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Ramona Singer Admits This Season Was Hard To Watch & She’s Not Proud Of Her Behavior!

Ramona the apologizer” strikes again, sort of!

This season on RHONY Ramona Singer’s behavior was the worst we’ve ever seen; she spoke her mind but was disgustingly honest to a fault! No one was safe from her criticism or insults, but Bethenny Frankel was her main target. Ramona exposed Bethenny’s past topless video, and broke the cardinal rule of The Real Housewives; she brought Bethenny’s daughter into the drama!

Ramona defended her actions on WWHL and in her Bravo Blogs all season long, yet it seems that now that the season is over she’s changed her stance! After re-evaluating her behavior Ramona admitted in her final Bravo Blog of the season that she was wrong; while the actual words, “I’m sorry” were not printed, it’s clear that she knows she was out of line!

Ramona claimed that she didn’t actually deal with Mario’s affair and her divorce, so that’s why she was so out-of-whack, however, she didn’t say what she’s doing now to make things different. She will definitely be back in some form (part, or full-time), for season 10, because Ramona knows how to stir the pot and she has major amends to make with most of her RHONY co-stars!

To say I had a difficult season on RHONY is an understatement. Last season, I was helping to make sure everyone got along and liked each other, and I think I succeeded. It was a way for me to focus my energy on something else other than myself and what I was really going through and feeling.  As I watched back over the past few months, seeing myself has given me the opportunity to reflect and face the truth. The bottom line is, I behaved poorly. I treated others in a way that was disrespectful, and there’s no excuse for that, so I have decided to share what I personally have been going through this past year as I have been avoiding dealing with my feelings like the plague.

What I must say is that when you are filming a reality show, it is real, it is raw. No matter what happens to you the night before or the call you get before you start to film,  it’s all there…no script and you can’t become another character. I thought I was OK, I thought I was happy and I thought I was dealing with my divorce well, but the reality is that wasn’t the case at all.

I never thought the man who loved me so deeply and became the love of my life  would cheat on me repeatedly! I never thought he would ask for my forgiveness and then do it all over again. Internally, I was broken and did not know how I could move forward. I never really allowed myself to show anyone the deep pain of what happened with the downfall of my marriage. I thought I was putting on a good facade, but the truth came through in my actions and my behavior this season. This is something that I didn’t realize at the time of filming, no matter who may have pointed it out. I had to relive it by watching the show over the past several months to come to grips wth some things.

As women, we are known as fixers, and our job is to protect the people we love. I was married for 23 years, and when my marriage was falling apart, I did everything I could to fix it, even accepting abusive behavior from the man who was supposed to be my protector. I was so happy for so many years, and then it all just fell apart and at the end, I was so emotionally broken. My husband and my child meant everything to me. I never imagined that I would lose one of them, and I just didn’t know how to deal with all of it. When you are in pain and you’re hurting, it can manifest in many ways, so in my case it came out in my denial that I OK ok and in my behavior. I understand that now, and I am trying to do better.

I thought I had it planned it out so well, and that’s partly why I never got married until I was 37. I am a planner, and my plan of my idyllic marriage did not work. I know what ultimately pulled me through were my close friends and my financial independence.

My mother was physically and emotionally abused by my father on a daily basis, and she drummed into my head to be financially independent because of her situation. My mother could not leave her husband as she had nothing. I came from nothing, and I put myself through college. I had no connections, no mentors, no TV show to give me organic advertising to promote a business or product, yet I, against all odds and through determination, had my own multi-million dollar business at 30 years old. I give all the credit to my mother for my financial success. I also credit Bravo for my exposure of being on RHONY and being the first Real Housewife to be on HSN. I credit Bravo for giving me the platform that helped me develop my own wine, as my fans would always ask what my favorite Pinot Grigio was. Ramona Pinot Grigio was a great success, and I appeared  twice at The Flower Show in Philadelphia, where only the top performing brands are invited. I was proud to be able to accomplish all these things on my own.

For the first time in my life, I have no plans, no set path, where before I always have. It’s scary but liberating. I am enjoying and embracing life every day, and my daughter Avery is the biggest joy.  She is my best accomplishment, and I know from deep down that I parented her in the right way to make her into the wonderful young women she is today.

I’m not perfect, but I like to say perfect is boring. And boring I will never be!

 I’m glad to see that Ramona is taking some accountability for causing such gross, trashy drama this season, but I’m not totally convinced that it’s genuine; let’s hope that she is working towards getting her act together, and isn’t just trying to assure she’s back for RHONY season 10! 

Thoughts on Ramona’s blog? Is she being sincere? Why didn’t she actually apologize? Is Mario’s affair a good excuse for why she was nuts? Did you think less of Ramona after this season? Will she redeem herself, or is this just an act? Will you give Ramona another chance? Let’s discuss!

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  • FUCHESS

    And will she change her ways? That would be a big, no!!

    Too little, too late, but good try. Sigh….

  • michers

    You are fine Mona. You’re the only one whoever apologizes so just keep on going . Do you girl

  • rhfan

    Sorry, but I really didn’t see much difference between her this season and past seasons. Sure she was a bit more intense and seemed to be on something, but still self absorbed and entitled as always. She’s gone after kids before, slammed people’s businesses and been generally rude and belittled people long before we knew about marriage problems. I think people went easier on her the last 2 seasons because of f her divorce, but this season fans and cast were done with the free pass. I think Ramona is that rude, but funny friend who never really apologizes for anything unless she’s forced to and even then still blames it on someone/something else and you can’t get rid of her because she’s been in your circle for years and just keeps showing up, lol. Ramona is like bad luggage, you want to get rid of it and get something new but since you only see it a few times a year you just put up with it and hope it gets lost, lol.

  • September24

    Name one season where Ramona was proud of her behavior?! LOL! She hasn’t been likable for years.

  • samael

    Every RH has a specific “format” of honesty and this is Ramona’s – where the hell is Betheny’s apologies for stabbing/trashing/screeching at the cast?…crickets

    I’m glad that Andy put Ramona’s question in context…as the “fan” question did..”why not just answer the question, then it would be over”

    Bethenny is a bitch that received a cuppa karma…delivered by Ramona!

  • ScottyBman

    She still makes excuses for her behavior. That is not “owning” it. But she is good TV, just not a good person. There is a difference.

  • Diamonds & Rosé

    There is no RHONY without Ramona.