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Luann Confesses Tom’s Infidelity Was ‘Over The Line’ During Explosive ‘RHONY’ Reunion

While Luann de Lesseps tried to make, it seem like she and Tom D’Agostino were happily married during the Real Housewives of New York reunion it quickly became visible that there was trouble in paradise.

In fact, Luann started off the reunion by claiming married life was “fantastic” and that she loved being “Mrs. D’Agostino” but her demeanor quickly changed when rumors of Tom’s infidelity arose.

Reunion host, Andy Cohen pulled no punches and asked Luann about all those cheating rumors. And Luann’s castmates couldn’t help but fill her and Andy in on all the things they’ve heard about Tom’s flirty shenanigans.

First Andy questioned Luann about Tom’s strange behavior in a clip where he compared wearing a wedding ring to a “dog with a collar.”

Luann admitted that Tom’s “humor is a little bit off.”

However, Andy didn’t stop there.

“Does it alarm you that Bethenny [Frankel] is saying that they [her costars] have all heard things since you’ve been married? Does that raise your antenna?” Cohen asked.

“Of course it does,” Luann responded.

“Let me ask you this, do you have an open relationship?” Andy pressed.

“No,” she insisted. “Not at all. I’m not interested in an open relationship. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be married.”

“If you found out that he had cheated on you, what would you do?” Andy questioned.

“I would definitely leave,” Luann explained.

Then things took a turn for the worse when Ramona Singer dropped a bombshell about Tom.

“He met a woman from Philadelphia, who was recently divorced, at the Regency Bar and he went up to the hotel room with her,” Ramona shared. “He said he had an open relationship with you…but nothing happened.”

Luann refused to believe Ramona’s tale forcing Bethenny to step in and back up Ramona.

“In all fairness, I don’t love her delivery, but her content seems to be true,” Bethenny said, revealing all the Housewives “have heard things” about Tom.

“We all are being respectful of the fact that they are married. We do hear things, but what the hell are we gonna do now?” she explained.

Luann then went onto make it clear she would “definitely leave” if Tom cheated; saying “You can push me so far, but once you push me over the line…”

However, Sonja Morgan quickly pointed out that Luann “stayed with Alex [de Lesseps] all those years” even though “he wasn’t faithful.”

Andy then added fuel to the fire and pointed out Tom’s shady behavior with his ex-girlfriend Missy at Tinsley Mortimer’s party.

If you don’t recall Tom told Missy he needed to turn his microphone off to talk with her.

Andy asked if that scene raised Luann’s suspicions especially since it came after Tom was seen “flirting with her and being a little suggestive with [Missy].”

“I wasn’t happy,” Luann admitted.

“He’s a very insecure man,” Ramona chimed in. “Whatever woman he’s with, he kind of goes across the boundaries of flirtation, just going a little too far.”

Bethenny also admitted she was shocked that Luann let so much of Tom’s bad behavior roll off her shoulders.

“You have an inhuman way about you where you have that Countess shield up,” Bethenny told Luann, “and like one of ten things that he’s ever said to you, I’d be crying in the bathroom.”

The Countess fired back saying,“Why do you think I stayed at the hotel last night? Okay?”

“I’m not going to change him at this point in his life. I can’t tell him not to go to the Regency,” Luann continued. “He’s a 50-year-old man, who’s lived his entire life a certain way as a bachelor. He has friends. I’m friends with [ex-boyfriend] Jacques [Azoulay].”

“You don’t make out with Jacques!” Bethenny shot back.

I feel like when the reunion was being filmed Luann was living in a land called delusional. Or perhaps she knew her marriage was over but couldn’t admit it yet. Either way, it’s sad. No woman deserves to be treated like this by the man she loves, and no woman should put up with being treated this way. I’m glad Luann and Tom are splitting because Luann can do so much better.

What did you think of part one of the RHONY reunion? Do you think Luann was trying to hide the cracks in her marriage? Could Luann have already known her marriage was over when she filmed the reunion? Was it right for Ramona and Bethenny to reveal the rumors they’ve heard about Tom? Are the RHONY looking out for Luann by questioning Tom’s behavior?

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  • She knew he was a dog the moment she started secretly dating him while he and Sonja were still having occasional sex and she was living Sonja’s home. Tom didn’t play Luann, she played herself.

  • I enjoyed the first show and boy were they on LuMan. Looking now, it’s almost as if the gals knew it was the end of the line for the marriage already and were pushing for her to just admit it. I was sickened watching her trying to sell the happy marriage, happy wife story, but I got to see how she goes about blatantly lying. It will give you a heads up on how she looks when lying. Afterall, forewarned is forearmed…

  • Quite sure she knew about it but didn’t wanna believe what they were trying to tell her, guess it’s best to find out on your own

  • I wish the luann crap would stop. People act like she’s the first one going through a divorce. Seriously.

