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Tamra Judge: ‘I Would Never Abuse, Hurt or Neglect’ Daughter Sidney

Almost paradise…

Tamra Judge may be in paradise but her vacation hasn’t been ideal.

The Real Housewives of Orange County star has been in Aruba with her husband Eddie Judge for a vow renewal ceremony and was joined by two of her kids Sophia and Spencer Barney.

During the trip, Tamra’s oldest daughter Sidney Barney slammed her in a Facebook post that quickly went viral.

Now Tamra is once again speaking out about the drama between her and her estranged daughter Sidney.

“We had a great last day in Aruba. Rented a jeep and drove around the Island. Ended our night at the Brazilian steak house (we ate way too much) So many wonderful memories made. Although bittersweet,” Judge captioned (now deleted) Instagram pics of her family getaway.

“I want to say thank you to everyone that has reached out to me to see if I’m okay. I/We are trying our best to enjoy our vacation. Thank you to my Mom who is not taking this very well and feels the need to defend me. I love you, Mom,” she continued. “I love my daughter and I would NEVER abuse, hurt or neglect her in any way. I ask that you do not send Sidney negative messages or comments, Direct them at me if feel the need. Thank you for all your love and support #godhasthisinhishands.”

As previously reported Sidney wrote a scathing Facebook post about her mom detailing the issues in their fractured relationship.

“I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publicly [sic] as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show,” Sidney wrote on Monday, August 7. “I actually chose my mother’s side when my parents separated. This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parent’s arguments. She even called us Simon or ‘mini Simon’ when we did something bad or told us that we were ‘acting like your father.’”

Adding,“This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However, as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic.”

Thoughts on Tamra’s post? Do you believe claims Tamra abused and neglected Sidney? Do you think Tamra sent Sidney negative comments or messages? Who do you believe – Sidney or Tamra?

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  • pastagirl

    Gee Tamra…just shut up already. What the hell does it take for you to understand that your daughter does not want you to talk about her. Stop trying to explain yourself and just be a good mother for a change.

  • donna

    I believe Sidney. It would be much better if Tamra would just quit putting the girl on social media, just don’t do it, just respect the girls wishes, &:everything would be great!

  • Laurie

    Tamra, you STILL don’t know how to shut it. Keep digging your own grave because you’ll never be a mom to Sydney at this point. The more you profess your love publicly, the more she will retreat.

  • FUCHESS

    It seems to me the only way for her to really get to her mother is via social media since her shitty mother lives and dies by it. Tamrot should have just kept quiet, for once. Her daughter has made a simple request, stop talking about her, period. Sadly, instead of complying, for the love of a daughter, Tamrot amps it up and continues to not only mention her name, but make it a storyline and even make an afternoon special about poor, POS, her…and her daughter. That woman is unfukcingbelievable!

  • FUCHESS

    Sidney, duh!

  • michers

    As the mother is getting crucified on social media , she has right to speak on her own behalf and her situation and rightfully so since this ill timed FB drama post surfaced allegedly from the daughter .” Don’t talk about me but I’ll post shit on Facebook “… Mmmmmkaaayy …

    • Rain

      Michers ???????????? How are you snuggles? I was just telling Dindi that I haven’t seen you for a few days ! TGIF

      • michers

        Hey girl ! Missed ya’s !!! I’m good – hope you are also honey

        • Rain

          Ready for another weekend ! Always fun ??. The weather is lovely so the beach may be an option.

          • michers

            Ohhh nice !!! Boobs up butt out lol

            • Rain

              ????? heck yeah ! Always ready for a motor boating sesh ????

              • michers

                LMAO

                • Rain

                  What do you have planned hotsie totsie ?

                  • michers

                    Shits and gigs babe , shits and gigs . Firing up the grill for one last big hangout today. Everyone has to go back to their areas lol; homes , college … Bittersweet

                    • Rain

                      Ahhh ??? the boys left already aonyes bittersweet. Hubs and I going to the beach for a bit and will eat there
                      Have fun , gorgeous! ??

                    • michers

                      Thanks honey!! Hope you and the hubs have nice time pretty XO… No indecent exposure lol!!!! XO

                    • Rain

                      Indecent exposure??? That ship has sailed long time ago ???

                    • michers

                      ha!!! You’re a hoot !

