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Cary Deuber Insists “My Husband Is Not Gay” & Claims Neutrality In The Brandi Redmond Vs. Stephanie Hollman Feud!

RHOD is back on Bravo for season 2 and it’s evident that we’re in for a wild ride!

With the exception of a few cast members, the housewives are pretty much the same, so we’re getting to know them better and better as each week passes; for some, this is good, while it just causes more problems for others.

We exclusively told you months ago that RHOD hubby Mark Deuber was caught telling his co-stars (and other high society members in Dallas) that Bravo was planning a spin-off for the Deubers because they have many qualities that viewers go crazy for; they are rich, still married, and he is a plastic surgeon. I can’t think of anyone that would actually watch this show, and Mark made himself look even stranger than usual.

Clearly, the Deuber’s aren’t getting a spin-off, but in this week’s Bravo Blog Cary did address rumors about her husband Mark, but not about their alleged new show, about his sexuality! Cary insisted that despite his eye for style and obsession with women’s clothing, Mark is straight! She also claimed that she did all that she could to remain neutral in the feud between Stephanie Hollman and Brandi Redmond!

First of all, I want to give a shout out to all of the hardworking moms out there! The struggle is real! Being a working mom is hard. Life is not all about -just you- anymore… It actually feels like it’s about everyone but you! Priorities change, and you just have to hold on. There are definitely days that I struggle to make it through… Make it until I put Zuri to bed and have a moment to myself as I close my eyes. Is it worth it… Yes. I would have it no other way. This is definitely going to be the year for me to find a true balance in my life. Finding this balance can be really difficult. Thousands of moms out there can attest to that, and therefore I only want friends by my side that add positivity to my life; a shoulder to cry on when I need it and to be there to do the same if they need it. We’re all grown-ups, and no one has time to take on unnecessary conflict. I already have to deal with my surgical schedule conflicting with my kid’s soccer practice… don’t really need to add to the list! You see, I don’t have time for bullshit. I need to put the kibosh on drama whenever I can. I need to surround myself with women that lift me up because it is frankly hard enough as a woman to fulfill all of the roles in life. This year has been a challenge trying to find balance and bliss, but I’m thankful for the relationships that have brought me peace, love, and support.

Speaking of… We have a style maker in the house! There is no question that Mark helps me look my best. I’m so proud of him and his passion for style and design. That passion and commitment is a big part of what makes him such a great plastic surgeon. A keen eye for strong aesthetics and an assertive attitude make him great at what he does. So, when Mark was nominated as a Dallas Culture Map Style Maker, it was a pretty exciting deal! Mark’s stylishly European upbringing has been a huge influence on our entire family, and I think it’s amazing (and selfishly convenient for me!). But, I can also already anticipate the nasty remarks; not masculine; not normal? NOT your business! Why do I even have to mention he’s not gay? Are the trolls out there really going to try to sell that as an insult? Let’s shut that down right now. It’s not cool… Change your viewpoint. Listen, it is immeasurably ignorant to say someone is “gay” because they like style or art. We all have plenty of friends WHO HAVE great fashion sense and plenty who don’t. It has nothing to do with sexual preference and is very offensive and small-minded to think that way (let alone spew it directly at people like it even matters). I am so proud of my stylishly savvy husband in everything that he does, and I’m still beaming that he was featured as a style expert in Dallas. At the end of the day, the most important thing here is love. You don’t need even half a brain to figure that one out.

When it comes to the Brandi Redmond and Stephanie Hollman confrontation, it was very difficult to sit in my position and not choose sides. Even though I saw myself potentially getting pulled into another non-existent issue with a hot dog, I chose to stand my ground and keep my mouth shut while these two long time friends finally had a moment to speak. It’s like I said before, why take on extra conflict? I mean, I’m watching these girls, keeping an eye on my tiny dog, and also watching my kid in the middle of a park – all while still trying to get to the bottom of what’s really going on between Steph and Brandi. I desperately didn’t want to be in the middle of that; but it felt like Brandi was the one who was actually putting me there. Brandi’s major frustration is over me calling Stephanie my “ride or die” this summer in a Tweet? Um… It was a cycling charity event for domestic violence survivors that Stephanie invited me to. Girl…“Ride or die” was the event hashtag to publicize the event… a -cycling- charity event at Soulcycle… like ride or die literally meant ride a bike to raise money for a shelter so someone doesn’t die from domestic violence. But now a little jealousy is getting in the way of Brandi’s friendship with Stephanie that long outdated mine? Sounds like a reach. That combined with the fact that I’m sure Stephanie tried to get Brandi there, too, and she simply chose not to come. I really wasn’t sure what to say in that moment when I realized that my friendship with Stephanie was somehow affecting Brandi (and we’re all friends!).

