RHONY star Aviva Drescher took to her blog and admits to losing her “sh*t” on Monday’s episode plus explains why she was so upset with Ramona and Sonja! Aviva also apologizes for referring to the ladies as “white trash!”
“OK, I lost my s–t on tonight’s episode. Inside I was wounded, hurt, angry, and vulnerable. I felt bad enough that Reid had to come at all and I was so embarrassed that my “friends” were hashing out a plan to kick him out of the house when he was just trying to do a nice thing and get me down there to be with them. I felt like I had to be protective of him when we were being mistreated and I went overboard. Anxiety is a weakness, which I am not proud of, and I am working on it. I am not totally there yet but all I can do is keep trying to improve.
Before I left NYC, I found out that a family member could watch our four children and Reid was able to get away for the weekend. So I called Ramona. Her giddy response was “Oh good, oh good! I will do something funny when you arrive! I will give Reid coupons to come to dinner a few times with the girls.” Reid took the phone and told Ramona he didn’t want the coupons because he wasn’t there to be with the girls, he was just getting me to the island. So basically I called Ramona to see if Reid’s presence in the house was OK with her and she gave me her unconditional blessing.
We thought about staying at a hotel but Carole, our hostess, insisted Reid stay with me in my room. Since I knew, and now Ramona knew, that Reid was going to be away from the house except for sleeping, it seemed like a practical solution. In retrospect had I known that Reid taking a bed, which had its own private entrance, would have caused so much drama he would have been happy to stay in a hotel. . .
But even if he stayed in a hotel I just have this funny feeling that we still would have gotten berated. Regardless, it just didn’t feel right at last minute having him stay in a hotel alone.
So what happened between the time that I spoke to Ramona on the phone where she gave me her full support for Reid to come down and the time that she and Sonja badmouthed us? If they had a problem with it why didn’t anyone call me and either ask us not to come or ask Reid to book a room in a hotel? Why sit, talk behind my back, and plan to set us up? Had they called, I would have not come! Or I would have gotten a hotel room. Cell phones work perfectly well in St. Barths.
When I arrived at the house and Ramona and Sonja were in the pool, I sensed a cold unwelcoming vibe from them. Conversely, LuAnn, Heather, and Carole could not have been nicer or warmer. They made me feel happy that I had pushed through what was a difficult trip for me (btw: that plane takes a nose dive at the end!). They made it worth it.
Once I realized that Ramona and Sonja were planning to ask Reid to leave the house, thanks to LuAnn being forthright, I could no longer see straight. I was irate. Reid is my husband and the father of my four children and he had just flown me to St. Barths for a silly “girls’ trip.” And my “friends” were planning on asking him to leave? Unacceptable. Imagine the shoe on the other foot and me asking any of their family members to leave the house under any circumstances? It is my constitution to welcome people in any home no matter what.
I was so angry that I couldn’t even get my words out properly. I didn’t need a “party” nor a “red carpet.” I just wanted someone to appreciate that I came down in spite of all my fears to be with them and my husband was just going above and beyond. A high five would have sufficed. Again, I did get that from Carole, Heather, and LuAnn. It was because of them that I stayed at all.
I regret that I called Ramona and Sonja “white trash.” Name calling is wrong and I should have used different words to convey my point. Here I am raising four children and one of the biggest rules in our home is no name calling. It just slipped out of my mouth in a moment of anger. I suppose now I have to give my children one free pass.
I would have formally apologized in St. Barths but I was just too upset — hence the silly reference to Rush Limbaugh’s idiotic fake apology. I suppose apologizing in Ramona’s ear as she gave me her own phony apology was probably just not good enough. For my part, I expected more from my “friends” Ramona and Sonja. Without trying to absolve myself of all of my sins, I hope everyone can appreciate that this was the perfect storm of bad circumstances for me.”
That’s not all! Sonja had a few things to say as well! Sonja talks about what she thought of Aviva’s comments and explains that she just wanted a girls night!
“The purpose of the trip was always supposed to be a girls’ trip even though Aviva kept suggesting that we invite significant others. I did not have any problem with Russ visiting. He always came after rock star hours and Carole would visit him at his hotel. He knew why we were all there. Naturally, LuAnn and Ramona complained because they missed Jacques and Mario. I was frank from the beginning that I didn’t want ANY husbands/significant others in the house if we didn’t all have “dates.” As I mentioned before I wanted to show my girls all I knew on the island and celebrate the fantastic week we were about to share at Carole’s amazing gig she scored by Saline Beach!
Why is everyone SO UPSET that I just wanted to spend quality time with my girls!?! No BOYS ALLOWED! But as you see there were boys (and a group of Italians) and I never went out of my way to make any of them uncomfortable! When Russ was around I ultimately excused myself, when the group of Italians came I was fast asleep. . .and then Reid and Aviva came.
Look, I was French skinny dipping with my girlfriend enjoying my life. When I heard Reid and Aviva coming up the steps I handed Ramona her top and I asked Heather to hand me mine when I saw that Aviva was not moving inside of the house or up to their rooms to freshen up first. We were trying to be respectful. THAT DOESN’T MEAN we have to be happy with the arrangement, but we still managed to be POLITE. Don’t they teach you that in primary school?
