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Siggy Flicker Says Margaret Josephs Tried To Provoke Dolores Into Turning On Her; Believes Danielle And Margaret Are Pot Stirrers!

On Wednesday’s episode of the Real Housewives of New Jersey – the cake-gate scandal escalated as the tension grew thick with all the ladies. Siggy felt she was owed an apology for feeling embarrassed by Melissa and Teresa’s behavior while Melissa and Teresa didn’t appreciate what they considered name calling from Siggy. Siggy took to her blog to clarify what happened on the episode and apologizes for the name calling. She also believes that Margaret Josephs tried to provoke Dolores into turning on her and thinks Danielle and Margaret do not have good intentions with the rest of the cast. She says,

“Here we are again, starting with the cake fight that went down at the end of the previous episode.

There are many other topics I would prefer to discuss, but it really isn’t about the cake itself. The truth is that it stopped being about the cake as soon as my “friends” saw how upset I was and completely disregarded my feelings. Whether they felt like my reaction was valid or not, they should have cared that their friend was upset. They didn’t have to be sorry about destroying a cake in order to be sorry that I was sad and embarrassed as a result.

Why can’t I talk about something that upsets me? How many seasons did Teresa and Melissa bring up the sprinkle cookies incident? Let’s see. It happened back in 2011, yet I couldn’t mention a different dessert for an episode or two? Double standards, much?

I get it—the cake fight was cute. At first. A true friend like Teresa wanted to lighten the mood, so she and Melissa started doing their thing. Unfortunately it ended with a work of art (which was made as a tribute to my friend) getting chucked across the restaurant, and guess what? I got upset. Making a mess at a restaurant and expecting other people to clean it up was rude. Disregarding the hours it took to bake and decorate the cake was disrespectful. Not taking into account that I knew the staff and patrons at the restaurant was inconsiderate.

I am not bothered because my friends had fun. I’m actually happy that they managed to enjoy themselves during such a difficult time for their family. During and after the food fight, no one except for Dolores took my feelings into account. THAT is why I’m upset. I’ll be the first one to admit that I’m sensitive, but I am also the first one to take other people’s feelings into account and apologize for hurting them when applicable.

I understand that the women felt insulted when I said they were “acting like animals” and that “my IQ is a lot higher than all these girls.” Anyone would be upset by that, but I was reacting to the cake toss in the heat of the moment. I apologize for making anyone feel bad—that is the last thing I would want to do.

But come on. Danielle declared that my behavior in response to food being thrown was “a lot more immature than having a food fight.” How does this make any sense? Margaret even had the nerve to say, “I was a little bit taken aback.” She was taken aback by my REACTION to a cake flying through a restaurant but not by the toss itself. Really? Then Margaret thought it was hilarious to nickname me “Soggy” and laugh while saying “I’m crying all night” to make fun of me. Talk about mature.

It’s interesting how I was accused of “kissing Kim D’s ass,” and Dolores was made fun of for (supposedly) kissing mine, but no one called out Margaret for throwing a memorial service for Teresa’s mother that she’d never met only 36 hours after meeting Teresa herself? If that’s not considered “ass-kissing,” then I don’t know what it is. Thankfully, Teresa was touched by the ceremony, and that’s what matters the most, but the execution of the event was insensitive and clearly calculated.

Margaret didn’t even know Teresa well enough to grasp if she was comfortable taking part in the ceremony at that point in the grieving process. Luckily, she was receptive to the gesture and considered it to be therapeutic. No one thought to call up Dolores—who has known Teresa and her mother since she was 16 years old—to take part in the ritual. If anyone could comfort Teresa with warm memories of her mother, it would be Dolores. No one felt that it was insensitive to throw an event at a beach club where I’ve been a member for years without texting me to join.

It was premeditated and disrespectful to prey on Teresa during a vulnerable time and pit her and Melissa against Dolores and me by purposely excluding us. Everyone on the beach had our phone numbers and easily could have united the group to support Teresa. Margaret should have sent a message about the memorial as soon as she bought that wreath for Teresa.

On the tennis court, Margaret riled up Dolores with her faux concern about me. She remarked, “Is Siggy okay? We walked in today, and she’s upset. Last night, she’s upset.” Why didn’t she just check on me the night before, that morning, or pull me aside at Lori’s house? Oh that’s right, because she wanted to provoke Dolores into turning on me. There’s zero chance of that ever happening, but nice try. Influencing two out of three isn’t bad.

Margaret declared, “She did say a few things last night that got everybody upset to start out with.” Margaret recapped, “She did call them animals. She did say ‘my IQ is higher.’ ” TO START OUT WITH? The cake toss was what incited me to make those comments, yet I was the pot stirrer who “started” all of this? I don’t think so.

