Alexis Bellino’s Hubby Jim Talks Alexis Getting Attacked!
Alexis Bellino’s hubby Jim isn’t very happy with the recent episodes of the RHOC ladies attacking Alexis Bellino. Jim took to his official site to recap the episode and called all the ladies self-centered. He starts off by saying,
“The theme of this week’s show also doubles as the theme of the entire season, and frankly, the entire franchise of this show. Self-centeredness. The “it’s all about me!” mentality that
Alexis is accused of is so predominant among other cast mates that it’s laughable she would be the one accused of it.
Tonight’s episode showcases the “me first” way of thinking and living pretty clearly. Alexis has just been berated and browbeaten by an entire gang of women, and looks for a moment of peace to collect herself. One of the other women makes it all about herself instead, but are we really surprised by this? It’s not surprising, but it is telling of exactly how invisible these women’s faults are to themselves. How can you not see that making a night like this about you after someone else just got a beat down is far worse than anything Alexis was accused of?
Alexis and I both like nice things and that’s nothing to apologize for. Alexis has done much more to explain her position on this than I ever would or will. Suffice to say that we are happy and would still be happy if we lived in a shack. Why? Because we have each other, beautiful, healthy children, and a God to turn to who we know will always lead us in the right direction. It really is THAT simple when you have true faith.
People who are truly happy don’t spew sarcasm and cynicism with every breath they draw. Truly happy people don’t spend time reading and researching every iota of information about other people to make sure they are armed to the teeth with ammo just in case others disagree with something they say or do. Truly happy people aren’t angry and won’t make time for an incessant stream of hateful and negative quips. It’s funny the first few times, then it’s just sad. But being the witty, outspoken cynic is just another way to make it all about you, isn’t it? Give me air time! Look, I’m relevant, I can put someone else down! Being self-centered shows up in many ways, and with this cast, each has truly crafted their own vintage when it comes to self-importance.
Alexis is not perfect, but she’s also not out there calling people out left and right for whatever issues they may have just to ensure that she is portrayed as above anyone. It truly is dramatic irony at its finest that Alexis is now perceived as the phony one. The truth of the matter is that she is the only one who sticks to her own business and who makes the least amount of comments about the others on the show. Meanwhile others use every single opportunity (and even some inopportune moments) to mention Alexis and make her sound terrible, stupid, lesser, and weaker. Case in point: “…Alexis will be the one with the most baggage…” Really? Why?
Because she doesn’t have three marriages under her belt, or because she spends time with her children? I’m confused.
It’s not the pot calling the kettle black, it’s Alexis being called out for issues that other people have because they are trying to deflect cameras and the audience from seeing the fault in them. Even if you don’t like Alexis, I think we can agree she’s not the one on the show with baggage.
After this week you will only see me one more time. I just couldn’t stomach another minute of these women. The story lines that they are forever trying to perpetuate out of a need to maintain relevance are so tired. The need to be important and to be the central theme no matter who else is in the room or what else is going on is tantamount to anything with real value. It’s hard to be around, point blank.
With all I have seen at this point, the takeaway for me seems simple. Self-centeredness is ugly no matter how many commercials it sells. I’m completely over it, end of story.
Just keepin’ it real,
-Jim”
I mean Jim does make some good points. Do you agree with what Jim had to say?
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If the show is sooooo horrible – why does he “allow” his wife to do it or why does she choose to do it????? I am over the Bellino’s and really have been from their first season!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jim is biting the hand that feeds him because as far as I can tell Alexis is the only one bringing in any money. Although it perhaps wasn’t handled well..I do understand what the other ladies are seeing out of Alexis and Jim because I see it too. Things just don’t add up regarding how “rich” they claim to be. Fake diamonds, rental houses and moving in out of a new one every season, new cars then MORE new cars, foreclosures, bank fraud allegations…etc. They’re probably holding out thinking they’ll get their own reality show…but whatever their reason for staying on this show and bashing it at the same time is…I doubt we know the real reason in their sneaky little heads.