                    • Rain

                      Happy Monday hotsie ???? I hope you have a lovely week

                    • michers

                      Hey !!!!!!!! I hope it is lovely, time will tell . Off today – dental cleanings . Ugh . Hope you gave a fabulous start to your week !!

                    • Rain

                      Clean those chompers ???

                    • michers

                      Monday Fundday

  • RealHousewivesFanNJOC

    I am questioning the timing of Sidney coming out that she is upset with her mother. Why didn’t she state that once Tamra put it online in the first place? I think their is more to the story. I understand Sidney has issues with Tamra but something doesn’t add up. I hope they do get this resolved.

    • swizzle

      Agreed. The photos were posted weeks (months?) ago. No comment then. The erased children episode was last week. No comment then. She posted this week when the rest of the family was in Aruba on vacation. And what Sidney posted was not even accurate. Google the court documents. Tamra was pushing hard for therapy, Sidney went to court to fight it and Simon backed her up. Simon accused Tamra of being unfit, the court-ordered evaluation found nothing to that claim.

      I’m sure there is some truth to what we hear from all sides of this situation, but I’m not buying Sidney’s story completely.

      And Gretchen is the worst person ever to continually publicly insert herself in this.

      • RealHousewivesFanNJOC

        That was my thoughts exactly. The whole situation is sad. Gretchen should keep her mouth shut. It’s just to stir up trouble.

      • michers

        That’s what I thought and agree with you and @ real

      • Gagaperry

        Stop messing with my head lol, I see what you mean and now I’m confused

    • LJ

      It was because of the episode that aired and Tamra talking about “parental alienation”. It was a buildup to it. It’s not just the picture. It’s the fact that Tamra REFUSES to STOP using the broken relationship as a storyline.

  • Cori

    Your just throwing gas on the fire by keeping all the comments coming. Sheesh, Tamra….let it rest already. Worry about fixing this with your daughter instead of what John Q Public thinks. I think Simon and Tamra are probably both guilty of using the kids a fodder in a nasty divorce and those poor kids were definitely caught in the cross fire. But, unless you have a time machine and can change it all…..try to fix it! Start by keeping your daughters name off your social media and stop using this story as a way to have a story for the show.

    • Gagaperry

      Cori, yand said it all

    • michers

      That family needs to stop ! Simon , if still controls the girl , should reign her in since she doesn’t want to be discussed ! Oh but wait! She’s the child shouldn’t say anything but wait again she’s 18 now and is using media to bitch about her mom ( allegedly ). So silly to me .

      • Gagaperry

        You’re definitely in the minority , good for you lol

        • michers

          Haha, used to it . Not something new ‘ round these parts lol

          • Gagaperry

            Lol go with it

            • michers

              Only way to go lol !!!!

          • Gagaperry

            Thank you for asking about me the other day. I’m better now , had a bad spell that’s all

            • michers

              Oh ok . You’re welcome 🙂 Here’s to back to normal , whatever that is !!!!!

  • samael

    This was completely unnecessary for Tam’s to post – couldn’t she just not play the victim and leave this alone? wow – way to be present for your family vacation

    • ladybear

      That’s exactly what I was thinking. I knew somehow she would turn herself into the victim in all of this.

    • michers

      She’s trying to lightly defend the situation and I would too. I think most any of the HWs would . I just don’t get the whole bs issue now ! Pics were posted in like May or June ? Tams doesn’t say one thing negative about that girl on shoe and now people are bickering over their shit !

      • nvrbl

        Tamra has made her daughter her story line and lies every episode about the reason for the estrangement. One of the main reasons for the estrangement is that Tamra keeps dragging her daughter through her social media and talking about her on the show. Tamra obviously doesn’t care about the estrangement , if she did care, she would quit putting her daughters name and private business out there

        • michers

          Ok well that’s your opinion by I have yet to see anyone that doesn’t bash of hate this stranger make valid point or opinion .
          Any mother who feels hurt because of family issue FEELS it and expressed that so she can say what she wants about her family . Simon was and is a dick that really did a number on her and also 3/4 ‘s of her kids , so there’s that

          • nvrbl

            Most celebrities are protective of their children’s privacy. Tamra’s daughter quit talking to her mother in large part because she told her mother that she did not want to be talked about on the show or in social media and Tamra has now made her daughter her storyline, blaming everything on her ex husband, slandering and lying about the child’s father while dismissing her daughters feelings. So Tamra makes sad faces, fake cries, and holds up signs saying “erased parent” to get sympathy. Tamra’s actions show that it is not Simon, it is Tamra who drives her daughter away. Now Tamra’s fans are online calling her daughter a spoiled brat, a snot and other horrible things. That is 100% on Tamra.

