Gretchen Rossi Explains Why Vicki Is A Hypocrite And Talks Her Friendship With Alexis!
RHOC star Gretchen Rossi took to her Bravo blog to explain a few things. Gretchen thinks Vicki is a big hypocrite while she doesn’t get why her friendship with Alexis is being questioned. She also discusses bowling night!
Gretchen Rossi:
So grateful Briana does not have cancer! It’s one of the worst things as a parent to learn about your child. God knows Slade knows that all too well. Unfortunately seeing this footage reminds me all too well what a hypocrite Vicki is — again. She was so quick to judge me and say, “Why am I choosing to be on a show when I have someone that is sick in my life?” Yet, once again, when the tables are turned it’s OK for her. I just don’t get her consistent hypocrisy. Even more so, I just don’t get how she can never see it herself. I would never wish what Slade and I have been dealt on any one. However as a human, I do find it difficult in these moments to find empathy for people like Vicki who have been so mean and vile to me when I was going through the worst time in my life when I was losing Jeff. She always expects everyone to stop and feel bad for her, but she has never once shown empathy towards Slade or my situations, only judgment and false accusations. However my parents taught me differently, so I will not treat her the way she treated me back then.
I think taking a helicopter to L.A. was fabulous and very “Fancy Pants” of Heather! She did not let me down! I think it’s great that Heather wants to start a business with her friends, but I also know from experience that it can be very challenging. It can sometimes ruin friendships, so you have to weigh If that is worth it. I do however hate how Vicki is always so quick to put down everyone’s ideas and never is empowering to other women. Why is that? She has talked poorly about so many of our business ventures; for instance mine, Lynn, Alexis, Jeana (as a realtor), and now Heather. I just find that so discouraging. I believe in lifting woman up and empowering them. You can educate and give advice without being demeaning. Vicki saying “these women just want a place to hang out so they can spend their husband’s money” was not nice and unnecessary.
Obviously plastic surgery is very serious and not something to take lightly, because as you can see from Alexis’ surgery there are a lot of negative side effects and pain. I am sooo glad I never decided to get my nose done, sinus issues or not. It just does not look fun! I sincerely did not think Alexis needed to get her nose done. I think she looked beautiful before and the bump gave her some personality. I even thought I had convinced her not to do it last summer!
Now for the record and for all those who keep wondering why I didn’t come see Alexis right away, it’s because when I called I was told she was not up for it yet! I am a little bothered that, even after Alexis and I discussed this issue, she continues to act like she is all butt-hurt about it. It makes me wonder why she is playing that card, when it we have already discussed exactly what happened those first few days. This continues to be a reoccurring theme with her this season and the reason for some issues between us. So here is exactly how it went down: Alexis went into surgery Monday, and she did not want company that day, as I had asked her before her surgery if she would be up for it and she said probably not until a couple days afterwards. Then I called the day after her surgery (Tuesday) and spoke with Jim because she wasn’t doing well. I asked if I could come over, and he said she was not up to it yet. Then Wednesday I already had prior work appointments all day (because I wasn’t just sitting around waiting to get a phone call as to when I could come over to see her). So finally on Thursday is when I was “allowed” and when my schedule allowed me to come over.
I am not sure why the hell I even have to explain this one, but I guess I do because I am annoyed that I keep getting challenged as to if I am a good enough friend or not do to this. Last time I checked, I didn’t see anyone else show up to visit either Tamra or Alexis after their surgeries (bearing gifts mind you). Remind me, how is that being a bad friend again? And even more so, does it matter what day it is? Shouldn’t it be the thought and effort that counts? Since when does your level of friendship get judged on this kind of scale? I feel like this kind of behavior and cattiness is very childish and high school drama like. As you will see, I just don’t want friends like that anymore in my life. A true friend would just know where my heart is. If they constantly challenge it, after a while you get over it. I have very close girlfriends from high school and college who I’m lucky if I see once every six months, and the quality of our friendship has never wavered, nor have they ever challenged that friendship.
