Kandi Gets Emotional; Says She Will Always Respect Her Mother At All Cost

December 10, 2013 |By Continue Reading

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Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kandi has been getting called out several times regarding the relationship she has with her mother. You see Kandi’s mother Joyce has been very outspoken about Kandi’s fiancee Todd and has even spread rumors that Todd is having an affair on Kandi with her best friend Carmen! Kandi appeared on Watch What Happens Live earlier this week and dished on the drama with her mom explaining that she doesn’t care what people say about the relationship she has with her mother! Check it out below

Kandi told Andy, “First of all I don’t care what people feel when it comes to my relationship with my mother. Then on top of that I feel like she is my mother and I’m going to respect her at all costs. People don’t think that I tell her how I feel. I do tell her how I feel. I just don’t say it in an aggressive tone.”

Kandi also calls out Wendy Williams for going too far!

Do you think Kandi handles her mother well?

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HelloMini
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HelloMini
2 years 7 months ago
Kandi’s mother reminds me of my mother and I have self-diagnosed my mother with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Being a daughter of and NPD sucks! My mom involved me in all of her fights, including fights with my Dad and always made me pick a side. Growing up, if I questioned anything that she did, she automatically thinks I am taking the other person’s side. She is never wrong or has had or will ever have any faults. I had no idea that my mom suffered from this until I got a fiance and she thought I chose him OVER… Read more »
mtrae9
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mtrae9
2 years 8 months ago

I don’t buy that Kandi does not want to be disrespectful to her mother. She knows there are ways to say something without being disrespectful. She just does not want to deal with the problem. Nobody likes (or should like) confrontation, but sometimes it is just necessary, and in this case it is. Her mom is being disrespectful to Kandi and it doesn’t seem to bother her and keep her from being hurtful. There is a nice way to say back off or else.

ginny
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ginny
2 years 8 months ago
Mama Joyce seems to be getting more bitter and paranoid as time goes on. I remember when she was nice and the voice of reason. If she stops this wedding I don’t know what it will do to Kandi. So far I haven’t seen anything about Todd that is bad. He really seems to love Kandi. Maybe Mama sees Todd as an end to her gravy train. If he had been wealthy, in his own right, maybe her feelings would be different. Or she feels that Todd and Kandi’s assistant are stealing Kandi’s affection from her. Anyway, Kandi can only… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
I have a sense that if Todd was wealthy, Mama Joyce would find something else to pick apart. AJ had too many children and too many baby mommas. I can’t say I’d want that for my daughter, but if she was okay with it, that’s all that matters. Is Joyce that unhappy with what she instilled in her daughter and in the way she raised her? She has no faith in her daughter’s judgments? It’s a good thing I don’t get to do this blog thing that often. I’m getting really angry at this woman! LOL I’m spending too much… Read more »
Crywolf
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Crywolf
2 years 8 months ago

What you hate in others is only the truest reflection of what you hate within your own self.

Joyce is an opportunist. She smiles joyfully while causing her daughter pain on television. She does it to be paid. To be famous. To be cause further discussion on the Wendy show. It is Melissa Gorga shady. Exposing family conflict for fame.