  • i don’t know if Luann can do better…both of her husbands cheated on her. EIther something is lacking in her relationships or she picks the wrong men. i wish her the best but . I don’t have much hope. I think that she’ll go back to dating way too young guys and acting like the fool. I hope that her son talks to her and tells her that she is worth more than she apparently thinks she is based on the partners she picks.

    • Yes they cheated but she isn’t without fault either . IDK about this marriage? I guess she was only faithful one in it

    • You shouldn’t be blaming Lu cause her husband’s cheated! That’s like saying the woman wore short skirts was why she was raped. That’s pathetic. Obviously Lu is a hopeless romantic and thought her and Tom had something deeper. At 50 years old she thought this bachelor finally wanted more and chose her that they were soul mates. He’s the one who has being faithful issues. What did he think marriage meant? He’s a bald old man that looks much older then 50 and will die a lonely old fool. I’m sure the women that do cheat with him or date him do so for his money nothing more. At least Lu loved him and he’s the one losing out. Luanne will be just fine.

  • She knew what he was like and she herself admitted she couldn’t change him. How is he a dick and she a victim? Is she that stupid?

      • I guess she underestimated how much she could put up in exchange for the Palm Beach lifestyle! She’s really made a fool of herself. I wonder if on the next girls’ trip she’ll demand the best room because she’s a divorcee LOL

  • I felt bad for Lu but think most of the women really do cars about her. She’s got a great Countess- less side that I really like. I’m so glad she is no longer with Tom. I’m sure Ramona and Sonja don’t mind either being they acted so jealous. Lu can do so much better and will find a great guy if she reaches outside of the Upper East Side groupies!!

  • Off Topic

    Brandi just got evicted from CBB – she is the 4th eviction. The way I remember CBB – you try and take out the “strongest” first and eliminate the “weaklings” last. Maybe what got her evicted – she lied about her age and then her big plan – try and make a dude break up with a person he met on the show – cuz apparently he cheated in the past.

    I really thought Brandi would stay on longer.

  • What annoyed me the most about this part of the reunion Andy’s pet – Blechenny – shredded Ramona/Lu/Sonja -meanwhile she loses her shit all season for ONE thing being mentioned about her precious perfect life! trash

    • She’s too weird at reunions . She shreds and condemns while being one of the nastiest last couple years , but minutes later will agree with them , laugh and confirm things they say . Everytime she acts like an Ahole , I like her less , which I thought I ran out of Effs to give seasons ago lol ?! I thought it was interesting that Dorinda also had same issue with her that others have over the years .

      • Right?!

        holy smokes – no one even cared when she went on her tangent about Jill..she answered the question and Andy moved on! There are times I have compassion for Blechenny – her first season back after the divorce – she seemed/acted vulnerable, and all the RH surrounded her with compassion and hugs…and Bethenny’s thanks for that is

        – telling Sonja she wants nothing to do with her
        – tells Ramonacoaster – I want nothing to do with you
        – calls Lu inhumane
        – calls Dorinda “village idiot”
        – calls Carole a maniac – cuz carole took a break from kissing her butt to talking about Trump

        yeah, she’s a people person and Andy’s pet!

        • Bethenny just double speaks so much. Last year when she was having her lady troubles and had the surgery she wrote in her blog Ramona did the most to help her, checked on her each day, brought food to her house during her recovery. In the same blog she said Ramona is the most maternal and caring in the group when one of them is hurting. Funny because Jill said the same thing about Ramona and how Ramona recently showed up at the hospital with food for Jill (Bobby is ill in the hospital) and stayed there hours with her even though they are not close now. However, this season when they were feuding and Ramona was protesting that she felt she had been a good friend to Bethenny during Bethenny’s divorce or when she needed support, Bethenny raged back that she had done nothing for her. Ramona tried to defend herself and said in fact she had been supportive but Bethenny had not been there for her at all the last year in return after her divorce, but Bethenny cuts her off and will not listen to a word of it. So which words are the truth because it can’t be both. From what I see Bethenny has been the most vicious in fact to Ramona these last two years when Ramona learned about Mauricio’cheating and the separation and divorce. Bethenny mocked Ramona’s new start/post divorce party instead of supporting how difficult starting over after 20+ years must have been for Ramona. Ramona is obnoxious, absolutely, but I have seen very little compassion at all from Bethenny to Ramona for all she has gone thru.

          • Just for a minute, think of how Bethenny would react if the ladies talked & treated her like she treats her cast mates!!! Now that would be a Shyte show! Why does she think it’s only her opinions that count! She doesn’t listen to any of the girls input! She is right & that is that !!! She has money & power , but that is where it starts & ends ! Her heart is cold, her tongue is sharp, her personality ,well where is it ? Her quick wit is one thing, but the hurt she causes is something she can never take back !!!