I don’t think Alexis is the only one bringing the money, i doubt any housewives can drive Rolls Royces on a BRAVO salary
Why does he allow his wife???? What, are we back in the stone ages? Obviously she chose to be on this show. I’m sure she never thought they would all turn on her like that! He’s absolutely right with everything he said. Obviously he signed up thinking maybe it would be good but now is rethinking that decision. So I wouldn’t jump all over a husband sticking up for his wife, good for him on at least doing that!
I agree with Jim for defending his wife. However, I still believe that every time any of the others have something to talk about..Alexis has done it better, or has more. The others may be like that also, but the others also admit when they don’t have it all…she never does!
I agree. Well said.
I second that!
I agree Alexis can be annoying, but the other ladies are NOT??? They really should ease up on her, I have been watching this show since it started and she is not a sh*t-starter like the others. You don’t hear her bad mouthing the others like they do to each other constantly.
Who cares whether she has done it better or has more! I mean really does it matter? I would take more offense to these women who ganged up on her like they did. They had no business doing an intervention to confront someone who happens to brag a lot while on vacation. Are these ladies kidding me? It’s ridiculous and really so petty. Jim is right, it’s a way for them to try to deflect. Their actions were uncalled for and again who cares what she brags about, we all know one of those people. It doesn’t take away from the fact that she is not an ugly person on the inside.
I agree! She never admits that, and she has the least money! It’s like quit pretending all the time. So fake.
$$$$$$$$$$$$
need I say more????
How’d he feel when Alexis lead a gang-up on Vicki? He needs to look no further than the nearest mirror to see the person(s) he is talking about in this blog.
Those women were already picking at alexis well before they confronted vicki doesn’t make it right however tamara was the instigator on that one.
Tamra instigated when? I’m referring to San Fran, and Vicki, herself, blamed it on Alexis at that time.
It’s funny how everything changes when it is Alexis getting ganged up on but it was surely okay for her to do it to Vicki…if Jim and Alexis are so upset with the franchise then LEAVE THE SHOW! I won’t miss them!
I think saying “leave the show” is harder. They may be under contract and she might have three more years under her belt.
I believe contracts are year to year. Otherwise Bravo would be at risk of having to buy one out.
All of these housewife shows are ridiculous now!
I didn’t start watching them until NJ, so I do not know all of the history. But in the beginning it was fun to watch the women interact. Then it went down hill fast, and I keep thinking that if I fought or hated someone as much as these women, I would call it a day and move on with my life. I don’t understand why some stick around for the abuse. Contracts and money…fine, but then there is not much room for you to whine and complain.
It sucks to be ganged up on, but in “realty” you tell them to go sit on a tack and keep it moving. I understand why Jim would be upset, but I feel the husband should stay out of it. I do not T’s Joe, but I respect how he doesn’t blog or talk to press about the other wives.
(one good thing about these shows: a better appreciation for my friends and family)
Sorry for my typo…reality!!!
I’d rather have an 8-5 job and be proud of the way I earn my money than put my ridiculousness out there on national tv and then look doubly ridiculous when I make excuses for it.
Alexis and/or Jim should both get real jobs and “keep it real”.
What’s wrong with owning your own business? I view that as a “REAL JOB”
Weather or not if you like Jim or not he is being a good man standing up for his wife!!! Most of the things he said are 100% true!!! After this season I like Alexis I see the real her because real people cry and get upset! This is the first season where I think Alexis as been real!!
I agree, Jim is my favorite. His blogs are spot-on and he never says that his wife is without faults. Can’t stand the other men on the show. I also liked Don, although I didn’t enjoy watching Vicky emasculate him.
I agree with you, Jim makes some good points which leads me to the question: Knowing that this isn’t a Disneyland type princess & prince sitcom, why sign up to be on a reality show where your life is definately going to be exposed?