Kandi is responsible for the demise of her relationship if it comes to that. Respect does not equate to being a doormat.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
LOL! So uncanny! Your first sentence in your comment is what I was referring to my reply to the comment directly above. Joyce may enjoy the attention but I do believe she is who she is. Even without the cameras, Todd wouldn’t stand a chance. I wonder why her relationship with Reilly’s father didn’t work out. He completely dropped out of the picture. How sad to think Joyce may be partially responsible for Reilly not having a father in her life. Kandi seems so sensible. Possibly tops the list of all the Real Housewives, past and present. All, not just… Read more »
Not So Sweet
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Not So Sweet
2 years 8 months ago
I don’t like that they asked if Kandi should “fight back” on wwhl. It was a bad choice of words, and they could have said “defend herself” or something like that. Then they tried to say Kandi’s mom wants Kandi’s money. That’s what probably made her upset. I understand where she is coming from; at some point, I want to take care of my mom, not because I have to, but because I WANT to. Anyway, Kandi really needs to set boundaries with her mom. She was acting a plum fool at the bridal shop. Who takes off their shoes… Read more »
Reddvette
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Reddvette
2 years 8 months ago
Mama Joyce has not liked any man that Kandi has been with. If you remember Mama Joyce didn’t like A.J. She hated him until he was killed. Mama Joyce acts as if the only thing a man sees in Kandy is the millions she has in the bank. Mama Joyce has enjoyed the benefits of the Kandi bank since Kandi made it as a member of XXscape. She isn’t about to let no one male or female get in that. Mama Joyce said herself people are jealous of what Kandi has and what a part. That let’s you know she… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
You know what they say? Some people who feel guilty about something believe everyone else is guilty of the same thing. Am I saying that right? Ya know what I mean? Joyce doesn’t want Kandi to share any of her money because she wants it all for them. Not that I need it but I would never let my kids support me. God forbid if they had it and I didn’t, anything they offered me, if i were to accept it, I would do so very humbly. I would never, ever in a million trillion years treat my kids money… Read more »
Lapband Lauren
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Lapband Lauren
2 years 8 months ago

Joyce is rachet

Jo
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Jo
2 years 8 months ago

Lmao YES, true and succinct.

Mamma don't always knows best
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Mamma don't always knows best
2 years 8 months ago
KANDI I HOPE YOU READ THIS!!! Kandi you don’t have to “check” your mom! but there comes a point where you need to draw a line. Put yourself is Todd’s shoes how would you feel if his mom would disrespect you all with deragatory names and judge you because you have a sex toy line and assassinate your character. In a very respectful way you should speak with your about respecting your relationship. know because you don’t want your mother driving him away. Because is YOUR relationship not hers. it seems like when you do tell her things and she… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

I’d be out the door if my mother-in-law was anything close to that. She would have never become my mother-in-law.

Kandi’s mom is not the type that will allow Kandi to check her. Kandi has two choices. Put up with it or have her over for holidays and birthdays and that’s it. Oh wait. Now that I think about it there’s a few more. One being call the men with the white jackets to come take her away.

RahRah
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RahRah
2 years 8 months ago
the mother appeared to emotional to act out an emotional part–I think that was the real Joyce someone up stream said it best, the mother apparently things KB is unlovable how many men of KBs financial level are beating down her door to wife her up? none, because how many men are that rich? what do rich men look for, trophy wives, KB is about 10 feet too short to fit that category KB has had her money a long time compared to her peers who squandered their small fortunes, ex TLC. You have this great career and wake up… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Ouch! You do realize some men like petite women don’t you? That’s not it. I’m sure Kandi could get a rich man if she wanted a rich man but she herself said that she didn’t want one and gave excellent reasons why not. What she said made sense. I forgot what she said, but I remember it made sense. LOL

Many of the most gorgeous actresses are 5’4″ and under. Don’t sell them short. HA!

Janice Cook
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Janice Cook
2 years 8 months ago

Run Todd Run!!!!

Frankyblike
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Frankyblike
2 years 8 months ago

Mama Joyce is a mess!!!

IBS
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IBS
2 years 8 months ago