Danielle and Margaret continued to report every single thing back to Teresa and Melissa to pour more fuel on the fire. Their intention was to divide and conquer. Margaret shared the tennis court conversation with Dolores with the other girls in the van. Danielle even instructed them, “Tonight you guys address this with her” as the van was pulling up to my home. These two had zero intention of having a peaceful dinner.

I have to admit that I didn’t remember exactly what I said the night before. We were filming for hours, so it was tough to keep track, especially during such an emotional night, but I did declare at dinner, “I’m going to own everything I said,” so here we are.

I never singled out Melissa and Teresa by saying they were from New Jersey. The clip has been shown a million times in the Season 8 trailer, and it was very clear during both episodes. I said, “We’re gonna have to explain to the restaurant that we’re from Jersey.” Is that really such an awful thing to say? This series was put on the map thanks to a table flip. After that incident, there was hair pulled during a chase in a country club, Andy Cohen was pushed at a reunion, a brawl ensued at a christening, there was a physical fight at family therapy, and cookies were thrown in the garbage—yet me associating a cake throw with New Jersey and this show was somehow an awful thing to say. Is the cake throw considered to be an offensive incident only when the other ladies say it is? Whenever I mention it, it’s not something to be ashamed of at all, and I’m “overreacting.”

Can someone please tell me what I am allowed to say? Clearly, I have to take the word “trash” out of my vocabulary. To clarify, I did not refer to anyone’s existence as “trash” or “trashy.” I said they were ACTING trashy. My friends are NOT trashy. My point (that I keep trying to reiterate) is that making a mess and not caring about the consequences is not at all acceptable—no matter how much fun it was.

I was just getting to know Danielle, and she had no idea about my relationships with Teresa or Melissa. Who is she to tell me what words I can use? She once told Dina Manzo, “Next time you try to shush me, expect me to speak louder.” I’m going to operate the same way. The next time Danielle shushes me, I will come at her louder, and anyone with a sense of hearing knows just how loud I can be.

Danielle asked, “Who cries about a cake?” Margaret responded to that cue with, “Siggy, better known as Soggy Flicker, with all the crying.” You don’t just think of “Soggy Flicker” in the heat of the moment. You don’t just go out and buy a flower arrangement for someone you just met in the heat of the moment and exclude the girl who introduced you both. You don’t make fun of someone for being who they are.

As Melissa pointed out, I am well-aware that I can be called worse things than Soggy, but just because others have had it worse, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have it bad or that my feelings are invalid. The word “soggy” isn’t awful in isolation, but using the word to make fun of me for crying after I felt excluded and disrespected is mean. Not only that, but it triggers a lot of emotions from my childhood. I don’t like name calling. I was called names my whole life. Do you think it was easy to grow up with the name Sigalit Paldiel? As much as I love it now, and I’m so proud of my heritage, it took a lot of time to feel this good about myself.

When Margaret called me “Soggy Flicker” (which I didn’t think was funny, and the timing of it couldn’t be more off), I was shocked and hurt. I invited her into my home and felt attacked. At that moment, it was apparent that I was upset and fighting with my friends, and I felt that instead of calming the situation, Margaret added fuel to the fire.

After two nights in a row that dinner was cut short, I couldn’t help uttering, “I feel like we should never have dinner again.” It broke my heart to see my friends walk out of the house and to add insult to injury, Teresa had to yell out, “I don’t want your doggy bag. The crab cake was salty anyway.” Everyone was aware that SexZ Chef cooked the meal, so dragging him into the drama was unnecessary and rude. Not only that, but he appeared on the show with his name and title on the screen. It is potentially damaging to someone’s livelihood to trash their skills in their profession. Yes, it was a comment made in the heat of the moment, but just like the people who baked and decorated the cake, the chef was disrespected. I go out of the way to treat everyone around me with kindness and respect, and I will not condone anything less.

Actions speak louder than words. Along with myself, I am holding these girls accountable for their actions. We all make mistakes. We’ve all hurt a friend without intending to, but being accountable for our actions is the only way that pain can be turned into peace.”

While I do feel Siggy blew Cake-Gate out of proportion – she did have some valid points. It seemed like once Margaret knew that the ladies were getting annoyed of Siggy she turned on her.

Thoughts on what Siggy had to say? Do you feel Danielle and Margaret were being pot stirrers?

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  • There’s absolutely no way I’m going to read Siggy’s poor me no novel! I don’t have time for that nonsense it’s way too long! So Soggy has turned into a Jaquline it looks like. Or Jaquline is giving her advice that she should start drama, who knows!