IMO, you can’t bi### about what you knowingly signed up for as the OC Housewives have been out there way before Alexis & Jim for their viewing. They ‘knew’ what they were doing, however, probably wanted to use it as a promotional platform. Regardless, if you can’t take the heat then don’t sign on the dotted line!!
Jim should just keep his thoughts to himself. On any subject.
ALEXIS brought the subject up at the dinner table. She thought she could throw out a thinly disguised dig at Heather’s husband and then drop it. Too bad for her that Heather figured since ALEXIS brought it up, they should discuss it.
The women were trying to tell Alexis that her pre-occupation with material things was getting in the way of having REAL friendships. And also why people consider her “phony”. Which was why the conversation got started in the first place. If I had been in Heather’s shoes, I would have said that Terry’s initial impression of Alexis could easily be changed by her future actions, but yes, at this time, he considered her a phony, but that I was sorry she had to hear that.
I’m not a big Gretchen fan, but I think she behaved more like a friend to Alexis than Alexis did towards her. Apparently Gretchen had previously TOLD Lex the example she used at the table, so Lex wouldn’t be blindsided.
Vicki is just using this against Gretchen and enjoying it way too much. She needs to grow up
Cammi do you think the word “attack” or phrase “ganged up ” on is appropriate for these rich biatches? I mean we have snootiness, rudeness, backstabbers, etc.. Teresa Giudice is attacked and ganged up on, not Alexis ” I think I am high and Mighty” was not , in my opinion! I know some disagree.. I can’t help it, forgive me! To me it was a clear case of you dished out before, and could not take when it was your turn! And Im not saying just because they are rich people cannot get bullied, I just do not think she was. I have to go back and watch I guess…ugh
Are you for real? Alexis has always been beside Gretchen 100% and defending her whenever that troll faced Tamra attacked Gretchen! Did you see last 2 seasons at all? Tamra is the instigator. She needs to be replaced. She’s a skank!!!
One thing, the man is very articulate, good for him, i think he can match Andy word for word.
I think Jim has no right to blog about the show! He is not a housewife, and he was also kind of bullying to his own wife at times! He is probably trying to get her reprimanded by talking smack so she can’t be on the show anymore, only under his roof to his imaginary temple. He can take his points he made and shove them! Did he blog to his own wife when she was mean and nasty to Vicki in front of her daughter? Nope.They are the worst kind of holy rollers, seriously. Really its not nice for people to be “ganged” up on, but they were talking other about her own things she has down! So now when people need to address their friend in a group setting, is it always going to be called getting bullied? People need to check definitions! You preach about honesty and when you get it, you don’t like it!
Talking to her, typos.
Ugh she has done…
I too, have been accused of being “materialistic” usually by lazy, jealous people who were trying to take advantage of me and portray me as greedy. I agree with the statement that Alexis made to Tamra about working hard and rewarding yourself. Tamra is the most crude, disgusting, immature, embarassment to all women that I’ve seen in a long time.
After watching how trashy Tamra acted in Costa Rica, displaying her breasts for Gretchen and the camera men, etc. I think that Alexis should be very happy to keep as much distance from those two as possible.
I came from a humble background myself and never dreamed I would live in as nice a house as I do, in addition to owning a decent car and boatloads of clothes to wear. I’m proud of the fact that I accomplished what I did and I think that Alexis feels the same way about her life and I don’t see anything wrong what that.
At least we worked for what we have, and didn’t inherit it from our families or pretend to be in love with a dying old man.
Sooooo true
I totally agree with what he had to say and I am not even an Alexis fan. Tamara used to be my favorite but something is really wrong with her. She must be truly miserable underneath the way she has to lash out at someone each season. I thought that I liked Heather at first, but seeing how she jumped on the Tamara bandwagon….yuck.
I admire Jim for supporting his wife though his blog despite any possible repercussion from Bravo. He must be so grateful that Alexis doesn’t come off like a screeching hyena that grinds her rear end into other people’s faces “just to get attention”.
