Tamra Apologizes To Alexis! Wants To Move On; Calls Out Vicki!
RHOC Tamra Barney took to her blog to reflect on the changes this season. Tamra says she’s happy with the way things turned out and says she doesn’t think she can ever be friends with Vicki again!
“Please let’s address the weave in the room. . .Austin Powers Fembot, Barbarella, Stepford Wife, Dolly Parton, bird’s nest, I have heard all the jokes. Hell, I had a great time on Twitter laughing at some of them! Okay I get it, it wasn’t my best hair day. I had a new hair person that put about 10 clip-in hair pieces and by the end of the day I had a headache from holding up that weave. Live and learn. . .right?
The Reunion is a time for all of use to reflect on the past season and to throw daggers at each other’s character. No, it is never nice and it is not exactly the most mature thing to do. . .But damn it’s entertaining! I thought everyone looked beautiful and definitely held their own. It was interesting to see everyone’s spot on the couch. Boy have things changed. I was very happy to be on that side of the couch with my true friends, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I break it down like this: The Reals vs. The Fakes. Now before you jump down my throat I am talking boobs people. . .or am I?
Friends have definitely changed this season, and I am happy to say I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. Gretchen has tuned out to the best friend any girl could ask for. We talk all the time and text almost every day. Heather is amazing in every sense of the word. I am lucky to have both of them in my life.
Now on to the other side of the couch. I would like to start off with Alexis. You have heard all of our arguments first hand, so I don’t fell that I really need to go there. What I would like to say is, I feel bad about the snarky comments I made all season to Alexis. I am a bit of a smart ass, and, let’s face it, she gives me good material. But the bottom line is Alexis is not a mean hearted person and it hurts me that my comments hurt her. However, we all signed up for this show that brings out the strongest part of our personalities for the others to judge. No one is being a bully because they are telling you what they think, this is what we ALL signed up for. Everybody has had a lot to say about everyone. No one is a innocent.
I’m sure it is hard for some of us to hear the negative things others have to say, but it is also a great time to take note and work on those things.
After the reunion show wrapped, I went up to Alexis gave her a hug and apologized for hurting her feelings. I told her that I would like to go lunch to see if we can clear up some of this nonsense between us. I even invited her to go out to dinner with the other girls that night, but she declined. I meant every word and still hope that one day we can be okay with each other.
Vicki on the other hand has taking things to a whole other level. I don’t ever think I can go back to being her friend. I sat there on that couch and watched her deflect every question that came her way. . .It’s always someone else’s fault in her eyes. She takes responsibility for nothing and finds someone else to blame. From her passive aggressive comments to her downright lies. Her comments about how I “turned” on her is a mystery to me. I have never turned on her for one second. I have been nothing but a good friend to her for five years. I sat there many times when she went off on my ex-husband and I sat there like a child and let them both fight over what was best for me. I never challenged her for getting in between my marriage and definitely NEVER screamed at her for the nasty things she said to Simon. . .like I should have.
I heard about Brooks from Vicki four years ago, she claimed he was a “good friend,” someone she talked about all the time and often visited in Mississippi. It wasn’t until last year that I met him. I thought he was charming and made Vicki happy. About six months into getting to know him, I noticed that something was off. I could not put my finger on it but something with this guy Brooks (or should I say David, his real name) just didn’t make sense. Her friends, family, and office staff started calling me with the same feelings. Then an overwhelming amount of emails where coming through my fan page from people that have had “bad dealings” with Brooks. So of course I was concerned, who wouldn’t be? The bottom line: friends don’t let friends date losers!”
I think it’s huge that Tamra apologized to Alexis! I also think Tamra has always tried to look out for Vicki and she’s just worried for her. Vicki isn’t okay with it but a lot of people are worried for Vicki. Tamra’s not the only one. Do you think Tamra could have handled the situation better?
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Tamra’s concerns for Vicki do seem valid, but if she weren’t such a nasty piece of work (I believe she used that phrase on another cast member at some point), perhaps she would be taken more seriously. Then again, Vicki has always put herself on a pedestal – even since Season 1 when Housewives was fun. She can do no wrong in her own eyes. Unfortunately, she may have to learn the hard way.