Heather saying it’s never good for a friendship to talk about one’s mate seems absolutely true! However how does one let a friend know if they have concerns about the person they are dating without hurting their feelings? What responsibility do we have as friends to point out some red flags? I have loving wonderful friends that have done that for me in the past, and I am grateful they did. I think it’s all in the delivery.
When I see Brooks eating with Vicki it made me extremely weary watching him ask Vicki about all her assets and what she is walking away with. Something just seemed off to me about that. Again, was it in the delivery? I really like Brooks and he has been nothing but sweet to me, but I have to agree with Tamra that something is just a little too perfect with everything he says and does. I’ve had those kinds of people come in my life when I was the most vulnerable, and it is scary how someone can take advantage of you when you are in a weak place. It concerned me with Brooks and later on this season you will see me address my concerns face-to-face. . .
Speaking of Brooks and Vicki I would not be human if I didn’t point out how unbelievable it was to me that Vicki said “Brooks is a consultant and can make his own hours.” Isn’t that exactly how I explained what Slade’s job was? Once again how is it OK when it’s Brooks but, when it’s Slade he is a dead-beat and needs to get a job? And for the record Slade does have a flipping job for the nine hundred millionth time! So please ladies stop making false statements about that. For goodness sakes, I guess we have to show them his paystubs every month for them to believe it!
Alexis doing her segment for Fox Five as super hard to watch. Yikes! I was actually a little uncomfortable for her and wanted her to be doing better, but I also know how nerve-racking it can be to do anything new. I actually came over and watched some of the segment with her and gave her the advice to go to a hosting coach to help craft that skill better. Live TV is hard no matter what way you slice it! You have to give her kudos for just going for it! However leave it to Alexis to make me laugh out loud when she said she “I’m using both brains.” I didn’t even know we had two brains.
Now we get to my singing segment. Quite honestly for as bad as my vocals were I don’t think I sounded that horrible. I know, I know you all are going to tell me how much I sucked and that I shouldn’t quite me day job, but I don’t care. Quite frankly it took guts to even allow cameras to film this whole process and the trials and tribulations I went through for this performance.
Look, I know I am not a trained singer, nor do I claim to be Christina Aguilera. I simply was offered a great opportunity and I went for it, and that is a lot more than most can say! I could of chickened out and walked away knowing I would get ridiculed by some and that you would see my worst most vulnerable moments, but I choose to stick it out and allow you to see the good, bad, and the ugly.
Now to the bowling party! Oh boy! Many of you have sent me a lot of sweet messages about this and said I handled myself with class and grace and I truly appreciate that because that was a very difficult night for me. I was so torn between being there for my friend and also knowing that she was not letting it go when she needed to. Vicki saying that I sent Sarah over to her is ridiculous and just goes to show that Vicki always thinks the worst of me. I love Sarah and I know she meant well. She was having a hard day and probably shouldn’t have come that night. I seriously have never seen her like she was that night. That was not my normal friend. I was disappointed in the way it all went down, and no matter what I did I felt like I could not win in that situation.
Ultimately, I am just relieved I took the high road, stayed calm, and did not allow any of it to escalate. I had to focus on what my priorities were (my performance) and I could not let another petty fight like that cause me more grief.
The part that is most mind-boggling to me in the entire scene is when Slade is the only one that comes over to help Vicki up after she fell. Finally you get to see a glimpse of the real Slade! He is always like this with woman from what I have experienced in the three years of being with him. The only time I have ever seen him be different than that towards a woman is when these women attacked him over and over again claiming horrible things about who he is as a father. That would push any man who adores his children over the edge. There is only so much one is expected to take. You can’t keep dishing it out and be surprised when it comes back at you.