I told Aviva I was happy she came. I got out of the pool and welcomed Reid to St. Barths. Did Aviva tell us all that he would be staying at a nearby hotel? Yes. Was that the case? No. But like the true gentleman he is he excused himself from the festivities and went to his room. I don’t blame him. Who wouldn’t love some peace and quiet on a beautiful island, with the cool breeze coming in with the taste of sea salt? Who wouldn’t love tripping down to the kitchen with the butler after the girls go out to dinner, to wait for their wife to come back romanticized?
FYI what you didn’t see when the cameras weren’t rolling was later that night at Reid’s room I fixed his shower because it was overflowing and would NOT turn off. I have a lot of experience fixing my own home and so I hopped in his shower with my rubber bottomed high heels and I ever so slowly turned the fussy French hardware screw with my fingernail till it was tight enough to stop the flow! I also fixed his remote control. He was in a great mood! So was the butler because he didn’t have to report flood damage to the owners.
Before I go further I must tell you something. My favorite Alice in Wonderland is “The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones mad to live, mad to talk.” I LOVE the inner freak inside people. I love quirks and oddities! I have a certain freak side! So if you say that you don’t have a freak side, you are perfect? The perfect family? Life? Husband? Kids? Past? Then at least be real and be true to yourself! I really have an issue when people aren’t real, aren’t true to themselves and talk outrageously high of themselves. I never criticize except when people criticize. I do get defensive — especially for others. I get very protective of others when they are criticized. Own what you do and own who you are.
In the preview for Season 5, everyone thought RAMONJA had struck again! Everyone thought we screwed up big time! But aha! Flashback to Scary Island! I was there for Kelly but now it’s Aviva with the name calling. Projection is a funny thing. I think Reid was just fine, but people project their fears on others. Aviva should have been honest and said I can’t take a girls’ trip because I can’t go anywhere without my husband. Including the fact she couldn’t stay in the house without him. Then Carole enables her further by changing her story and saying she had Russ there. Well, I already explained that one.
LuAnn, when we were on the boat, agreed with Ramona and I but she still felt the need to stir the pot and as I am trying to diffuse things she says “Ramona YOU said the dynamics would change.” We all discussed it lightly because we were ALL surprisingly having such a good time and didn’t want to ruin the “mojo.” I was happy to see Ramona and LuLu getting along finally. In fact, I was joshing Lu saying you tell Reid he has to keep his word and stay in the hotel because Lu never takes a stance. It’s always Ramona who says what everyone else is thinking. Of course Lu and Ramona would love to have Jacques and Mario.
We were completely honest with Aviva and how we felt about Reid’s presence but it wasn’t enough. Never enough. What does she want from us? Ramona is right. . .did she want us to paint Reid’s name on our forehead?
We were being real and telling her exactly how we felt. Why are we being faulted for that? I’m real with Ramona all the time! When I’ve had enough Ramonja, I kick her out of my house! I am REAL with all of my friends. And even as Aviva allowed it all to escalate out of proportion I tried to diffuse the situation and then BAM! Ramona and I are being called white trash?!?
Drunken antics in Miami??? Why come if you were against this? Because it’s not true. We spent the first night at home with her and Reid on their couch sipping scotch talking the night away. The second night Ramona rushed the dinner because everyone was tired, it was a long day, and she was afraid what else might come out of George’s mouth. Aviva’s tune changed after St. Barth’s. She was very happy with Ramonja in Miami.
I came on this trip to have fun. It ain’t fun till the fat lady sings. . .well I don’t sing. . .but I dance! I guess you saw the Snoopy dance when Tomas came to the Villa for our little party. Anyhoo, even with Aviva dumping on us after four months of the same repetition, I once again try to make her understand we are friends and not enemies, but she throws the education card at me. What does education have to do with relating to people? She didn’t want to have any of it. She doesn’t have to be “like” me. I just want her to try and be herself, and still enjoy her friends. She didn’t want to. . .well, not unless she was THROWN A PARTY upon her arrival and we kissed the ground her husband walked on?! Ludicrous.
Then she brings up Ramona saying Heather talks too much! That’s water under the bridge. They bonded over tequila and on top of a table dancing in pirate outfits. That’s how good St Barth’s is!!!! Besides Aviva agreed with Ramona about Heather talking to much??!!! Ahhh. . .we all do??
Then at dinner when Ramona is taking the high road for the sake of the group having a good time, regardless of the fact that LuAnn blamed Ramona for the comment our mojo would change with a man in the house and after Aviva called us white trash — Aviva doesn’t stop! She admits she is relentless! Once that horse leaves the barn, there isn’t a blade of grass left green. She then gives a sarcastic apology in her interview for the name calling.
I don’t need any new (unfeeling) friends, I’ve turned a corner. May Millou RIP, I miss my good friend.”
They both make some very good points! I think Aviva obviously knew she overreacted, therefore the ladies should move on. BUT we all know they all find it very hard to move on from things..thoughts on what the housewives had to say?!