Ah yes, I remember! She used it on her new bestie, Gretchen!! Ha! Go figure.
How big of Tamra to apologize after completly abusing and harrassing her for a year.
EYE ROLL
To me this is the equivalent to a husband sending flowers to his wife after he gives her a black eye.
Lol!
You are so right. Tam has a pattern of mean girl behavior used precisely to exclude one housewife per season–by befriending her best friend. Lets look at the history, shall we?
Vicki and Jeanna: Tamara didn’t like being Vicki’s “other” friend, so she drove a wedge between Vicki and Jeanna; even though they were next door neighbors!
Gretchen and Alexis: Tamara spent 3 years loathing Gretchen and doing everything she could to smear her name and reputation. She went to places sworn enemies wouldn’t go–on national tv–just to hate on that girl. Gretchen and Alexis were thick as thieves; hell, Gretch brough Alexis on the show! BUT-after Tamara and Vicki called Alexis’s husband some terrible names (because he agreed with Simon about how a respectable wife should behave), and Alexis called her out on her nasty namecalling…she became public enemy #1. That meant that Tamara needed to hurt her where it would count–Alexis’s friendship with Gretchen.
**Gretchen, meanwhile, was so eager and hungry to have a friend in Tamara (what’s that syndrome when you begin loving your captor/abuser?) that she immediately forgave and forgot all of the horrendous things Tamara said about her and thew friendship bracelets and butt kisses like Mardi Gras beads!
Now, Tamara hates Vicki because she’s become #2 in Vicki’s life behind Deadbeat Brooks. True, the guy stinks. But, a real friend would realize that her girlfriend is in love and once she saw that she couldn’t disuade her from dating him–stick close to her girlfriend to protect her and have her back once the other shoe drops. After all, just because Vicki convinced Tamara to divorce Simon, it doesn’t mean that Tamara should have the power to pull the plug on Vicki’s relationship. I mean, Vicki is a legitimate business woman who think’s critically for a living. I think she knows what she’s got in Brooks–she’s just needy and having a little fun with his broke ass. She doesn’t need “sublimely happy and in love” Tamara telling her that what she has isn’t going to work and that she can’t have what Tam and Eddie have! (Vicki’s perspective) PLUS–Vicki hasn’t gotten laid in forever! She is enjoying Brooks…to the hilt!
Anywho–Tamara sees that Vicki befriends Alexis out of spite and necessity (hey, her bestie just ran off with the enemy–Gretchen) and come to think of it, maybe Vicki did the same thing by becoming friends with Alexis… to piss off Gretchen. Whatever, they all are trying to hurt one another by befriending the bestie of the person they hate the most. Get it?
Super Jr. High if you ask me.
Tamra why didn’t you apologize on tv? You have always been one of my favorites but bashing Alexis constantly is annoying.
I like Tamra. Always have. I liked her blog and the fact that she apologized. As much as I don’t care for Alexis, she deserved an apology. Tamra was a little too much, in my opinion, at times. I know she “tells it like it is,” but there is a thing called tact. I do think, though, if Akexis was truly a “Christian woman,” she would have accepted the apology then moved on. I guess she is just a heathen like the rest of us.
How do we know she didnt accept the apology?
She could’ve accepted the apology, but declined the dinner. I mean, wouldn’t you be wary of going to dinner with the same women who bashed you for months and just finished a several hour tirade against you? Good Christian or heathen, that’s just a smart move to say “no thanks, I’d rather pick up drive thru”
I guess I assumed she didn’t bc Tamra didn’t mention in her blog. Bit you are right- she totally could of.
Drive- thru sounds good…yum
Lol! I love it! Yes a heathen lIke all of us! My thoughts are she apologized because she was getting a lot of backlash about her behavior…sO she was trying to back peddle a bit so as to not seem so vicious!
I meant to start following you on twitter…but I can’t remember which post you put your handle. What is it again?
I totally agree why she apologized. Dudnt want to be Jill Zarin #2.