Slade is an extremely courteous man and always has been with every single woman in my immediate life. All my very close friends adore him and constantly rave to me how lucky I am to have such a great guy. My mom and my grandma adore him as well, so how bad can he actually be if all the people in my life say he is a keeper? These women seem to be the only women that have something bad to say about him — not to mention that I get a lot of people questioning me. But what I find so funny about it is that they always preface it with “you are such a smart intelligent woman.” If you really believe that then you know I wouldn’t be with a man unless he treated me right and was good to me. Finances are not the key to happiness. Being in love with your best friend and having a partner that supports, adores, and loves you like you have never been loved before is what is most important. I appreciate that you guys think you know what is best for me, but you actually don’t and you certainly don’t get to see the full story in the short five minutes you see of Slade every week. So please stop trying to convince me that he is not right for me, because it will not work and you are wasting your breath! It’s been three years and it hasn’t worked yet. If you haven’t noticed I am deathly loyal and will have someone’s back to the death if they deserve it.
Wow! That was a lot of Gretchen! I do feel bad that Gretchen has to constantly stick up for Slade but I think she should just love him and forget about what everyone else has to say instead of continually saying how great he is. Gretchen clearly still doesn’t like Vicki. She used almost every paragraph to explain why Vicki is a hypocrite. I don’t see Gretchen and Alexis relationship lasting. I feel like Gretchen needed Alexis last season but now she doesn’t so she could careless what Alexis thinks. Thoughts on what Gretchen had to say? Do you agree with her? Do you think Vicki is a hypocrite?
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Gretchen’s a Turncoat.
I do agree VIcky is a hypocrat, well done to gretchen for speaking up for herself in front of VIcky and in her blog, just explaining her thoughts, but then you gt to hand it to her, I would have laughed and beamed with happiness in her shoes…… She is way too nice to VIcky, and if t was the other way around, lmg, hell will freeze.
VIcky is a mean girl….she can dish it, but she can’t take it, and we have seen ha throughout all the seasons. She deserves brooks
I feel for Alexis as. Believe gretchen was nt a good friend. Alexis was a lot more supporting of gretchen all the time, and gretchen was a bit bitchy, like look at me, they asked me first, does it matter? She said no, right, so let go….or maybe she regretted saying no and was envious of her friends success. Either way, she did not handle the situation very well. But then watch further on, and you can see how bitchy gretchen is, even during the reunion when she just pulled the emails. Who does that???? To a friend?
I feel for gretchen having to defend Slade all the time, but then again she knew what she is getting herself into when she started dating him, although compared to her previous bf jay photoglou, Slade is actually a great guy, at least he supports her, and he does have great business ideas. If se were to be paying him, then maybe he would be able to get out of his financial troubles sometimes.
Although from what I have read on the Internet gretchen is likely to have some financial issues herself, with the court case against her sex, paying out 24k, and likely to pay more. Then I can understand why she refers Tamra as her friend coz she would rather have her close by than testifying against her. I’m sure gretchen knows that Alexis will not swoop so low to expose her dirty secrets, not anywhere near what Tamra can do, or has done in the past, after Ll it was Tamra who outed gretchen about jay and caused the whole court battle issue.
Gretchen apologise to Alexis, you were not a good friend
Geeze … if Gretchen every manages to do a blog w/ less then 3 paragraphs , I would faint from shock. What a wind bag.
No thoughts on this one.
She’s pretty much right on all counts. Gotta give it to Gretchen.
the more I see of Gretchen, the more I like her. Vicki is a huge hypocrite and very self centered, and feels fine about being that way. At least Gretchen is open to someone else’s view, and is trying to be a nicer person this season
Great Blog !! And she is 100 % right about everything . I hope at the reunion Vicki is ripped to shred’s for her hypocricy
Gretchen is hideous. Why does she concentrate so much on Vicki? Tamra did WAY more shittalking than Vicky. And I wish she’d stop acting like she’s a parent just because she’s dated people who have kids. STFU you aren’t a parent until you are one and she ain’t. Plus, she’s never cleared up all the BS that happened when she dated Jeff. Seeing her ex and hanging out with him at their family cabin while she’s dating a cancer victim? I mean, she can’t even handle Slade having a belly but she’s dating a senior citizen? The girl is shady, period. Tamra and Vicky didn’t start those rumors about her, or about Slade. She really needs to keep quiet because the more she talks shit and defends herself and Slade the worse she looks. Really, she wanted Vicky to have sympathy for her because her elderly boyfriend was dying? Come on. She’s the biggest bullshit artist of them all. Every scene with her and slade just happen to be about her career or them getting engaged — so fake. I think Slade is only using her – who would date her – look at that face. Sorry, I know that’s mean. But damn, really? Look at it.
