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Tamra Judge Speaks Out (Again) Regarding Estranged Daughter!

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Oh Tamra, when will you learn? Sometimes it’s okay to give the press a little ‘no comment.’

We all know that Tamra considers herself an ‘erased mom’ and has had a tumultuous relationship with her daughter Sidney. The daughter of the RHOC star has stated she does not want any part of the show and things went from bad to worse after Tamra split with ex-hubby Simon.

Tamra is now speaking out to the press, giving an update on her strained relationship with her daughter.

Speaking out to ET, Tamra states: ‘I am very hopeful, because I feel like if she is removed from [home] – she is [at college] out of state – she is on the East Coast, so just the fact that she is living on her own and thinking on her own, I think it will be really good for her. I really do.’

Tamra is obviously insinuating that her ex Simon is brainwashing her (something that Sidney has stated is not the case.) So I’m sure that Sidney will be thrilled to read this in the press.

Despite Tamra’s hope, she states that ‘[There’s] not a whole lot of movement between the two of us.’

Tamra states the relationship with her other daughter Sophia is the opposite and that the two are BFF’s. On Sophia, Tamra states:

‘She’s my mini me. It’s even hard for her to go to her dad’s house, just because she wants to be with me all the time. So, I just hope it stays like that. It’s hard, because divorce just brings out the worst in a family situation and the kids, really, get put in the middle.’

To say that Tamra’s divorce has been messy would be a severe understatement. Her family has been torn in two and Tamra even participated in a documentary about parent alienation. Tamra pointed out that her family was not unique and that divorce can be traumatic for families involved:

“We have 22 million kids that are going through this. Nobody really wants to talk about this. I have neighbors that come up to me and say, ‘I’m going through the same thing. My uncle or somebody….’”

“When your kids stop talking to you, you feel like a horrible parent. And that’s not the case. The true victim is the child because they’re pulled. They’ve been pulled. They don’t know what to do.”

Tamra reveals that her marriage to Simon was so bad that re watching old episodes is painful:

“[I see] just a very angry, unhappy person. I’m not very good at expressing my emotions. I tend even to keep them inside … That season that we filmed, we knew we were going to get a divorce. We knew it was happening. So, we agreed to go through the season, maybe we shouldn’t talk about it, we weren’t going to talk about it. And it just got worse and worse and worse and worse.”

Tamra has come a long way since her RHOC debut; however she hasn’t mastered the art of staying silent. For the sake of her daughter I wish she would stop from giving updates to the press. Tamra even brought her up again this season when crying to Lydia about the situation (on camera) during bible study. When asked about her daughter, a simple ‘no comment out of respect for Sidney’ would go a long way!

Thoughts on Tamra speaking out?

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  • Tamra is a trashy, slutty, vulgar woman, who shows her nastiness every time she is on the show. She can’t keep her mouth shut regarding her daughter and wonders why she is on the outs with her. She is an embarrassment, to say the least.

  • The only thing Sidney asked her mom to do after 6 years she still can’t respect. STOP talking about her but Tamara can’t shut up and respect her wishes. She also says her younger daughter can’t get enough of her which is basically saying it’s Sidney’s issue not Tamra as the other child adores her all the time.

  • I think she really does need to learn to zip it when it comes to her daughter. I also thinks she needs to take responsibility for her own actions. Children see things differently. Sometimes my children tell me something that has embarrassed them that I’ve done and my first reaction is always, oh please that’s not embarrassing. But you have to take note and think okay I thought that was fine, but I see your point and I’ll stop doing that or I’m sorry for doing that. Even when I think it’s a little overdramatic, I will still accept what they’re saying. You have to. You’re the mom.

  • Tamra means well and her reaching out and trying to get her side out there is a major fail with her daughter . If she asked Tamra not to talk about her ,then respect her wished .STFU

  • Tamra is and always has been just about Tamra. She can talk about her love for her daughter all she wants. But her one and only love is herself.

