and still be a little nicer.
Glad she acknowledged Terry. She def took responsibility. Good.
As I’ve always said, I LOVE Tamra !!! Love her personality, her sense of humor, she says it the way it is & list is endless but the bottom line is ‘she is who she is & owns it’…. Like her or dislike her, she’s the real deal & she is who she is……..:)
Tamra is an awful person. She always targets someone to dislike on the show to create drama. Which in itself is FAKE!. Her friendship with Gretchen – FAKE! What a hypocrite. So tired of her lame drama.
Alexis (like Teresa) isn’t the smartest, doesn’t have a quick wit, and isn’t the best communicator. That doesn’t make them bad people or deserving of scorn from their castmates. I know Alexis seems to try to one-up people in conversations (e.g., fellow castmate, “I bought a car yesterday.” Alexis, “We have three cars!”), but I just think that she’s trying to relate and build connections (not in a good way).
No doubt in my mind that Mr. Cohen and the producers can’t stand her and she’s definitely getting the bad edit. I can’t think of one real positive they’ve shown for her. They stuff that is positive is turned around to make her look stupid.
Sorry, I’m rambling.
You make sense to me MM. Is Alexis the brightest in the bunch? Not by a long shot, but that doesn’t make her a bad person. She’s very strong in her personal beliefs and that makes her a target. I agree that she may be getting the bad edit.
Tamra is just pure, mean trash. It’s sad because I’ve been a fan of hers since season 3. No longer.
They are all a bit fake. Maybe Alexis really does not have very many personal problems or her family has a system of dealing with them outside of the public eye. Also, I am just curious, what other jobs has Tamra had prior to HW? Seems like she has been pretty much a housewife. Well maybe part time real estate. Yes you take your Reality TV job seriously. You are ranking in close to a 1million a year with your per epiosod pay, endorsements, apperances, business ventures with “money making” Vicky (whom you are stabbing in the back, but that conflict may be fake to keep both of your million dollar Reality TV spots).
As far as I know, the only job Tamra ever had was as real estate agent and from experience I definitely know (here in CA anyway) they are some of the most pushy, dishonest, phony, fake, lying, money-hungry, completely ignorant people who make a ton of money for doing very little.
I left out LAZY, regarding CA real estate agents.
so upset with Tamra. She was really cruel
I think it takes guts and being “real” to invite someone to lunch to try to iron out your problems. It’s much easier and much “shallower” to avoid someone and talk about her behind her back.
Alexis is poorly educated, not dumb. When she learns something, it sticks. It’s a sad fact that some people are robbed of a decent education by poor, inadequate schools. She’s from Missouri, they are ranked 47th in the US for educational performance. Then I checked Hannibal, her school district. It’s 352nd in her state. Coming from a school ranked 352nd in a state that ranks 47th, she probably deserves congratulations for being able to speak in complete sentences.
It’s fun to make fun of her ignorance, such as her Costa Rica is in Mexico comment and some of the other uneducated things she says, but it’s an indictment of the educational system in this country that we allow there to be such disparity that simply by accident of birth a person is trapped in bad schools that handicap them for life.
I think Alexis went to college? Not that it means anything. I know plenty of idiots with college degrees.
(I worked with the public for over 30 yrs and you would be amazed at the amount of people who know little or nothing about the geography of the U.S., let alone the entire world.)
Although I do think you have a point about the educational opportunities available in our country.
I think that the main reason that everyone has it out for Alexis is first and foremost she is the prettiest. She seems to be very successful in her endeavors outside of the show. She and her husband appear to have a happy marriage–whatever their choices are, it works for them and they are together. It all boils down to old-fashioned jealousy.
I mean, she was a bit out of pocket. If she doesn’t care for her that was all that she had to say and leave.
Terry and his wife also seem a bit fake. They are the ones talking about how the live in “Billionaires Road” and yet, they are NOT billionaires. LOL! Heather was a waitress who fell into grace. Not some aristocrat chick from NY high society. On top, she’s from the sticks of Roschester no? Whatever, she is whack!
I thought the only reason Heather ever got any parts on any shows was that she came from a wealthy family and was connected. She claims to come from the same county that Bill and Hillary Clinton live in. Who knows if it’s the truth or not. She was on WWHL afterward and they showed her on a show called “Love Connection” (I think with Chuck Woolery) and she looked even uglier back 20yrs ago. Odd that someone so unattractive would pursue an acting career.