I COMPLETELY agree with you. I think Gretchen is an opportunist and hangs on to Slade because he’s friends with Scott Dunlop the show’s producer/creator. Notice how in the opening, SHE’S in the middle now of all of the housewives? That’s why Tamra is trying to bury the hatchet too, so she can stay on the show. I think it’s a bunch of b.s. for her to drag up the stuff about Jeff and how she was so “devastated to lose him” when the whole time she was screwing that Jay Photoglou guy on the side. No wonder the other housewives didn’t show her any sympathy. It was a completely fake relationship. If Gretchen and Slade are so madly in love, and her family loves him so much, then why don’t they get married and start having kids that she supposedly wants? I personally think that her parents know that he’s broke and lazy and since they have a lot of money, they don’t want anything to do with him.
Vicky IS a hypocrite and I always thought she acted holier than thou by criticizing every other person, women and men alike. I agree that people should leave Gretchen alone about Slade, if he IS garbage she will see it in her own time, not because someone SAYS it. If he is everything she says he is then she will be a happy woman with him for a long time.
Alexis is a very high maintenance friend and I don’t think Gretchen needs that in her life, who does! Let her go on her way with her phony, demanding and delusional self.
And about her and Alexis’ friendship – there’s a reason why Alexis feels abandoned by her. Tamra. Tamra wants to be friends now and it’s pretty obvious that Gretchen was only friends with “Lex” by default. Now she feels like she’s in the cool girls club and is doesn’t need to force her friendship w/Alexis anymore. I know Alexis doesn’t appear to be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I think she’s actually kind-hearted. She has insecurities and jealousy problems but I don’t think she has the “mean gene”. Gretchen is wretched. I can’t wait until Slade gets his finances together again and dumps her ass, lol.
Anyway, my two cents.
all of these womens are pointless..
ITA with you. I never watch this show…plus the fact that I can’t stand Vicki
Totally agree about everything, especially the part where Vicky and Brooks were out to dinner … the things he was saying would totally turn me off and I’d run out the door as fast as I could! Then when Vicky said “I want that boat!” Brooks responded saying weren’t you looking to buy a boat before? So he obviously watched that episode a couple years ago when she wanted to buy a yacht which is scary to me that he would even mention that.
Giving her four “affirmation” cards a day?.. Who has time to shop for greeting cards all day? Of course Vicky loves all the attention and he fills up all her tanks *gags*
Can;’t wait to see the episode when Gretchen confronts Brooks .. should be interesting!
I can see where people could be turned off by Vicki, but I have a lot of sympathy for her because I went through the same thing when I got divorced over 20yrs ago. You wouldn’t believe the gold digging men that come out of the woodwork when they see a woman who is vunerable like that and try to get their hands on her money. First was a piece of shit co-worker (much like Brooks) who tried to take advantage of me, then a real estate agent that pretended to be interested in me so I would buy a house through him and he’d make a commission. I guess the good thing about this show is that women can see firsthand what kind of people are out there lurking in the shadows and waiting to rip them off, if they are too trusting.
As far as Vicki goes I agree with G 1000%! Vicki is a self centered B that will get taken for all she is worth just because she needs that damn “love tank” filled up. Puleezzzzeee I would’ve RAN for the door when the $ questions started. He has more than likely done his research and knows she is all about money and he clearly needs it, he is playing her like a violin. I kind of think it’s Karma for the way she treated poor Donn.
