RHONJ star Melissa Gorga dedicated her blog to none other than her sister-in-law Teresa Giudice. Melissa explains that she wants Teresa to respect her marriage and thinks that nothing has changed with her. Melissa mocks Teresa throughout the blog and clearly doesn’t want to move on.
“So let’s get onto the episode. Ugh, I didn’t like watching this week. It was really hard to go back to that place. It puts a knot in my stomach that I can’t explain. As you can see I truly was pushed to my limit and the filter came off. I was trying to put the issues between Teresa and I behind us, as I thought we both agreed to do, but I started to realize and now can definitely say after watching these past few episodes and reading her blogs that’s not at all what Teresa was trying to do.
I’m not going to deny what Teresa said to my husband bothered me, but on the night of the solstice party I had no intention to talk about anything negative. As soon as I got there I sat right at Teresa’s table and talked to her normally and wanted to again just have a good night. Obviously that isn’t what happened as I was summoned to Teresa not once but TWICE that night!
When I first went to talk to her, I thought it was going to be about what she said to her brother, but immediately when we started talking she brought up Joe Giudice “going away” and her brother not being there. She brought it up, she asked me to talk to her about it, and I simply was answering her question and used a word she didn’t like. And here came the storm! Once again, I’m left there hanging because Super T decided she didn’t want to talk about a “legal subject” that she brought up in the first place and has spoken about publicly many times in the tabloids. OK, I get it, don’t use that word!
Back to the party I go trying to enjoy the rest of the night, only to be beckoned once again because Teresa wanted to talk about a different subject now according to Jacqueline. At this point I’m more than annoyed. It’s time to throw off the Louboutins and just get everything off my chest with her so we can just move on already. (Note to all my girlfriends, please don’t to attempt to push me this many times and think I will constantly forgive you. Please don’t think I’m a doormat. Teresa is family, therefore she gets many chances.) With that said, I don’t think I need to recap the whole argument, as you can take what you want to take away from it, but after watching this episode and what has transpired over the last few weeks, there are a couple points I want to make clear.
First, where did these rumors about my marriage with Joe start? That’s the million dollar question. When Teresa was hearing these so-called rumors the show had just started airing and I hadn’t even had a performance yet. What’s interesting is she didn’t bring up the fact that it had anything to do with my music until she was continually questioned about her reason for telling Joey these “rumors” in the first place. People weren’t buying her good, supportive sister act.
When Joey confronted her, she tries to put it on him and say that he tells her rumors about Joe, which is not true. My husband did not intentionally tell Teresa about her husband cheating. Those rumors have been around for years and in the same tabloids she gives interviews to and poses with her children. She even brings it up on camera with her husband in the first episode. Joe and I don’t say anything to Teresa about it, nor do we bring it up on camera or in the press. Teresa even explains that she read her husband’s text messages and that her brother Joey was upset that she saw them, because that’s not what he intended. But again, when Teresa gets called out, she spins it perfectly by saying tell your husband not to tell me about my husband cheating. Which is it Teresa, did your brother tell you about Joe cheating or did you read Joe’s text messages? I guess this is her way of justifying “these so called rumors.”
Here are some more ways. When she told Jacqueline at her house the night of the boat party and Jacqueline asked why she thinks that, she replied, “She just strikes me as that kind of person.” On the way to the solstice party she tells Kim D that “she hears things from people and wanted to open her brother’s eyes.” She told me that she heard from people saying that it was because I was going to start performing in the nightclubs.
I feel like Teresa is constantly looking for any reason she can to say I’m a bad wife. When she realizes no one is buying these “rumors,” she brings up a dinner we went to with Kathy, Richie, Teresa, Joe, me, and Joey for my 29th birthday. In last week’s blog she says it was when Joey and I were dating, but this dinner happened when I already had Antonia and Gino. During the dinner we were all teasing our men and joking around at the table. Teresa was teasing her husband about how she will always buy everything she wants, my husband starting teasing me saying you married me for (this) pointing to Tarzan! I said to him in front of everyone, (laughing), “Yeah right, I saw that house baby doll.” We were all playing as friends and family laughing and drinking. Even Kathy said that we were just playing around when Teresa tried to get her to back her up at the reunion. Is that all she’s got on me?
