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AllAboutTRH EXCLUSIVE: Why Tamra Barney Questioned Her Friendship With Gretchen Recently! Plus, Wedding Details & What She Thinks Of Being Seen As A Bitch

This is the final part of our exclusive interview with Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney! Tamra updates us on her friendship with Gretchen! Last season the two became friends after being enemies, but have things continued to be all rainbows and sprinkles?

Tamra also talks about her son Ryan, her three wedding dresses, Housewives who try to become singers, and what she thinks of the critics who think she is a bitch who likes to bully cast mates!

AllAboutTRH: Has your friendship with Gretchen continued to grow this season?
Tamra Barney:
Yes, it’s grown. We continue. We definitely have some hiccups with some things I’ve seen in her that were issues that I had in the very beginning with her. It made me open my eyes and question, ‘is this really what I want in a friend?’

I’m not saying we’re enemies by any means. I still talk to her, but some things definitely come to light.

Viewers want to know how your son Ryan is doing.
He’s doing great! He is working here part-time. He lives in Newport right on the water, living the dream.

I heard you’re getting married this summer! Anything you can say about that?
Yes! We’re getting married this summer. The planning has really started. I can’t really say much about.

So that means it’s probably going to be filmed, right?
Let’s just say…I can’t talk about it.

Are you able to reveal any dress details? Viewers want to know about your gown and color choice!
Well, I’m actually going to have three dresses. I am working with Mark Zunino in Beverly Hills. He designs for Kleinfeld, and he’ll be fabulous!

And Heather Dubrow is going to be singing at my wedding! She doesn’t like to talk about it because she’s embarrassed because of all the disgusting Housewives songs!

Who’s your favorite Housewives singer, if you had to pick one?
None! They all suck!

Even Gretchen?
Yes! Have you heard her sing? Are you going to argue with me? No Housewives should sing! I think the only one that kind of has a voice is that Melissa Gorga. Kind of.

But Heather is a singer. She used to do it as a profession. She used to be a wedding singer and she had a big band that she sang with. She even used to sing at Disneyland. She’s extremely talented, but doesn’t want it to be a joke.

How do you feel about Housewives who come on these shows and then claim they’re being bullied?
I think it’s a joke. I think that when you sign your contract and you know what you’re in for and then say you’re being bullied then you need to get the f off. If you can’t handle it, get off.

This is a huge platform. This is a show. There is a huge expectation of you and if you have skeletons in your closet and you don’t want them out, don’t blame the other girls and don’t call it bullying because that’s bullsh*t. Nobody’s forcing you to be on the show.

Do you think Bravo has done a proper job accurately portraying you on the show? Some viewers think you come off as a bitch.
Sometimes people are afraid of the truth. I was hired to do a job and my job was to be real. I am not on the show to show the viewers what I want to show them. I show them what true life is. I don’t get up there and think ‘Oh, I’m not going to say this because I want everybody to love me.’ No, that’s not who I am.

I was given a job and I’m doing it well. Andy Cohen refers to me as “the perfect Housewife”. I take my job very seriously and when I sign a contract asking me to be real, I’m going to be real. If you’re going to do something stupid, I’m going to call you out. That’s what I’m here to do. I am not here to make friends and I tell every single one of the girls that. I’m here to do a job. I have Housewives from other franchises calling me and asking me ‘how do you do this?’ or ‘how do you balance this?’ and I say this: ‘I don’t lie, I don’t cheat, and I don’t exaggerate.’

What you see me do is be honest. That’s what I’m here to do. If I could I would ask to only show my purse line, or request to get my hair done every day, but that’s not reality. I do have a sarcastic side and Bravo only shows a certain percentage of you, so if that’s all they show… They don’t see me as a mom. They don’t see a lot of my life. You do see a lot of sarcasm because they love my one-liners.

Is there anything you’d like to tell your fans as you enter your sixth season on their TV screens?
I’ve been through so many stages on the show and I guess I just want to say that it doesn’t matter what age you are, you can make things happen for yourself. I’m not a person that believes in luck. I think you create your own destiny. Everybody is dealt certain cards in their life, some better than others, and it’s what you do with those cards.

Are you surprised Tamra has had to question Gretchen as a friend? Do you think she slammed Gretchen’s purse line when she said some Housewives only want to show their purse lines?

What do you think of Tamra’s take on the way she is portrayed on the show?

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  • Well this interview was the nail in the coffin of anything likeable about Tamra. That’s fine if she views the show as a job, in fact that ia probably the smart thing to do. But it is sickening how into herself she is! It is one thing to be proud if yourself, but to take pride in the fact that she basically threw over her husband and family to climb the ladder of real housewives shows is disgusting. And if Andy Cohen does indeed call you the perfect housewife (snicker) it is only because you are lining his pockets with more money. Tamra I don’t judge you, but one day Someone will, and is your defense for being a self-absorbed, conniving, mean girl/bully, hateful climber going to be “I was just being honest!”? All I have to say is – pride goeth before a fall!

