AllAboutTRH recently had the opportunity to catch up with Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney at her fitness Grand Opening. While we were there, we asked Tamra about her friendship with Gretchen.
Tamra had this to say, “It’s grown. We continue. We definitely have some hiccups with some things I’ve seen in her that were issues that I had in the very beginning with her. It made me open my eyes and question, ‘is this really what I want in a friend?’ I’m not saying we’re enemies by any means. I still talk to her, but some things definitely come to light.”
Tamra also slammed Gretchen for her singing saying she sucks adding, “Have you heard her sing? Are you going to argue with me? No Housewives should sing!”
Gretchen who thought Tamra and her were in a good place was totally taken back by these comments and responded EXCLUSIVELY to AllAboutTRH telling us she was “surprised” and had no idea Tamra felt this way about her!
“I was surprised to hear she questioned the friendship she has with me. Her and I talk often and I certainly did not know she felt this way, however I’m not naive to the fact that we had some hiccups this season as all friendships do. I think I have realized with her that when you call her out about things she goes on the attack and lashes back at you. This season she was texting me one thing about a situation, but on camera displaying another. I’m just a straight shooter, I don’t talk out both ends of my mouth. So I asked her on camera what the deal was and how come she was texting me one thing but doing another, needless to say that didn’t go over very well and things got a little weird with us for a minute, but I thought we worked through it and were back on good terms. Perfect example is this interview with you guys, when I asked her about it she texted me it was all BS and you guys completed manipulated the story, but then you guys said you have voice recordings of her saying this about me, so as anyone would feel, sometimes it’s hard to know what the truth is. However as a friend I want to give her the benefit, so I have to believe her.
With that said you asked if what was said was hurtful, and the truth is if she did say it, of course it is. How could it not be, that is why I immediately reached out to her and asked why would she say those things? All I know is that I have been nothing but supportive about her business endeavors, her personal life, and protective over people taking away from special moments in her life (as you will see this season with an event at her fitness studio and dress shopping day). I have always done that for my friends and always will. This past year I have talked to her several times and texted about her fears of starting her own business always encouraging her to go after her dreams. I have always said I believed in her and knew she could do it and that it was her past getting in her way (meaning certain people making her feel like she was incapable or always tearing her down). I myself am a self made entrepreneur and it’s important to empower others (especially woman) who are starting out in that space. She has told me several times that she has had nothing but positive things come in her life since we have become friends and that she likes talking to me because I lift her up and don’t tear her down like certain other friends of hers. So obviously, if what was said in this article is true it is beyond hurtful that she would tear down my business, my character again (because we had a disagreement) and now my singing.
I write and sing because it is something I love to do in my past time. I don’t need everyone’s approval, and I’m not trying to be the next big pop star. I know my capabilities and why I am doing this. I do this for the fans that continue to be touched by my lyrics and meaning behind my songs. Every song has a message that has been inspired by the experiences in my life. The emails and feedback from people saying how much it has helped them get through something makes it all worth it and the people who hate on it. I’m ok with someone’s opinion and if they don’t like my singing, I am not offended, but Tamra has never voiced that to me. She actually said I rocked it at Pussycat Dolls and was super proud of me, and has heard all of my songs and has always said, they were good. Tamra certainly would not like anyone having a negative thing to say about her new business venture in the fitness industry, and her level of fitness to be doing something like that.
She also says she is not here to make friends and this is a job for her at the end of the day, which I respect, but for me I am not willing to lose my integrity or the way I treat others to keep my paycheck. I think we can all have our opinions in a very authentic and adult like manner without assassinating someone’s character or business just so we make good TV. Funny thing is Tamra actually asked me in one scene this year how I know so much about so many things and how I know how to deal with them so well. I laughed and said “I don’t really, I just live and learn”. I think even though both brutally honest Tamra and I go about it differently when we deliver that information. Her way works for her and my way works for me.
I sincerely wish her nothing but the best in all her endeavors.
The best part of all this is that anyone can say whatever they want, but I am, and always will be #Unbreakable”
AllAboutTRH records each interview I have with housewives and never twists words. I think Tamra didn’t realize she would hurt Gretchen by saying what she did. Thoughts on Gretchen’s response? Looks like there friendship didn’t last like many assumed…