Telling it like it is usually doesn’t involve as much anger as Tamra has in her delivery! If she just didn’t get so MAD when she’s telling people what she thinks I don’t think it would be as mean. Some of the stuff she says is valid, but the way she tells people is very harsh. It is possible to tell someone you disagree with their behavior without beating them over the head with it…lol
Still, I hope that Tamra is sincere because if she is, I think I MIGHT grow to like her. I’ve had to apologize MANY times myself for saying something that, upon reflection, I wish I hadn’t said. However, if I had watched myself be as mean as Tamra can be for even ONE season, I’m pretty sure I would have changed my ways with apologies all around by the very next season! So Tamra’s “sudden epiphany” is a little suspect, but….I’m hoping for the best lol
I think she was sincere. Some people get angry, explode, insult you, etc.. then feel bad afterward- Tamra is not the only human to behave that way. I agree with her blog- no bullying- everyone signed up for this. I think its growth for them on a tv show when they can feel and show remorse after hurting each other. Lets not forget, Alexis was never an angel to Tamra either!!
Have you seen what Good Christian Tamara tried to get trending last night on her way to the hamptons? Check her twitter timeline!
So his real name is David? That’s a big red flag. I feel it’s none of anyone’s business if Vicki likes being conned. A con for a con.
This is what I hope happens for next season.Gretchen should be fired for using the show to falsely advertised products. They bring on a new girl who will play neutral, and hopfully tamra will realize the. Reason she hates alexis so much is cause she reminds her of herself ten years ago.
So here’s my take…. Part of me feels Tamra may have had ulterior motives for the apology. #1. As w/ her fight w/ Gretchen, the viewers were starting to get upset and people were starting to even support Alexis and feel sorry for her when before this they never liked her! So she decided to clean up the mess as she did w/ Gretchen before she ends up like Jill Zarin! So in an attempt to secure her position next season she made another PR clean up! Or #2. She may have did this to piss Vicky off by making her the target and odd one out! She said she could never be friends again w/ her former “soul sister” & “BFF”!! But your going to try to move forward w/ someone you acted like you’d never be able to stand? Or we have #3. Where she accomplished both! However I’m hoping this was a sincere apology from Tamra! If this was my opinion has changed. This would be a huge change for the positive if she’s genuine about this! I’m crossing my fingers it is! But only time will tell!
Sr3 my handle is jlbryan38! And LJ I am 100 percent in agreement with your full post! Here’s what I don’t understand, all three of them on different occasions have said oh after the reunion I went up and hugged Alexis and wanted to start fresh with her but how do you start fresh with people after they have just bashed you repeatedly for several hours straight? I would be too raw and hurt at that point to accept any apologies. They all laid into her, especially Tamara and Heather. But I definitely think camera saw the backlash coming and she did not want to be another Jill Zarin and she is trying to do damage control. And you are right I also think she’s trying to get everyone to gang up on Vicky next year.
I say let Alexis and Vicky go!!
Bring on Heather’s friends (the ones that take their Jet out, because traffic sucks) and have them attack Tamra!
I hate to admit that I am this catty–but, I would LOVE to see someone put Tamra in her place. (OMG, I can feel the nasty judgment coming out of my fingertips…) Tamra’s pure trash and she needs to be stomped like a grape! She thinks she is above reproach and uses her vicious tongue like a dagger–so she can get her contract renewed for the next season and it works because the execs at Bravo (Andy included) love bitchiness (because advertisers know we’ll watch it) and she has no regard for the casualties in her wake. These women have parents and families who love and respect them; but she doesn’t have a shred of decency in her trashy being to know that you just don’t speak to someone’s daughter (or son) and mother like that! There’s a way to disagree disagreeably. But, I guess that’s not profitable, huh? She even looks like pure evil when she’s being nasty! I’m convinced that she’s plenty fine with herself. The nerve of this strumpet telling Alexis to take an inward look at herself and try to change. Heather looks like one of the “devilish” people from that Keanu Reeves/Al Pacino movie. I can’t tell if she looks more elfish or devilish. Thoughts?
Oh, God–please forgive me for my wicked ways. Amen.
Tamra is a real piece of work. She call Alexis “Jesus jugs” and “psychotic” so she can get some more camera time, than says she is sorry after the cameras are turned off, I would have probably punched her in the face. What goes around comes around you loud mouth bitch. Did any of you see Vicki’s re-tweet about Eddie being disbarred? It said his real last name is Torres.