**through his blog**
Jim does make some very good points – but he has to also realize that Alexis is VERY self centered. Everytime someone tells a story, Alexis has to one up it or (what comes across as) boast about something. Everything that comes out of her mouth is “me me me” and it gets aggravating.
I share the same faith as Jim & Alexis and I find it disheartening to watch them portray themselves on TV the way they do, and to justify their actions that are contrary to their/our beliefs they way they do.. I find them fake in their portrayal of their lives, and it could just be editing.. who knows, but they do drive me bonkers on the show.
I have thoroughly changed my opinion of Alexis (and Jim, after reading his blogs) this season. Say what you will, but Jim really is articulate and gets to the point. Is Alexis a little bit airheaded…sure, but if you had a camera on me at all times, I would sound that way too. It is so easy for all of us to judge these people who are on these shows…and sometimes the amount of passion of hate I read in these comments is pretty disturbing. Yes, they ALL signed up for a show and quite honestly, I think it can be a bit of “more then they bargained for” situation. I think Tamara is terrible for the way she is always finding someone to spew her hate on, but, I believe Jim is right..she knows how to work the system, and by working the system it is to be the meanest and most controversial. I think when the others said something to Vicki…they were right (at this point, I can’t even remember what they said..but I think it was about her being mean). What they ganged up on Alexis about was so hypocritical because THEY ARE ALL SHALLOW. You can’t tell me that Tamara isn’t. And I love the way Tamara is taking cheap “boob implant” shots at Alexis, now that she had hers removed. Tamara does research trash on everyone of them, and it is sad. For me, when Tamara pulled that crap on Slade at the reuinion last year..I was done with her.
Yes, he is a good writer, however with him it seems like another thing to control! None of the other boyfriends or hubbies blog. If he wasn’t arrogant, I may like his opinions!
I don’t mind that Jim does his blog at all. It’s a free country at least for now and he can write his opinions if he chooses.
I feel Alexis does come off at times as boosting, but I have often thought she doesn’t believe that is the case. I have come to the conclusion this is her way of communicating and making conversation. When someone says something, like when I believe Gretchen asked about a car and Alexis brought up all the cars. In Alexis mind she was making conversation. When she talks about her other items it is her making conversation and relating her experiences to others. Yes it can be annoying, but I truly don’t believe there is any malice or evil behind it. I also don’t believe Alexis is dumb. I believe she gets tongue tied when talking and has a hard time finding the correct words to say. She gets so flustered she comes off as airheaded.
What is frustrating to me as a viewer, is all these women boost and talk about their toys. Why is it when Alexis speaks it’s wrong? A little hypocritical in my opinion.
I honestly don’t understand who cares or who’s business it is whether someone has money or can afford something or not. I believe several years ago Simon threw Tamra a birthday party on a yacht and gave her a $30M Rolex or something. Yet less than 2 years later they were bankrupt. You can’t tell me at that time they could afford it.
I found it ironic Heather and Tamra talking about their intervention and Heather’s comments about how Alexis dresses when Tamra is sitting there in a dress that a women over 35 shouldn’t be wearing. Also a dress she probably wore before she had her implants removed.
I read somewhere the reason Tamra had her implants removed was due to a health scare not because she had some apiphany about wanting to be a real women.
I have watched this show from it’s inception and there was not the bickering and backstabbing until Tamra joined the cast. Every year she has an issue with someone. She is consistently the meanest and rudest of all the women. In my opinin, for someone to be so mean she must be very insecure and unhappy. I have never liked her and think she is trailer trash. Why she feels she has any right to judge anyone is beyond me.
As for Heather and her wife I mean husband Terry, they act holier than though. But what doctor who has any integrity goes on a reality show and acts like he does? When they were talking in their kitchen about opening a restaurant and he said if they lost a million dollars so what. I don’t care who you are, no one wants to loose a million dollars. Unless that million dollars is investor money, then shame on them both even more, nobody can afford to loose a million dollars not even them. They will never convince me that they have a million dollars just to throw around. No way no how. Also, how was them going to a tailor to have him fitted for new clothes and bragging about how it was going to cost like $50,000 not obnoxious?