  • lol at Tamra saying she’s real…a lot of what she does and her storylines are staged for the show…the whole Eddie thing? c’mon.

  • Love Tamra. Gretchen needs to get a real job along with Taylor and Alexis. Alexis has to be the worse – acting so hard like she has money when she doesn’t, and not standing up to her asshole husband.

  • Good luck with your gym and good thing your not one of those housewives that is just trying to use the show to promote their business (said with a sarcastic tone!)

  • has anyone read tamra’s, gretchen’s or allabouttrh’s twitter? apparently tamra is backpeddling and telling gretchen she didn’t slam her in the interview but roxy is defending herself and saying the interview was recorded. gretchen should not trust tamra at all. she’s two faced.

    • I have been reading it on twitter. Gretchen answered my tweet and she said Tamra “texted her & told her it was BS, so who knows.” Tamra’s character once again comes through. She is a shitty person and so called friend.

  • I defiently like Tmara over Gretchen. LOL Melissa Gorga can not sing!!! Gretchen looks like she got in a fight with her makeup brush!

    • I never heard Melissa Gorga sing, but Heather Dubrow has a very ugly speaking voice so I don’t expect her singing ability is going to be all that. I guess we are going to find out when they show Trailer Trash Barbie’s 3rd wedding.

  • I prefer Tamra over Gretchen , I dont like how Tamra treats Alexis but Gretchen is worse being that Lex really held her down when no1 had her back and then Gretchen became a turncoat at the drop of a dime last season.

  • Ppl judging Tam but not Gretchen, the grifter ho bag? She exploited CANCER ppl. You do understand what kind of ppl do that – sick bitches with NO soul! She’s doing it AGAIN with Slade’s kid too! TWICE she’s done this because she’s trash.

    • Yes, and she also accepted a dead man’s money that should’ve gone to his kids. No wonder that Photoglou guy keeps going after her, she was screwing him on the side and pretending to be in love and engaged to Jeff. She’s a very materialistic woman.

  • Tamra is funny. That is the one good thing I can say about her.

    If I were acquainted with her, I would keep my distance. I would never tell her one damn thing, never invite her in my home and have as little as possible to do with her.

    She is not interested in the other women for anything more than carcasses to pick over for a story line.

  • Tamra is a vile person – sorry I can’t like someone who takes such pleasure in being mean and hateful to others. I am not suprised her and Gretchen aren’t as close as they are both narcassist fame whores and theirs was a relationship of convenience. I see Gretchen as a complete liar ever since she admitted to wearing extensions and getting her lips done – she has no integrity. There is really no reason for me to turn into OC – as there really isn’t a likeable one in the bunch.

  • Just got back from a long week in Vegas, and this little interview was the first thing I read. GREAT INTERVIEW, JOSE! See… I like Tamra. Always have! Yes, she’s very blunt and can be a total bitch, but at least she calls it like she sees it. Many of you can’t stand her, but even though I don’t agree with things she does or says, I still like her.

    I wish you the best, Tamra! Watch out for Gretchen, and I hope you’re a little nicer to Alexis even though if I’m not a fan of her.

    And… HELL NO! Melissa WHORGA definitely CANNOT sing for the life of her! She never sounds good. It’s almost as bad as hearing nails on a chalkboard! 🙂

  • Either I’m reading this wrong or you misunderstood her Jose. I took it as she was saying she would love if they only filmed her getting her hair done or going to the gym but she doesn’t control what they show! I may be wrong but that’s how I took it!!

  • Another EXCELLENT INTERVIEW!!!! She IS the real deal & my fav’ on ‘RHOC’……. I especially loved her response to your question, “How do you feel about Housewives who come on these shows and then claim they’re being bullied?” That response truly is accurate for IF you don’t want anything coming out on the show that you’ve hidden or kept undercover then ‘don’t sign on the dotted line’…..

    Enjoyed the whole interview & love me some Tammy Sue for she’s the real deal……:)

    • That was the dumbest answer she gave given how WELL Tammy Sue DOES NOT do with having her story told. Trailer Park Tammy Sue don’t like it when she gets called out…she starts issuing “cyst and decease” letters and tosses drinks in people’s faces.

      Chick is a full fledged hypocrite.

  • Every season Tamara kisses someones ass then picks a person to bully. It doesnt matter what age she is, she continues to act like a trashy, immature, person with no class! Ugh

    • Exactly. I can’t stand women like her and there are plenty out there. No loyalty, no class, no brains (and no friends).

  • Ohhhh and I see a pattern here…
    She is no longer BFF with Gretchen…so what does Tamra do?……..becomes nicer//friendly with Alexis!!

    She does this with EVERYONE!
    That’s what mean girls like Tamra do!