Gretchen needs to allow Slade to handle his own battles with these ladies & she step away from them….. Afterall, Slade signed up to appear on this show just as the others did & as we all know when you put your self on a reality show, you’re personal life is out there for dissecting as well…… It’s unfortunate, but true for goes with the territory……..
it’s truly scary how otherwise smart women can be SO STUPID when it comes to men! Does Vicki not realize that she has been on tv for the past 5 years whining about that love tank of hers and giving a blueprint for what she wanted in a man? Doesn’t she see that Brooks is PLAYING HER like a violin? Four cards A DAY Vicki?? And she has the nerve to call out Slade? If she wasn’t being so arrogant about the whole thing I’d feel sorry for her
I cannot stand Vicki. She always has something negative to say to or about someone but God forbid if anyone points out her faults. She needs to focus more on how her life is going and leave Slade alone. Why is she so concerned about the boyfriend of a woman she doesn’t even like?!
Always liked Gretchen but she’s rubbing me the wrong way this year. I don’t have an issue her wanting to end the battle with Tamra but allowing Tamra to belittle Alexis like she is doing is being a hypocrite herself. Tamra has loyalty to herself period. She is still the same petty jealous trailer park trash she always was. Her saying she removed her implants because she didn’t feel she needed them for people to take her seriously? I read she removed them due to not feeling well and thought she had cancer. Which is it? Also she says she’s a Realtor then tweeted me and said she owned 2 businesses, the gym and the wines for charity with Vicki. So which is it? How much money goes to charity? The gym if open wouldn’t be around long enough to show a sustained successful income. This just proves to me once again what she liar Tamra is. Shows me a lack of character in Gretchen for getting sucked in. Heather and her hubby are snobs. She throws Sara under the bus rightfully so, but just like Sara was trying to get airtime so is Heather when she throws these stupid parties. Its just a way for her and stuck up hubby to act high and might and gossip about everyone. She’s trying to get someone to give her an acting gig and doc must need some new clients. Good luck on both accounts. Hey why doesnt doc work on his wife. There are a number of things that need improvement unfortunately there isn’t anything you can do about personality. She is stuck with that horrible thing.
You took the words right out of my mouth. I’ll bet anything that in a few years Tamra will get more implants put back in. I’m sure that’s the main thing that attracted Eddie anyway and he seemed very disappointed that she was getting them removed. She seems to be in the same boat as Vicki as far as possibly getting taken advantage of. I remember her saying to Eddie that when they get married HE’LL want a baby (he said, “no”) and that she’ll be a housewife again, living on his income (again he said, “no”), I have a feeling that he’s out for as much money and sex as he can get out of this old broad, then he’ll be on to the next one.
Vicki is a beast. She will never find happiness because she depends on other people to make her happy. Can’t stand the c*t. Rude, insensitive, hypocrite.
She deserves all that’s coming her way.
I agree with you on this one. There is something off about Vicki. Have you seen the way she looks sometimes? She stares off like a creep. A really creepy, creepy person. Her eyes seem to stare down and you can see the whites of her eyes at the top of her eyeballs. She’s odd. It’s like she’s in some creep trance. Also, I hate that love tank expression. It’s disgusting and everytime she says it, I picture a bucket full of…. you know… ewww. I’m sorry to say that but that’s what comes to my mind. A mix of….ewwww gooo. lol
amen totally agree she is vey sickening
I am on Team Gretchen this season!! I am soooo glad that her and Tamra aren’t fighting anymore!! And, I know what it’s like to have to defend your man over lies. So hard, draining, and unfair.
i think lex has been gretchens friend and it does seem like gretchen is pushing lex to the side for tamara.. tamara is mean and rude. she shud have stayed with simon. he was good to her and only wanted her to act like a wife and mother. that was too much for tamara to do so she divorced him. now she is with eddie. by the way what is wrong with his jaw. he looks like he has a mouth full of doo doo all of the time. also his collar bone is jacked up now his pinkie is broke. he definatlely has issues..lol