  • If we have to hear about the freakin’ cake all season, I’ll be done. Should they have thrown the cake? No. But they were having fun. It was silly. They are all drunk. And yeah, it got out of hand. But it isn’t THAT big of a deal. Let it go. Move on. A cake is more important than friendship? Seriously? I enjoyed Siggy last season. But she’s off the mark this season. We can’t have this much stupid drama on episode 2. It’s sooooo stupid.

  • Just caught her doggy bag
    comment and Im really put off by her andDols lack of accountability and lack of self awareness with their poking and instigating and just bitch vibes. Dolo said the comment to Teresa , trying to be a coward while taking a swipe at her , mumbling ” I’ll get you a doggy bag” . How’s Jacaloon paying these two when she’s up to her botoxed forehead with legal bills ?

    • Dolo has the personality of a bobble head – if it weren’t for Chuckie manzo and Booze bag Laurita feedimg her lines, I doubt the chick would have a thought in her head ,never mind a word to say. Taking back your cheating ex- husband or husband shows the chick has no brains. and not for nothing- she owns gyms? Chubby like her tribe Chuckie, Jaq and Lauren.

      • Ha- well said !!! She used to be Dinas friend too( that’s why she was supposed to originally be on season 1 of this show and since she wasn’t , here came Chuckie) but she sided with Chuckie and Loonie and I think that’s why she has her own definition of loyalty . I noticed how thick she was in her tennis getup or hospital gown with a zipper , whatever that was.

  • So this is what the exciting and dramatic season of Jersey is going to be. How many episodes are we into and I’m bored beyond belief & figure it just isn’t going to be worth my time to watch any more. Siggy was annoying last time around and not much has improved this season. More constant crying – so unattractive.

  • athey said

    Oh Siggy, PLEASE just let it go already! She has a few good points but I will say that during every preview I got very angry whenever I heard her say “we have to explain that we’re from Jersey”!!!! I personally took that as a very low blow and I am honestly very insulted by that statement! So I think Siggy should call me and apologize because that was complete bullshit! Obviously I’m born and bread from Jersey and I’m sick to death of getting a bad wrap because of this crap. Anyway I think Siggy is really reaching by bringing up the past with the cookies and the five hundred other things she tried to compare to this situation. I don’t recall ANYONE during those times stating that they were “THE MOST TALENTED PERSON ON EARTH” or that their IQ was the highest of anyone and so on and so on. There is something much deeper going on with her because her responses are WAY over the top. The one thing I thought was maybe Bravo told her and Delores that if they don’t bring the drama this season their gone, hmmmm. And does anyone remember when T, M, D & M got in the van they said there was a group text and Sig & Del never responded. I remember it, So how can you freak out about the ceremony Margaret set up and not being invited to “YOUR BEACH CLUB” or whatever it is. If they had responded to even one of the girls text they would have been involved. Also they already had their little secret smoothie date all set up and didn’t invite the others so double standard Siggy, I think YES! And what Margaret did regardless of how long she knew Teresa was just beautiful and so touching. I lived in Hawaii for several years and that actually is a very common thing they do when their loved ones pass on, it’s truly the most beautiful thing to see. I really Like Margaret, pig tails or not, I just think she’s cool and doesn’t bow down to anyone so I think she’s going to be a much needed addition! Sorry for the long post, I was actually trying to keep up with Siggy but I don’t have the time and or energy, LMAO. Lets hope this stupid cake business gets laid to rest, maybe they can offer Siggy a lovely wreath of flowers and send it out to sea, this way she can mourn appropriately over her beloved cake. Listen it did get out of hand but with all Teresa was and is going though their lucky that’s all she’s doing and she’s not drinking or pill popping herself into oblivien which allot of people would do under the circumstances.

  • wow, we got played!! and Soggy got ripped off – Margaret’s twitter account is a treasure of tea!
    Apparently the $1K was one layer of cake!
    Margaret Josephs?

    One tier of cake, two tiers of plastic. Sterling silver plated chrome tray.
    #princess #cakegate #RHONJ

    this is what soggy is whailing (sp)over?

    and Mag’s (thanks rhfan) tweeted that yes – soggy was invited!
    Margaret Josephs?
    You could’ve been part of it, Siggy, but you ignored your phone and went to pout over drama and dragonfruit juice. #RHONJ

  • By The Way!!! Last season Siggy and Dolores weren’t there for Teresa in Vermont Either, on the joint Ski excursion No Show on the Snow let’s go shopping, real reason, they didn’t like Robyn, and they made sure Robyn was sent home, because they feared for Teresa’s safety. Siggy / Dolores Mean Girls.

  • Having lived in Boca for many years, I must say, Siggy’s behavior at NY Prime was embarrassing. I love that place, and fortunately I’ve never been there when she was there. I was a huge fan of Siggy’s before this episode. I can’t believe she wasn’t more apologetic after watching herself in the episode? I just read Margaret’s blog on bravo, and it was pretty spot on. It’s a pretty good reflection of what most viewers saw.