    • She will probably try and be friends with the new girl. Then, she will find something wrong with her,try and get the other girls to hate her and scream, yell and embarass the new girl. That is how Tamra operates. She can be friends with no one.

    • I don’t think really any of the housewives are actually friends in real life…friendly yes, real friends no. How could you be, when part of your job description is to attack each other? That is why when the ladies who have been friends for several years before the show get into it, it hits them a lot harder (Tre and Jax?).

      • I think Tamra and Vicki were the only real ones. And after last season, I thought she and Gretchen, but maybe the moved too fast, LOL, like a boyfriend/GF, now there is trouble in paradise?

  • can’t stand her
    she is awful!Does she even know how to be a friend?

    PS don’t tell me she is wearing a white wedding dress!

    • 3 white dresses.

      The woman lacks any kind of integrity. She basically tells us she will do what ever she has to for a pay check.

    • Cant stand her. Its like her fourth wedding and she’s wearing 3dresses?!?! Ridiculous.

      • I was just thinking, the same thing! This isn’t her first (or second – not sure if she was married to Ryan’s dad or not) wedding, so why is she making it a spectacle? I can understand on RHOM (for example) with Joanna because it’s her first wedding/the only guy we’ve seen Joanna with on the show. But Tamra, come on, for 3 seasons we’ve seen her married to Simon, now we are suppose to just accept this fairy tale wedding? A low key wedding would definitely have humbled her and gained her more support IMO.

        • Why so judgmental about someone else’s wedding? Like her or not, it’s HER wedding and if she wants to make it a big freakin deal then she can and should. If you have such a problem with it then don’t watch! Find something worthwhile to whine about, not how Tamra chooses to plan her wedding.

          • It’s not “someone else” it’s the very public Trailer Park Tamra who has a problem with everything anyone else does, and let’s everyone know about it. So she can get it back, and deserves to, in spades.

  • I have to admit I can not stand Tamra and this interview just confirms it. “I take my job very seriously and when I sign a contract asking me to be real, I’m going to be real.” So basically she is admitting she is a bitch. There are ways grown women behave towards each other and Tamra is missing those skills, guess she failed in her etiquette class. Too bad there are so many housewives who can not sing or just want to sell their products, luckily Tamra is not pushing her fitness center! LOL.

    • At least she can admit she is a bitch lol. I don’t really like her either but I like how she answered the questions. I feel like she is reasonably honest at least.

    • I agree, JustSayin. She’s not pushing it–Not yet. This bugs me about all of them. They basically get free infomercials.

  • Well I like Tamra, like I have said before not everything she says and does but I like her.

  • I would love to know who the housewife is that asks to get her hair done everyday???

    • Probably Gretchen or Alexis since they are both so into their hair. I hope Gretchen tones down on her humongous hair extensions & 10lb layer of makeup. I mean, Gretchen’s makeup looks like all the ladies makeup combined!!!!!

  • Of course they are not close. How can you trust someone like Tamra? She will go after, and throw you under the bus when she it done with you. “I’m real” yeah, a real bitch.

    • How can you say someone’s a friend and then publicly say sucks? I don’t think she understands what friendship is…

    • I think reading this interview made me realize that Tamra only views this show as a job. Like she said she isn’t there to make friends, she is there to create drama and does what is asked of her. That actually makes me like her more than I did lol. At least she doesn’t pretend she is friends with the other women like a lot of them do, and then stab them in the back.

      • She is right, it is a job! And if you come out with a real friend after that experience, then I say you are lucky. There are a few here and there that are real friends going in, but do they all do not remain that way as we have seen, going out!

        • True! I sometimes forget that it is a job lol. Every now and again I read something like this and I am reminded. Sounds silly, but when watching a show it is odd to think of it as a job for the people on it.

          • I know, I felt the same way, But after all the drama with RHONJ, I had to remind myself that a few times before commenting, LOL

    • I agree, Socal. Tamara is so judgmental. If it isn’t her way, it’s no way. She isn’t going to have any friends left. Her & Watermelon jugs Alexis were over. No more Vickie. Tamara’s only got Eddie & if she doesn’t change, he’ll be gone, too.

      Tamara loves sticking her face in everybody’s business. She needs to mind her own business.

    • Who would want to be friends with Tamra, she dosent even know how to be one, she has no friends, Gretchen was genuine in her friendship but of course Tamra has to wreck another realationship, if she didnt like Gretchens’ signing theres a tacketfull way of saying but we are talking of Tamra, no class at all

  • I knew they were not as close as they were I follow twitter alot and they don’t tweet each other like they used to.

  • No Im not surprised because with any franchise, at some point, I think they all question each other. I think that I agree with her about signing the contract Bravo showing certain things. After first season, I think Bravo knows how to build a character and /or plots! It sucks in a way, because with most of them, I can see there is a good in them but at the end of the day ,it is a show for ratings.