I feel whenever they have dinner together again, Reilly should be there. I’m also wondering why
Reilly wasn’t there helping Kandi picking out a
dress. I have a feeling the producers are on this.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
Why? Do you really think Mama Joyce would behave if Reilly was there? She’s already tried to influence Reilly, saying bad things about Todd to her. Who does that? That’s lower than low. What do the producers have to do with Reilly not being there? Again, do you think they care how Reilly feels or what she’s subjected to? Reilly was probably in school. Thank the lord. I’m sure the producers were probably happier than a camel on Wednesday. I’m not saying the producers wouldn’t have done such a thing but I can imagine those who were there could have… Read more »
TEAM FAIR
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TEAM FAIR
2 years 8 months ago
Before, I address Ms. Joyce, this would be a response all of it’s own. I want to address Wendy Williams, who I actually like. HOWEVER, her words about Todd being an opportunist, which she CONSTANTLY repeating EVERY week MUST STOP! Wendy does not have a VALID reason for this opinion and it’s not based on facts. Now, I have no problem when people give their opinions or thoughts; however, in this case Wendy has cross the line and just torn it to pieces. First, you NEVER make comments about anyone man, until you know facts; and we know Wendy has… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
You rock! Blech Wendy is horrible. I get it. It’s what she does. It’s her thang! If you ask me, she has a lot of nerve talking bullsheet she knows nothing about. Back it up Wendy. Facts!! We want facts! She’s treading on thin ice saying Todd’s opportunistic. That’s on the edge of defamation and slander. In reality, it is defamation and slanderous even if it isn’t quite lawsuit-worthy. I wouldn’t doubt it if she put the idea in Mama Joyce’s head to start. At the least she perpetuated it. How does she sleep? Look in the mirror? No way… Read more »
Gerseygal
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Gerseygal
2 years 8 months ago

Your so right about Wendy! Kevin Hunter sounds like a prize. Ms. Wendy was a big crack head in the 1900’s. Now she’s Ms. Perfect, Please…..

Cajsa
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Cajsa
2 years 8 months ago
What frustrates me about this is that Kandi shows more disrespect for her mom by not setting boundaries – as though she believes her mother is incapable of good behavior, rational thinking and maturity. Indulging Joyce’s immature, spoiled and “ratchet” behavior reveals that she does not think her mother can do better – or be better and that she believes she has to accept this wretched behavior because that’s the best Joyce can do. Not much respect there, in my opinion. Of course, Joyce is 10,000 miles out of line with her abusive, violent behavior. It makes me think she… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
I love this! Everything that you say is so true and I haven’t read a comment like it anywhere. Except I don’t think she’s abusing any substances even if it is hard to believe someone can act the way she is naturally or normally because there’s nothing normal about it. First, I get the impression that Kandi is totally responsible with her finances. There’s no indication that she throws her money around. It’s none of Mama Joyce’s business what Kandi does with her money or who she spends it on or how much. If my mother ever did that I’d… Read more »
Qpsilove
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Qpsilove
2 years 8 months ago

True on your points. Joyce uses Kandi’s love of her against her (Kandi). The shame, to me, is that this woman does what she does while seeking out the camera. Ever notice how, when she’s in a moment, she looks at the camera, then says/does something stupid?! My mother-in-law is exactly like her! She tried to emasculate me until I banned her from our home.
BUT….kudos to Mr. Todd for his extreme cool whilst under duress. A lot of broth as wouldn’t handle it with such grace. Represent! Roo!

loli3
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loli3
2 years 8 months ago

Kandi does not have to cut her mom off or be disrespectful, but she does NOT need to enable her mother’s poor treatment of her loved ones. That is NOT okay.I would be resentful if I were Todd or Carmon. Her mother’s “love” will ruin her chance of living a whole life as well as good relationships. If her mother cared, she would back off and focus on her relationship with Kandi and stop being a pit bull.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

How could anything Kandi says to her mother be disrespectful considering the way her mother is acting? I mean think about it. You treat people the way you want to be treated. There’s really not much Kandi could say that would match the disrespectfulness of her mama’s.

Eric
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Eric
2 years 8 months ago

Kandi needs to stop with the crocodile tears. If she doesn’t like what the viewers have to say about the relationship she has with her mother then one or both of them need to get off reality TV. Playing the victim is not cute. I have no sympathy for these people that put their lives up for public consumption and then whine when the viewers turn on them.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Especially at such bad behavior. This isn’t really a gray area. She can’t expect people to not react. It seems her fans care about her more than her own mother does. Yep, I said it. Not my fault it seems that way. If you read this Mama Joyce, gnaw on that for a while. No, you’d probably get mad at Kandi instead.