When Brandi brought up the whole text-gate thing, I got upset because I really do care about Brandi and Stephanie and didn’t want to get in the middle of whatever mess they were dealing with. To this day, I still don’t get it. And I should not have to. It’s their friendship- I didn’t think it was right to involve myself or allow myself to get pulled in. At that moment, with all of the feelings that Brandi explained to me, I was a little crushed and lost my cool because it seemed at that point impossible to just be a supportive friend from the sidelines and not end up with an irrelevant issue of my own to deal with. That really sucks because, while I love my girlfriends, it started to become apparent in that moment that I just I can’t be friends with everyone.

That’s life though, isn’t it… My biggest regret this episode?

That we didn’t get to see my little Lily in her puppicino costume! She was so CUTE! So, none of the Deubers won public awards tonight!!!? Hey – what can you expect, right? It was a long day, full of judging, confrontation, and fair food… and we all know I don’t have the best luck around this group and hot dogs.

Thoughts on Cary’s blog? Do you like Cary and Mark? Do you think Mark’s gay? Do you think they were really getting a spin-off? Would you watch? Do you think Cary actually tried to stay neutral? Did she succeed at it, or did she clearly take Stephanie’s side? Thoughts on RHOD season 2 so far?

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Jenna Ferlise

Jenna began writing for AllAboutTRH in October of 2015. She is a graduate of The Catholic University of America in Washington, DC. She is from, and currently resides in Toms River, New Jersey. Jenna is the finance manager at her family’s business, Toms River Marine and Motorsports, where she specializes in all aspects of customer relations. She is a lover of exercise and fashion with a guilty pleasure of celebrity gossip. You can catch her on the water during Jersey Shore summers boating with friends and family. Jenna is an avid supporter of the Lupus Foundation of America.

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  • The ” so and so’s hubby is gay” bs needs to stop ! It’s not to be used as insult and as an adult they can sex who they want so obvsies if married ( Hetero or same sex), they made their choice !!!!!!!!!!!

    • Seems the Bravo go to plot lines now are : illness, infinitely, gay rumors , drug or alcohol issues . What’s next ? Questioned paternity? somebody’s husband being a drug lord ? Nazi affiliation??


      • Don’t doubt it . It’s iut if hand now IMO and it’s one thing to say one is an Ahole or a biatch but this kind of innuendo needs to be stopped .

        • Excatly!!! I was reading some UGLY attack , spread by Vicki , that insinuated that Eddy Judge had an ‘inappropriate ‘ relationship with his adoptive dad ! That’s DISGUSTING and goes too too far ! It’s sickening

          • So dreadful , on top of the million other things so , for me as a viewer right now , there is just no coming back for her IMO.

  • Not liking that Andy is approving these storylines about sexual orientation. Why is it ok to do this to a human, and why is it considered an “accusation”.

    I like Carey alot – she says to your face – what she means!

    btw Bravo just put an update for stepanie – they bought the home with the pool in the livingroom and they filled in the pool!

      • Andy has “story approval” in his job description – he is a two faced liar – on twitter he slams anyone who tweets any hate towards gay or when Trump does..yet he approves all this hate! I am getting tired of Bravo and Andy

        • Andy is in a position to be an advocate for LGBTQ community but instead he’s proving to be a hypocrite.

              • usually when he asks for questions for the reunions – I am going to ask him about his approval of hate! geez last 3 seasons for the RH have been in the gutter..except for RHNJ

                • I will tweet him too . Let’s not forget all the phobia by hr Atlanta cast in particular that Andy never calls out .

                    • Nene is one of the worst . She has gotten so much love from the LGBTQ community and been disrespectful in return. Pheadra and Porscha are aweful too . They all filmed in San Francisco for the new season in an attempt to portray them as more gay friendly lol

                    • Oh for real ??? I didn’t know Nene was like that , I’m not sure I have heard that . I do have to say that quite a few that do Bravo shows from ATL have that issue with misspeaking , putting feet in mouth . I don’t always think they’re all malicious just speaking without thinking . The married to medicine cast was worse I think ? It’s a shame though .

                    • You could be right about putting foot in mouth . I think for Nene though, after working with Ryan Murphy and shows like Fashion police , she should be more politically correct . Her fans look up to her and now more than ever she needs to speak responsibly. Don’t watch Married to medicine lol

                    • Oh ok … Well I agree to that .
                      Married to medicine is very similar to HWs. Backstabbing , rumor spreading , petty , physical altercations , lies … Girls gone wild lol

          • He seems to be an advocate only at certain times not ALL the time and I’m over that shit too . Pick a lane sweetie ! Oh and I said “sweetie” as its his favorite name when he’s pissy and has a go at someone lol !

            • He does say sweetie when he’s being condescending, you’re right lol . He was allegedly caught chasing college boys on Fire island this summer lol . Scandalous lol

    • Sam it takes a lot to get me riled but I’m so irritated by this , I can’t say it enough . I really hate that the media perpetuates this and continues to give shit like this life .

  • Are ya kidding I would love for someone to tell me what to wear! Lol and be right about it!!! On a Friday night my bed looks like my closet exsploded! LoL!! I don’t find anything wrong with him styling her! What a bonus! Hard working husband good dad and he not only buys the clothes but shows her what to wear! Love love ! You go do you boo!!