This entire cast brags, that is what these series are all about. So for them to come after Alexis is so hypocritical it stinks to high heaven.
I think the reason Gretchen got to angry that Vicki was in Alexis room longer than her was she knew it made her look bad. She knew she hadn’t been a good friend to Alexis and it was all caught on tape. As far as I’m concerned I hope Slade continues to use her for her money and she ends up being miserable. I had always liked Gretchen, but her true colors are coming out this year with her friendship with Tamra. For someone to become with someone after all the evil things she did and said to Gretchen over the years speaks volumes to me and not in a good way.
I hope Tamra Barney gets the same treatment that Jill Zarin did and that is gone!!! I cannot stand her. She is one evil mean trailor trash piece of crap!!
OMG–Thanks for the reminder on this, I totally forgot! Yes, so Heather went off because Jim was talking about how much something cost in a Nordstroms or whatever, meanwhile she was putting it out there about them spending $50G’s on suits in the middle of a store. Pot meet Kettle.
I just feel like they always pick someone to “gang” up on every season and it looks like this season is Alexis. I think Tamra is trash but have always sort of like Gretchen, but her ability to flip a switch on Alexis has totally lost me as a fan!
OH AND can we please discuss the NERVE of Heather AND Tamara to trash Alexis completely and then think she was going to HUG either of them! YUCK!
They are all materialistic. Didn’t Vicki buy a yacht one season? During the early seasons, when they actually did interesting things, they would show the cost of items as they were shopping. I think Bravo pushes the materialism and Jim and Alexis are probably edited a certain way. I can’t take the hostility towards Alexis. It makes her look much more sympathetic so that has backfired on Gretchen and Tamara. Heather creeps me out. Her face is so unnatural. She needs an intervention.
Tamras face looks like Joan Rivers talk about fake. Those trips to Mexico got here some cheap surgeries. Its all jealousy. Tamras is with a younger man so she starts getting sour towards the hottest one.Alexis. It will catch up with her. She starts a gym after SLade embarrassed her in the comedy show with her loose skin hanging from everywhere.lol she acts like she natrually achieved her new body. Nope. And needless to say her loser son needs a job.
“The theme of this week’s show also doubles as the theme of the entire season, and frankly, the entire franchise of this show. Self-centeredness. The “it’s all about me!” mentality that Alexis is accused of is so predominant among other cast mates that it’s laughable she would be the one accused of it.”
That is quite laughable considering Alexis tweeted this: “Just couldn’t let Jim have all the attention, so I decided to sit on a wine glass. 11 stitches later and I’m ready to rally!!”.
Just to requote Jim’s closing words in his statement: “The need to be important and to be the central theme no matter who else is in the room or what else is going on is tantamount to anything with real value. It’s hard to be around, point blank.
With all I have seen at this point, the takeaway for me seems simple. Self-centeredness is ugly no matter how many commercials it sells. I’m completely over it, end of story.
Just keepin’ it real,
-Jim”
(Alexis’s tweet): “@HeatherDubrow Leave it to me to make my husband’s 50th about me
I’m all good thank you for asking. Party must go on!”.
You’d best take a look at your wife then Jim, she’s just completely contradicted everything you have said. I don’t need to add my own thoughts, between the pair of you, you have shown how attention needy and fake you are!
Jim, beautifully written. I admire Alexis for not talking behind the women’s backs and there would be plenty to talk about. No one is perfect that is why we need a Savior. You are right. Those women are trying to deflect from their own faults. Alexis is under attack because she is a Christian. Ephesians 6. The other women do not see this because they are spiritualy blind. I think you are a Godly husband and leader of your household and you and Alexis are looking to the Lord and doing the right thing.