    It wasn’t so much that she was embarrassed by cake throwing. She’s definitely entitled to be embarrassed by that behavior, it was her reaction to it, that nobody liked. She was beyond over the top, dismissive, said horrible, horrible things….. and then got extremely mad over “soggy”. She kept saying “you don’t understand” when what she really meant was, you’re not validating and agreeing with me. She wasn’t gonna let it go till someone told her “you are right and everyone else is wrong”….and she’s a relationship expert??

    If I was in that group of women, standing in front of her friends house getting lectured about how to act, I would’ve left immediately. How insulting. Sure, your friend has a nice house on the water, but those ladies have nice houses as well. How patronizing. I can’t believe they didn’t just walk back to the bus and take off. I definitely would not have stuck around.

    I’ve had times where I am not proud of how I behaved; I’d like to go back and redo a few things. I was hoping Siggy would on her behavior. Reading her blog, she never really owns it. Doesn’t seem like she has any self awareness.

  • I’m sorry… I used to really like Siggy…. but she’s really emotionally unstable and, I’m no psychiatrist, but clearly she suffers from several personality disorders—

    • I noticed that as well. The dismissiveness, the impulsiveness, the IQ comment, the need for control… talking to her peers like they’re 14 years old, and not hearing what other people are saying. She went way overboard and still can’t see it.

  • Isn’t there a word limit on these Bravo Blogs? Please, there should be. I can’t with the flip flopping. First she’s laughng, then she’s crying, throwing wine on the table, calling out the cake fight, calls them animals, tells them to fuck off, then says she’s glad they had fun. Whew… this woman, if not the center of attn she grabs it, damn. It’s never ending and those pics In her foyer? What, lol. I had to pause it just to laugh at all of the poses. Who asked if these are all her personalities? Thatts funny. Sig needs to take it down several notches.

  • She is certifiable! Me, me, me, that’s all I heard. I couldn’t even read the whole thing, she was so crazy! I guess her and Dolorifice shouldn’t have stomped off by themselves, without telling the other girls, then they would have been at the memorial. That was rude! Nobody’s allowed to make new friends? No, I’m done with Soggy (Love that name)!!

  • Shut it Sig. In one episode you undid all the good you supposedly
    do , lied , cried , yelled, had tantrums and displayed hypocrisy . Fake much ???? People need refunds for your book and someone needs to stop having meet and greets for yuub.

  • Soggy is a disgusting person who is ok with her responses to her friends:

    – “take it down a notch” – soggy’s response “go fuck yourself”
    – let’s not kid each other my iq is alot higher than these girls
    – since you guys are animals i’m gonna act like an animal too
    – you guys can go fuck yourselves
    – you guys are all trash

    Soggy cares about $1K and lori’s mansion – she ignored

    – Teresa was laughing
    – Melissa was laughing
    – Teresa was relieving stress and it worked til Soggy errupted

    For someone who claims they are a relationship expert – she sux..she waits until the next day, seconds before they enter the mansion to address issues!

    Dull nuzzled Soggy’s butt again by threatening physical harm to mag’s

    “”I can’t play tennis, but I wish I could cuz I would back hand this bitch right now”

    Both Dull and Soggy ignored the fact that Teresa was grateful for Mags putting together that mini memorial for Teresa – I wouldn’t have called the two crab apples..they were very busy feeling sorry for themselves. Both ignored the fact that this mini memorial was thoughtful and helped all the women.

    Dull and soggy – pooped all over the place

    • I’m wondering why weren’t Sog and Dull at the beach yoga (at Soggy’s exclusive/private club, so Sog says). Too hung over? They went to a juice bar instead. Then feign they were ignored. SMH and calling bull shit.

  • Guess I’ll have to come back later to read Siggy novel, Siggy like the neighbor you duck behind your car to avoid getting into a conversation with, Just feel like hiding from even reading her blog.

    • September please, don’t make me go back and read chapters one thru 3 to find out if Soggy mentioned her dumping wine on the table and splashing it on others. That was real classy in HER restaurant. By the by, didn’t they have a private room for the B.D. bash? I didn’t see any other patrons there.

      • Actually it’s worse, the wine didn’t splash on Margaret top but almost, the wine spilled on Melissa new Chanel bag, hate her or love her, that’s really tragic… Can You even imagine if it was the other way around with Melissa dumping the wine. We see how she acted about the cake.

  • SHUT UP SIGGY. Even your blog is too long. You’re also very boring despite being loud, obnoxious and attempting to be the enter of attention. Go get some more framed pictures of yourself. No once cares and Boca is not “your town”. Your house doesn’t even appear that nice. Ugh. Go Margaret!