            • michers

              It’s not on her that adults are idiots with a keyboard.
              I’m not defending her 100% but I’m not going to condemn her either , not on this matter . Both parents are at fault , it’s wrong she was allowed by Simon to be alienated especially and Sidney has to learn she can’t have her cake and it too . It’s not fair she incites a Tamra bash session riot then cries privacy !!!! And I’m standing by my I initial comment that, the mother SAID nothing wrong and as the adult ,has the right and choice to discuss her family issues – fallouts or not .

            • FUCHESS

              Well, I agree with you. Tamrot will just not stop talking about her daughter every chance she gets.

            • bingo32

              ITA w nvrbl. Tamra is the one guilty of parental alienation of affection, not Simon. That whole Ireland fiasco used Tamra’s daughter as a storyline against Kelly. There was NO reason for that moron Shannon to tell Tamra what kelly said unless it was for a storyline. Tamra’s reaction was so over the top it was actually funny. I don’t think Tamra gives a shit what her daughter thinks as she is not capable. of thinking of anyone but herself. And for the record Vicki did not start rumors about Eddie beng gay, they have been around a long time.

        • michers

          She’s not dragging her though , not negatively and this is where I see Simon coming though in that girl . Sad . They want to hurt and suppress her to have their way but then like to start the shit publicly for her to have backlash . Wrong . I can’t even imagine as a mother how she feels , almost helpless . Talking probably helps a little so as to not have a huge internal / emotional buildup

    • Laurie

      And she’s ruined Aruba for me. Ick! It’s like my second home.

  • September24

    Sorry Tamra you did hurt Sidney. She asked you not to post the graduation pictures. You did. You intentionally hurt your daughter. Are you any different than Vicki was with Brianna? hmmm……

    • Rain

      I agree

    • ScottyBman

      I was going to say the exact same thing. 100% on point!

    • ScottyBman

      I was going to say the exact same thing. 100% on point!

    • Kirby

      I’m with Scotty , I was going to say the same thing

    • Scallylad

      Tamra’s head is so far up her own behind , she just doesn’t get it

  • Rain

    Oh for heavens sake , LET IT GO , woman! Stop breathing life into this story

    • Kirby

      I don’t get it either man

    • Bartlebug

      Good morning Rain – She can’t let it go just like plastic surgery. I am looking forward to when this all stops for Tamra and get to see her on a “where are they now” special with the ratty extensions and waxy look wears off. Very Norma Desmond:
      Norma Desmond: You heard him. I’m a star.
      Joe Gillis: Norma, you’re a woman of 50, now grow up. There’s nothing tragic about being 50, not unless you try to be 25.
      Laughing…It’s 95% of the HW’s!!!!

      • Rain

        G morning gorgeous ????. Yes it does get kinda tragic when they get to this point. I go back to what I’ve always said, get of any HW after 4 years, so they don’t feel the need to fabricate drama and come up with absurd scenarios . After a feee years off, maybe they can come back

        I hope you’re looking forward to the weekend ??

        • Bartlebug

          Gorgeous? It’s like looking in the mirror! Back at you (I’d put a kissy icon but again – new to this)! At least when I look at myself and know that the only thing fake are the acrylics!!! Yes, I am looking fwd and I do hope you enjoy yours as well!

          • Rain

            well I’ll add emojis on your behalf ????????. I kept throwng away mirrors till I found the one that made me look gorgeous. I realized it wasn’t me , it was the mirror ??? you’re a sweetheart and a kind and gentle poster and I bow down for that
            I am indeed looking forward to the weekend. My boys headed back to get ready for college . I love the assholes but it’s nice to have the place back ???

            • Bartlebug

              Try looking at the side of a chrome toaster – I do and my eyes look SO big (and really really far apart close to my ears -LOL)! Enjoy your YOU time this weekend!

              • Rain

                Toaster trick , i love it ?? I will enjoy my weeken and you do the same ! Plus game of thrones on Sunday ! Too obsessed ??