          • Exactly and thank you for posting the examples . I just get so distracted by the bitchiness I forget to lay them out myself lol. That’s why I am confused when the bashing Ramona because , even though she misspeaks at times, Ramona HAS done good for others on and off camera and HAS been a friend and I think the ONLY one who apologizes . Crazy because those others you mention ( Beth, Jill)?,haven’t not been supportive or good two way street friends !

    • I agree! Sure her divorce has been a PIA, but to always break down like that makes me scratch my head . There either must be something really nasty that’s not gotten out, or, she’s just a phony diva that thinks she should get a pass talking about her truth. I like B, but she’s in everybody’s business and in their face about issues, but she’ll stick a bitch if you talk about hers. She should be grilled like LuMann was.

  • Delusional is correct. But we got your back, Lu. And you WILL bounce back, on top of a pirate, preferably. Tom is a d–k.

    PS: Speaking of dicks, Andy was extra bitchy to Luann this reunion, yeah? I mean, he’s always been a shady c–t, but lately he’s been the Daenerys Targaryen of c–ts, I feel like. First of His name, the Unc–t, Mother of C–ts… so basically, he’s dethroned LVC in Gaym of C–nts.

    • Thank you. There are 3 or 4 posters on here who appear to be total bitches without an ounce of compassion or understanding. One of them made a ridiculous comment saying how awful Lu was to come down so hard on Ramona and Sonja, when the fact is that they’ve both been incredibly nasty towards LuAnne throughout this unfortunate situation with Tom. Besides which they’re both nuts and they’ve always been jealous of LuAnne. How anyone could defend those two douchebags at this stage of the game is beyond me.

      • Hello Ella / I said it and I’ll keep saying it because Lu is total biatch hypocrite . My compassion stopped for her when she knew full well what she was doing for storyline this season and probably next . She has gossiped , accused , insulted and called names all the while contradicting her OWN etiquette class act .All of them are flawed – why is she so extra to the least harmful ? Oh because Beth already blew her ass out of insult water last season . Carole wrote her off seasons ago and Tinsley is a dipshit. Tell me , did you have this ” compassion” when Mario cheated on Ramona after 20 something years? I felt bad for her prior to wedding when the world knew he cheated . Lastly , I can have my own opinions and don’t have to agree with anyone here and I’m not a ” total bitch” either because of it; That’s unnecessary by the way …

      • Dear Ella

        people that post a different opinion than your – that does not make them “total bitches”…wow

        All of the RHNY have their bitchy and nice side – all have gossiped/backstabbed and got drunk to the best of their abilities. Even Lu knows she screwed up, she tweeted that! wow

  • Sonja! LOL! “you stayed with the count”. That was funny! Payback for you don’t have a yacht!! I am LMAO!!!!

  • What irritated me watching Lu flip flop on infidelity , was how bitchy she was toward Ramona when Beth was backing up what Ramona says !!! She takes a mean jab at Ramona every chance she gets and quite frankly , I’m really growing tired of the woman on woman crime towards Mona and Sonja. Some of these biatches have said and done way worse and its moved on from . Even Beth – bitchy as ever – taking shots at how Ramona looked at reunion but then backs her up. This is a shit show too often . Oh and I think Lu is a beast because Ramona was and is right about Tom .

  • I think Lu believed in her relationship with Tom – until she watched the whore de-mic while he entertained missy. It is true that Ramona has been shoving Missy in Toms lap – maybe that is Ramona’s format of “proof” – that everytime Missy showed up – whore made a bee line to her.

    I did feel bad for Lu – I know she knew all of his whoreish behavior – this crew eagerly jumped Lu – not in the name of friendship – but in the manner of “see how right I am?”

    The demise of the marriage was predictable – too bad the crew of dogs behavior about it was just as predictable.

    This is what happens when you marry a whore – easy target practise – and Lu knew about that too..just wish the crew didn’t eagerly jump Lu

    • I agree with you but Lu’s behavior prior to meeting Tom wasn’t exactly saintly either…remember the Johnny Depp Pirate and the disappearing act in the bathroom at clubs? I think that she attracted exactly what she got in Tom… a serious player.

      • hey there bloggerlady!

        No way am I saying Lu is a saint! she parties and dirties down like all RH. I hate that Tom played her – geez – when do people pay attention to vows?

        • I woman knows!! She knew he was a dog and the first red flag is….still a bachelor at 50!
          Why did he follow through is because of money? Or Lu was the best looking he had ever had…seriously look at that douche!! He is nothing don’t care if he has money!!

          • good question Carrie

            I never thought of why he married, he is a serial RH dater…so famewhore is not it..Carrie, there was a clip on the Bravo site I think…that did show his last text to her before the reunion – did you see it? In Canada we do not have access to this so I am wondering what he has the “you know what’s ” to text to lu!