The woman is warped.

RenLan
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RenLan
2 years 8 months ago

Joyce ass pisses me off! Her & her sisters are so worried about Kandi’s money it’s a damn shame! THEY are the ones living, eating, and sleeping off of Kandi. Just as Carmon said, Joyce, “You are They!” I dislike that Woman

What Had Happened
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What Had Happened
2 years 8 months ago

Kandi doesn’t get that no one is requesting that she disrespect her Mom….what people are saying is that she has to set boundaries for her Mom….Kandi knows the things her mom says and does is not right….all she had to say is Mom….I will no longer accept your actions towards my man and friends….Riley even told her that she needed to get this right….

Todd really is a good person because there aren’t a lot of men who would sit back and let their gf’s mom disrespect them in the house they reside….

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
Todd is smart by not playing into Mama Joyce’s hands. She wants Todd to react and force Kandi to choose. Kandi is wrong for not defending Todd as it is. It would be really hard to see Todd stand up for himself and Kandi defend her mother. I don’t see Kandi and Todd’s relationship lasting. Kandi’s last relationship with AJ ended too and something tells me her mother’s treatment of him played a big part, maybe the only part. This is terrible, but it’s better that they split before he lost his life in that bar fight. Does anyone else… Read more »
Lola Falana
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Lola Falana
2 years 8 months ago

Ditto

Dave
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Dave
2 years 8 months ago

Sorry Kandi, love you but you’re wrong. Your mother is abusing you and those around you and is trying to control your life. It’s not healthy. You’re not 15 years old , you’re a grown woman. You need to put up clear boundaries or your mother will alienate everyone around you.

Lola Falana
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Lola Falana
2 years 8 months ago

Yep

Reddvette
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Reddvette
2 years 8 months ago

Mama Joyce is jealous.

Jo
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Jo
2 years 8 months ago

YUP. When she started singing to Todd at dinner I was like, you wish you had your daughter’s talent. She sounded like a drunk gospel singer.

denise
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denise
2 years 8 months ago
Good for Kandi! Not sure why her mother is being filmed/edited to be so nasty towards Todd, but it really is Kandi’s call how she wants to respond. Kandi has known her mom all her life and familiar with her way of expressing her views. No man is 100% perfect. Mama Joyce just wants to make sure he is faithful and not in it for the money. Kandi understands that and will protect herself. I really hope their mom/daughter relationship will survive this. I lost my mom a few years in my 30s and I really wish I could still… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
The reason Kandi’s mother is being filmed being so nasty is because she is being nasty, and not just towards Todd. This isn’t a case of tricky editing. I also disagree with Mama’s intent. Mama Joyce is going far beyond making sure Todd is faithful and not in it for money. It’s not her job to test him anyway. Mama Joyce is trying to chase Todd away. It’s not the mother daughter relationship you have to worry about surviving. It’s Kandi’s relationships with anyone else outside the family that gets close to her. Mama Joyce’s actions are not normal and… Read more »
Bryn
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Bryn
2 years 8 months ago

Kandi as always been my girl, I really feel sorry for her. She has been put in a tough situation here. Joyce and her sisters are way out of line and it’s a shame they have put Kandi in the middle like this. I understand where Kandi is coming from, it’s hard to tell your Mama to butt out but on the other hand Kandi loves Todd and needs to tell Joyce to lighten up on him. I hope Kandi is in a better place at this time.

JD
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JD
2 years 8 months ago

There’s a difference between being AGGRESSIVE and ASSERTIVE, she can use the latter.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Yes there is JD. When Kandi says she does stand up to her mother, I think that’s bullsheet! Mama Joyce was more than disrespectful to Todd and Carmen (and Kandi too). Using her grandchild is sick.

