Alexis Bellino’s hubby Jim isn’t very happy with the recent episodes of the RHOC ladies attacking Alexis Bellino. Jim took to his official site to recap the episode and called all the ladies self-centered. He starts off by saying,
“The theme of this week’s show also doubles as the theme of the entire season, and frankly, the entire franchise of this show. Self-centeredness. The “it’s all about me!” mentality that
Alexis is accused of is so predominant among other cast mates that it’s laughable she would be the one accused of it.
Tonight’s episode showcases the “me first” way of thinking and living pretty clearly. Alexis has just been berated and browbeaten by an entire gang of women, and looks for a moment of peace to collect herself. One of the other women makes it all about herself instead, but are we really surprised by this? It’s not surprising, but it is telling of exactly how invisible these women’s faults are to themselves. How can you not see that making a night like this about you after someone else just got a beat down is far worse than anything Alexis was accused of?
Alexis and I both like nice things and that’s nothing to apologize for. Alexis has done much more to explain her position on this than I ever would or will. Suffice to say that we are happy and would still be happy if we lived in a shack. Why? Because we have each other, beautiful, healthy children, and a God to turn to who we know will always lead us in the right direction. It really is THAT simple when you have true faith.
People who are truly happy don’t spew sarcasm and cynicism with every breath they draw. Truly happy people don’t spend time reading and researching every iota of information about other people to make sure they are armed to the teeth with ammo just in case others disagree with something they say or do. Truly happy people aren’t angry and won’t make time for an incessant stream of hateful and negative quips. It’s funny the first few times, then it’s just sad. But being the witty, outspoken cynic is just another way to make it all about you, isn’t it? Give me air time! Look, I’m relevant, I can put someone else down! Being self-centered shows up in many ways, and with this cast, each has truly crafted their own vintage when it comes to self-importance.
Alexis is not perfect, but she’s also not out there calling people out left and right for whatever issues they may have just to ensure that she is portrayed as above anyone. It truly is dramatic irony at its finest that Alexis is now perceived as the phony one. The truth of the matter is that she is the only one who sticks to her own business and who makes the least amount of comments about the others on the show. Meanwhile others use every single opportunity (and even some inopportune moments) to mention Alexis and make her sound terrible, stupid, lesser, and weaker. Case in point: “…Alexis will be the one with the most baggage…” Really? Why?
Because she doesn’t have three marriages under her belt, or because she spends time with her children? I’m confused.
It’s not the pot calling the kettle black, it’s Alexis being called out for issues that other people have because they are trying to deflect cameras and the audience from seeing the fault in them. Even if you don’t like Alexis, I think we can agree she’s not the one on the show with baggage.
After this week you will only see me one more time. I just couldn’t stomach another minute of these women. The story lines that they are forever trying to perpetuate out of a need to maintain relevance are so tired. The need to be important and to be the central theme no matter who else is in the room or what else is going on is tantamount to anything with real value. It’s hard to be around, point blank.
With all I have seen at this point, the takeaway for me seems simple. Self-centeredness is ugly no matter how many commercials it sells. I’m completely over it, end of story.
Just keepin’ it real,
I mean Jim does make some good points. Do you agree with what Jim had to say?