  • Tamra has never bothered me. I don’t love or hate her, she’s just part of the cast. That said, she needs to keep her mouth shut where her daughter and frankly any of her children are concerned. It can’t be that hard to honor a simple request by your own daughter, a daughter you claim to love. Nut up Tamra, do the right thing!

  • Traumra has not kept her emotions to herself on RHOC; not ever. She’s a loose cannon and very reactionary. As long as she ignores her older daughter’s plea for silence; their relationship will remain broken. Clearly, Traumra has remained a child. Memo to Tamra: SHUT UP!

      • Hehehehe… Glad you like that one 🙂

        I don’t hate TJ. I just find her somewhat immature in her behavior. The issue with her daughter is complicated. I actually think that originally, it was a combination of Simon brainwashing Sidney AND Sidney being manipulative. Mother – Daughter conflict is very common. What has transpired here is that Traumra is making the bad situation worse every time she puts a big red circle around it. As other posters noted, she could say, “no comment on this.”

        • Oh so spot on Medusa ??? I’ve always said I’m meh about Tamra, I don’t love her but I don’t hate her. The mother daughter conflict is no joke when it happens.
          Tamra needs to realize that she can’t fix it NOW ! But in time , Sydney will come around
          Being a mother is all about patience !!

          • Very well said. Patience is key. Plus, it’s the “adult” way to be. Tamra wants to be “Forever 21”.

            • I feel for her because I can’t even imagine if one of my kids hated me! So sad! But she can’t be pushy ! Respect Sydney’s wishes and be PATIENT

              • Exactly. There are times where kids feel “anger” toward a particular parent (usually if they don’t get their way). It may even grow to “hatred”. Usually the feeling is fleeting because it’s part of the maturation process. (It’s similar to when my generation were in our teens, we thought our parents were uncool or jerks.) Parents should remain calm, stay firm (in whatever the reason which caused the temporary rift) & explain their position. Most kids will get it. Traumra keeps blaming Simon & her daughter. That tack will take her in the wrong direction.

        • I believe Tamra’s daughter when she said that Tamra was neglectful and emotionally abusive.
          Tamra’s refusal to honor her daughter’s pleas for privacy are telling. It is all about Tamra all of the time.
          Most public people are very protective of their children’s privacy. Tamra ignores her daughter’s pleas for privacy and uses her for sympathy and a storyline.

          • nvbl ~ The early complaints from Sidney seemed picayune & overly exaggerated for effect. I don’t agree that she was 100% accurate. Otherwise, the younger kids wouldn’t have stayed with Traumra. That said, I agree with you that the perpetuation of the friction is on Tamra. She’s been informed clearly & repeated to stop using Sidney as a SL & for pity points.

      • Happy Wednesday Raingurl! Are you pleased with the election results last night? I feel there were some good outcomes. Have a loverly day. ?????????

    • This child has countlessly asked her Mom to not make her/ the situation a storyline. Jesus, it’s about respecting her privacy!

  • It’s not always a fact that children are brainwashed. I know some kids who have no contact with their mother and their reasons for that are very on point. Some mothers refuse to take the wishes of the child to heart and, therefore, drive them away.

  • She should of said out of respect for my daughter and her wishes, no comment. That would of maybe helped to get on the road to repair. How does Tamra just not see this? It couldn’t of been explained to her any more clearly.

  • Oh Tamra! Why the lack of impulse control ? I don’t know how many times her daughter has to ask her to not talk about her. I don’t think Tamra is being malicious but she needs to respect her daughter’s wishes
    Also saying that Sophia is her ‘mini me’ is a bit insensitive because it implies a divide and some favoritism .
    I wish them all the best ??????????? divorce ain’t easy !

  • My disclaimer – not married and no children

    for me – this is a conundrum

    of course Tams will give an update – due to the social media explosion twice and due to Tam’s being an RH

    first – when daughter publicly posted her request for privacy
    second – when daughter publicly responded again to her mom’s not respecting privacy request

    I wish Tams could take the high road and not take a swipe at ex (childs father). Yes he was emotionally abusive to the highest degree, but there are times that you don’t have to pick at that scab.