I saw that… Was pretty brazen of Vicky to re-tweet that tweet. Makes me wonder if it’s true and she wants that out there but she doesn’t want to be the one that blatantly says it. But a re-tweet she might as well of said it. Or she is willing to do anything to deflect attention off of Brooks. Including letting people believe that Eddie was disbarred for robbery.
Retweet or no Retweet it would be public knowledge if he is disbarred! It will eventually come out so who cares who tweeted it! Vicki and tamara are no longer friends so it’s a free for all with those two especially after watching the reunion. Not one of them can throw stones because they all have issues.
Yeah I didn’t like the Jesus Jugs comment from her.. she just said it to get the sound bite. She is plain nosy, in some regards and I think Tamra does have a hard time being a true friend. For her it seems political.
Sick of the Gretchen and Slade storyline, Heather is kinda interesting but she is a real scene stealer and her husband is worse than she is. You can tell they wanted screen time and there fore got themselves involved in every body’s storyline this year. She does come across as pretentious, but she is comical “she ate the bow”. I bet I saw that commercial 100 times… she looks like she has a stick up the “you know what” LOL
The bottom line these women are not each others friends! In the real world i dont treat my friends like this and they dont treat me like that.
I don’t think Eddie is an attorney. Doesn’t he “work” for his father?? family?? law office. I don’t think he has a license to practice law. I think when he was first introduced Tamra said that he worked for a law office, just implying that he was an attorney.
what a condescending, arrogant bitch. she really wants to say she never turned on vicki?!! is she kidding? the whole world saw her turn on her best friend and all shes doing on this blog is turning on her again and bashing her. i wish i can be on the show so i can smack some sense into her. she has no morals, no compassion, no soul and no loyalty. what a fake ass dimwit to say she was on the real side of the couch and vicki was on the fake side and that she was sitting with her real friends. really??! vicki was there for years and cried and laughed along with her through good and bads times and she has the nerve to say she wasn’t a real friend?!! no wonder vicki says she turned on her.
tamra is insane and she’s doing exactly what she’s accusing vicki of doing. tamra is deflecting, lying, and trying to blame vicki for everything. she has some nerve to say vicki was in between her and simons marriage. as i recall simon and tamra already had problems before vicki and tamra was the one always running to her to talk about simon. she didn’t tell vicki to butt out because she loved it when they argued. she got off on it. she didn’t like simon anyways so i don’t know why she’s trying to act like it bothered her now. just like she said nobody is innocent. she’s just as much as a fake, liar, and hypocrite as anyone.
just my opinion but…I never thought Vicki was a true friend to Tamra because she didn’t accept her as she was. Vicki spent a lot of time correcting Tamra, or reminding her how she “should” feel. At least with Gretchen, Tamra can be herself without feeling “less than”. I think that Tamra realized what a hypocrite Vicki is when she got a good look at her from the distance that Vicki put between them when Brooks entered the picture
Camm, I agree with this comment!
Vicki definitely got into Tamra’s marriage with Simon.
i don’t see it that way obviously. i remember past episodes and vicki was a true friend through good and hard times. i even remember people warning vicki about tamra and she wouldn’t listen. she did accept tamra for who she was and put up with her nonsense. tamra is a little more carefree than vicki but that was what was fun about their friendship. tamra loved shocking vicki and making her feel uncomfortable and vicki accepted it. if she didn’t she would’ve dumped tamra as a friend a long time ago. tamra put a difference between them when she decided to befriend her enemy and throw it in her face.
rukidding- I definitely think they both had icky moments, and disagreements as no relationship is ever perfect! Yes, Tamra nd Simon already had some issues but it is never ever the place of a friend to insert themselves the way Vicki did. You should never expect a friend to go against their spouse, and Vicki did that to Tamra! Instead of being a listener and just supportive, she gave Tamra ultimatums! She made things worse at times for Tamra with Simon, and friends should never do that, sorry.Tamra was a good friend to Vicki also, it was not a one way street. Its too easy for Vicki to say that now because of Brooks Crooks. At their ages, the blame game should not be played. If yo u look back at through all seasons, Vicki as a friend is very demanding , like a child for attention She is only comfortable with one friend at a time. She dissed Jeanna herself to be in the group! When Vicki is hurt, she turns the tables and says things like she is now! Whats sad to me is that Vicki not only treated friends wrong, but she treated her own daughter the way she did her best friend.