Does anyone else think her husband looks like repulsive Ron Jeremy?
What was up with Tamra’s face/mouth during this scene with Alexis? Not being catty, I am genuinely wondering. She was barely moving her mouth; I was wondering if she had botox or some other procedure right before.
Tamra ‘s a Bad Person.
I also think Alexis is funny in addition to being pretty and seemingly very likeable. When she said that she and Jim both prayed on whether or not she should get an acting coach and she “got a different answer than he did,” I thought it was hilarious. Her comments about Heather’s boasting are entertaining as well.
I find Tamra very nasty, boring and plastic looking especially with all the Botox around her mouth that made it look paralyzed. Even Dr.Oz on WWHL said of all the women on RHOC, SHE had the most obvious plastic surgery. Ha Ha, take that Tamra!! I don’t understand what the rush is to get married again either. (To compete with Gretchen?) You’d think she’d be a lot more cautious considering the fact that she’s already been married twice.
Tamra is right. I see right through Alexis as well. I don’t think that is who she really is though. I think there are underlying problems that is making her lash out at people….when someone claims to be a christian they should act like it all of the time, well at least on camera
I think Tamara lacks class. She has her tattoo cut off and now is asking for a ring. She shouldn’t get married. She needs to grow up first. I think she is the phony. You have to remember that Alexis husband was friends with her ex. Alexis is just simple. She is starting to grow and blossom. I wish her well.
I think Tamra is just trying to latch on to Gretchin because she is the most popular of the show. Does everyone forget the nasty things she said about Grethchin’s nude pics? Now she’ going after Alexis to create controversy. This show has the most shallow characters I’ve ever seen aside from the NY housewives. Tamra’s older than the hills and just won’t accept that. Her boyfriend is a sleaze. There is not one besides Vicki’s daughter that has any redeeming values. Really turned off by this cast and have stopped watching.
I’m not quite sure what Alexis was hoping to accomplish by inviting Tamra to discuss their relationship in the first place? And if she was serious about it then was it really necessary to do this with cameras rolling? IDK it just seems to me this was a setup – done to provoke Tamra into saying something bad about Alexis and thereby making Tamra look like the mean girl.
Not that Tamra can’t be a mean girl, because yeah, she definitely has that in her. But it just seems to me that Alexis had an agenda and that was to make her look like the better person, especially knowing how brutally honest Tamra usually is. I do like Tamra because she is very self-effacing and funny and I do think she cares about her friends, but, she definitely needs a filter sometimes.
I do think Alexis is a nice person but I think the problem is that she lacks confidence in herself, so in order to compensate she exaggerates everything — her marriage, her family, her wealth, her talent, etc., and goes into extreme defense mode when she perceives she’s being attacked or belittled. I think that’s her default personality when she’s around the other housewives so it definitely makes her look shallow and dishonest.
And I don’t think being married to a person like Jim (who I cannot stand) helps her case. I get that she loves him, but IMO, every step she takes to become her own person is met with Jim tightening the grip on the noose he keeps around her neck. But… it’s her choice to be with him and to put up with it so I just can’t muster up the energy to feel bad for her. Not even when Tamra is mean to her. Sorry, Alexis.
NEWSFLASH: being mean and ugly and saying anything that pops in your head without any sort of thought or concern for the feelings of others is not being “REAL”
Why do people think being obnoxious and mean is being ‘real’?
Tamra claims at this lunch and in the interview there is no love between her and Alexis, but yet in Costa Rica claims “Alexis we don’t like you for your money, we like you for you!” and tells Heather that it was an “intervention” to open her eyes.
Tamra was lying to the other women to make it look like she was doing this out of concern for her “friend” Alexis, instead of out of hate. Perfect of example, of how Tamra is mean, ugly, hateful, and FAKE, all in one!
Who died and made you the morality monitor Tamera? Part of being an adult is realizing the world dosn’t revolve around you! People don’t have to live according to our standards or expectations. Take the beam out of your own eye before you point out the splinter in someone elses. Good advice to live by ” do unto
others as you would have done unto you!
New Living Translation (©2007)
How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.