I honestly can’t help but feel that she is projecting the issues in her life onto mine. After watching this episode, I think it’s extremely obvious what my sister-in-law is trying to do. The question is why would she do it? Does she think that if my marriage goes badly hers will get better? Does she think that if she puts the negative attention on me then it will not be on her? I’m not sure, but one thing I do know is that it is sad and it’s a shame. I try to be pretty easy in a lot of my blogs and tip toe around Teresa, but this time she is playing with fire. I am woman who loves my husband more than anything in this world. I will bend over backwards for him and my children. She knows that and I think at times she wishes she had more on me. How about just being happy that your brother is happy? You can throw dirt in my face a couple times and I will take it, but DON’T, mess with my family, DON’T mess with my children’s lives, and DON’T mess with my marriage. That is where I will NEVER back down.
To this day, Teresa is still trying to justify the rumors and still blames this whole situation on her brother Joey for not keeping their conversation private, but she honestly doesn’t understand that you don’t say something like that to a man about his wife and expect him to just live with it and keep it to himself. A marriage is a partnership and my husband and I tell each other everything, just like Teresa tells her husband everything. How does this blood is thicker than water notion apply to a husband and wife? We have three beautiful children together and are a family. It’s called respect, and I’m not sure Teresa ever will understand that she doesn’t have to like me, but she has to respect my marriage to her brother and keep her “rumors” to herself.
For the record, Joey comes to all of my appearances, not because he’s insecure like his sister says, it’s because we enjoy spending time together and having fun together. Again, that’s what a partnership is. Teresa knows this, but still wants to insinuate to her brother and her friends that I would leave him for a richer man. Even after the paid tabloid apology for not supporting my music career, which I had to go to Shoprite to read, she is still trying to rationalize what she said in her blogs. Teresa obviously hasn’t learned her lesson because in last week’s blog she continues to talk about the rumors she hears about my marriage. Nothing has changed with her, she is just better at getting others to do and say what she can’t so she looks innocent. That might answer your question as to why we still aren’t speaking. She won’t let up and I don’t know how she can look at herself in the mirror at this point. This is her baby brother’s marriage. All I can do is pray for her, and when she is ready to let up, I will talk to her about it then without an audience.
In the meantime, we’ll keep sending our nieces presents, because we love them, and they can continue to throw them out.
And for those of you asking about how our relationship with Joe’s parents is going, let me give you the real answer instead what the ridiculous “sources” are saying on the blogs. Our relationship is great! We see them at least once a week for dinner at our house. I cook with my father-in-law, and Gino helps since he wants to be a cook now. Joe and his dad play cards for hours while my mother-in-law and I play with the kids. We don’t discuss Teresa or the show, we just choose to enjoy each other’s company, let the kids enjoy spending time with their grandparents, and have a nice meal together. And that’s that truth.”
I’ve stated this several times. I think Teresa shouldn’t have said anything about Melissa leaving Joe for a richer man. I think it was stupid and believe Teresa realizes she should have just kept her mouth shut! Husbands tell their wives things, but they don’t wait for the camera crew to get to their house, set up, and publicly let the world know what their sister-in-law told them. Teresa stated she told Joe this in confidence 3 months in advance without the cameras. It’s as if Melissa and Joe planned to bring this up, make this an issue, and make Teresa look terrible. Wait, why am I saying “as if?” It’s clear they planned to do that! It’s clear Melissa knew about it all along and it’s sad that Joe Gorga would even put it out there and want the world to even believe that “people” are saying that about Melissa. On WWHL Joe Gorga stated that Melissa and their relationship with Teresa was “so much worse” before they got on the show. I totally doubt that. Melissa was jealous of Teresa so she probably gave her the cold shoulder. Both Melissa and Joe were invited to any events Teresa had for season 1 and 2 of RHONJ. Why would they be invited if it was “so bad” with them? Most importantly why would you join a show and go behind your families back when your relationship is apparently already so bad? What were Mel and Joe’s intentions? Clearly they knew by being on the show things would get worse but they didn’t care. They are happy to ruin their family and embarrass themselves. I find Joe Gorga to be disgusting. He is so desperate to be a housewife that he’s the only one constantly doing interviews on the show. Hello. It’s called ‘The Real Housewives.’ Not ‘The Real Housewives And Joe Gorga.’ So over them playing the victim and not taking responsibility. If Melissa truly wanted to make things better her tone would be a lot different in this specific blog. Thoughts?