Mama Joyce is mad at Kandi for something someone else said on WWHL the week before. She’s not talking to Kandi because of it. It pains me to say it, but she’s not showing that she loves Kandi in the least.

Lola Falana
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Lola Falana
2 years 8 months ago

ITA

JD
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JD
2 years 8 months ago

she does CARE what folks think, and she knows they are speaking the truth, the meddling momma needs to GO…Listen to Riley girl, she makes sense than most folks.

KAZ
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KAZ
2 years 8 months ago

She’s worried about people using her daughter Kandi for her money … While living ina home Kandi GAVE her. That irks me.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Maybe not but it goes far beyond that. Mama Joyce wants to be the only important person in Kandi’s life and doesn’t want to share Kandi or Kandi’s money.

fluffy
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fluffy
2 years 8 months ago

she is acting like a man that beats you. Don’t like your friends or family, so all you have is him.. How awful to break up her 25 year friendship with Carmen too Very sick behavior

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Okay let me try again (I’m having a bad morning) – Maybe mama Joyce IS worried about people using Kandi but it goes farther than that. I’ve got to shake the dust out of my brain. It’s been a while.

Jo
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Jo
2 years 8 months ago
Mama Joyce acted like such a fool at the wedding dress fitting (e.g., pulling off her shoe to hit someone with it) and at the dinner (e.g., singing at Todd) that I have no respect for her. I think I may hate her actually. She’s an embarrassment. Also, I was really annoyed when her sister said (paraphrasing), “Carmon got up and came at Joyce as if she was going to hit her, I’m not going to let her attack Joyce.” What a damn lie — Carmon sat cool as a cucumber on the couch the whole time Joyce was leaping… Read more »
wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago
It’s a shame Mama Joyce has the aunts fooled too. I can only imagine the lies she told them so they’d take her side. But you’re right. Their apparently all a bunch of liars. Carmen just sat there. Did she get up at all? I don’t think she did. Not until she left the room. Carmen shouldn’t have engaged them at all. She should have walked away from them straight away. I don’t even know what to say about Kandi. To get respect someone has to earn it, mother or not. Kandi’s mother is treating her like a bank account… Read more »
fluffy
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fluffy
2 years 8 months ago

I know, and the aunt says, “i don’t want you to marry”.. Not, I don’t want you to marry Todd. They are all probably afraid they are losing their meal ticket

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Oops – THEY’RE a bunch of liars —

Jarlath
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Jarlath
2 years 8 months ago

Something about how Mama Joyce is behaving this season seems fake

NanNan
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NanNan
2 years 8 months ago

Hay someone needs to tell Kandi, that her mamma is not going to be sleeping with her and taking care of her, If Kandi, keeps this up she is going to need her toys to take care of her needs b/c her mamma cannot and Todd want be around.
Mamma Joyce is acting like she is going to loss her free meal ticket.

Poppy3
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Poppy3
2 years 8 months ago

100% agree including that fight in the bridal shop. To me it came off as totally set up.

wtf?
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wtf?
2 years 8 months ago

Unfortunately I think you’re wrong. Kandi’s emotions came across as very real and why would she be that upset if it was just a set up? Besides that, I didn’t think it looked set up at all. If they were acting, they all deserve Emmys.

fluffy
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fluffy
2 years 8 months ago

I agree, there is no way this is fake. None of these people are actresses. Kandi is crying on WWHL, you can tell this is the way Mama Joyce has acted about Kandi’s men That is why Kandi has never married. This is Kandi’s fault that she don’t put her mom in her place. She may have to cut her off temporarily just to let her know she means business, but Kandi doesn’t have the chutzpah

GeesLouise
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GeesLouise
2 years 8 months ago

You might be right, but I don’t think it’s fake. Maybe a bit over the top and exaggerated, but I think this is really how Mama Joyce feels.

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