michers,, agree re: you comments with Vicki
isn’t tamra supposed to be the most honest person in the show and “tell it like it is
“.? i think if she had a problem with vicki giving her thoughts on simon then i think tamra would’ve said something. she doesn’t have a problem telling jeanna, simon, gretchen, slade, alexis how she feels. so why she is acting like vicki was the problem? i don’t think so. she and simon are adults and they were unhappy with each other and it wasn’t anyone’s fault but their own. as i recall simon was the one giving tamra ultimatums. he felt threatened by vicki and was trying to make tamra choose. tamra was a good friend to vicki as well. that is why her attitude is pissing me off. they were close friends when everyone was against them and they were they for each other through their bad marriages and divorce and now she wants to be a two faced, backstabbing, vicious, evil witch to the one person that had her back?? in my book that is unforgivable and shady as hell.
as for brianna she isn’t innocent and i don’t agree with her throwing her own mother under the bus. she has a problem with brooks fine but the way she voiced her concerns and throwing things in her mothers face isn’t right. i do agree that vicki trying to do it back to her and telling her to (bring it) wasn’t right either. she felt defensive and felt she had to go there but she felt quitly right away and was telling her daughter she loves her inspite of everything. i don’t think i’ve heard brianna say i love you back. if brianna wants to get into an adult argument with her mom then she needs to accept the consequences.
I read somewhere ( cant remember where,sorry) that it’s not the same Eddie that was disbarred. The Eddie that lost his law licence is 51 years old. Vicki apparently didn’t know that and just RTed it to be vindictive, not that I really blame her after being treated by Tamra like crap. Does that mean Eddie can sue Vicki now? Talk about irony.
Ha! O Vicki, trying to be a researcher of gossip having it backfire- how fitting for her.
I read that it’s not the same Eddie who got disbarred.
Tamra is obsessed with fake boobs ever since she got her implants (which she had for nearly 20 years in assorted sizes) removed. She can’t stop fixating on Alexis’ rack now. Maybe she is regretting her surgery.
I just love Tamra. She calls it like she sees it. She knows she’s not perfect and she completely owns her mistakes. She’s a genuine person and is never fake. She knows who she is and she isn’t afraid to show it! I want her and Vicki to be friends but I really can’t blame Tamra for not wanting to. It’s very sad what has happened to Vicki because of Brooks; and it’s sadder Vicki can’t even see it.
Wow, it’s amazing to hear Tamra saying she and Gretchen are such great friends, and that Heather is so wonderful. What Tamra is really saying is, I now love Gretchen because she now berates Alexis just as much as I do; therefore, we are besties now and forever. And Tamra can’t say enough about Heather, the rich girl and former actress who’s married to a doctor and has a wonderful house and family. Just think, I Tamra persuaded Heather to berate and hate Alexis almost as much as I do. She now has so much love and admiration for Heather whom she hardly knows, but who cares, as long as she hates Alexis. And to top it all off, I’m in love with the great Eddie. I hope he’s still around, when you can no longer hide the wrinkles.
Alexis has exaggerated a few things that are of no importance, and yes she gives her husband too much authority over her. But really, is that enough to pounce on her day after day, and turn all of the free world against her. She’s 10% off center, but 90% kind in heart. I’d rather have those stats, than 100% nasty and mean-spirited like you, Tamra!
You can be revelant, and not be mean – it’s called acting.
Tamra your a nasty two faced using person!! Your the one who causes all the trouble and wants to be in on all the gossip and ruin everything!! You make Vicki out to be the bad one but all she does is defend herself because that’s the position you put her in!! Why do you think you get so many negative comments we can’t all be wrong can we?? And as for Alexis you bullied her and you get a kick out I being nasty to her because your jealous of her she’s a thousand times the person you’ll ever be!! You don’t even know what a friend is!!