AllAboutTRH had the opportunity to speak exclusively to Real Housewives of Orange County star Tamra Barney and right off the bat I loved her! I’ve spoke to many housewives and I can confirm that Tamra is as real as it gets. She’s just like everyone else and doesn’t let the fame get to her. Tamra explains why she doesn’t like Alexis, talks friendship with Gretchen and Vicki, plus confirms some rumors!
Do you have any regrets since being on ‘The Real Housewives of Orange County?’
Well first I’d like to say I don’t live or believe in regrets because I believe anything you do is a learning lesson but I think the hardest thing for me to deal with on the show was seeing my marriage fall apart. Not for me so much but more for my children because it’s going to be out there forever. Even if they don’t watch it now because their young, I feel like their is some unpleasant footage of me and Simon. That’s one thing for you know my kids that I wish I could take back.
Are you and Simon in a better place right now?
Yeah. We are! He’s got a girlfriend that he’s been living with for over a year right now and he seems to be doing real well. I mean we don’t hang out or anything but you know I think that he’s doing well and last year was really hard for him. I think that we both made decisions that weren’t necessarily great for both of us. When you go through a divorce especially publicly your emotions run high, you say and do things that you wish didn’t happen. For instance now he’s really having to deal with last season him getting arrested on the show. You know we talked about it the other day and he said ‘God I wish that wouldn’t have been on there and it was just a bad time in our lives.’ And I want to make it clear that I didn’t have him arrested. He should have never been arrested. The cops did that to him. I just wanted a report done and they kept pushing it. Simon is a good dad and he’s a great person but we just weren’t good together.
Who are you currently closest with from the show?
I’m pretty good friends with Heather. I’m friends with Gretchen. It’s a work in progress but we definitely talk all the time. If anybody, I talk to Gretchen the most which is a total 180! We have this really weird relationship almost like were sisters. We can talk about everything but there is a trust issue because there’s a history.
A few months back there was a rumor that Bravo bribed you to get married and apparantly Gretchen was calling it a sham. Any truth to that?
That was one thing that was really hard for me because I got engaged and it’s supposed to be the happiest time of my life and I wasn’t allowed to talk about it because it was something that was documented on the show so I was supposed to keep it quiet. And then she [Gretchen] said she didn’t leak the story and I can only believe what she says but I have friends who work for the magazine that the story was in and they told me that Gretchen was the one who leaked it.
How did you feel about hearing that Gretchen leaked the story?
You know what, I didn’t talk to her. But then she called me immediately and she was crying on the phone and I was still to upset to talk to her. I just kind of told her I don’t have any words right now and I don’t want to say the wrong thing so I told her I’m choosing not to talk to her. But she said she didn’t say it and all you can do is believe her.
Do you think Vicki and Alexis friendship is genuine?
I don’t hang out with them so I don’t know. I find it hard to believe. The one thing about Alexis is I make fun of her a lot only because how can you not? I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut when I’m asked questions about her [Alexis] however I don’t think she is a horrible person. I think she is phony and I don’t think she is vicious or mean and I know she wouldn’t do any harm to someone but you can’t fix stupid! I don’t chose to be around someone like that and Vicki’s a smart woman so all I can say is only time will tell!
Have your feelings changed towards Slade now that your friends with Gretchen?
Yes. They have. I think that I’ve got to know Slade one on one and he’s charming. He’s nice. Do I agree with some of his decisions in his life? No, I don’t but its not up to me to agree or disagree on how he chooses to live his life. He’s nice to me and to Eddie. He just has a different role in life than most men do his age!
Do you think Gretchen can do better?
Being in a relationship with someone for a long period of time and they aren’t bringing something in financially to the table, you lose respect for. Especially for a man. I went through 18 months of my ex not working and I was working. Not that that’s horrible but you tend to get resentful. I think that’s got to be hard for Gretchen. I’m assuming so because it would be hard for me. I don’t think I can do that. I’m sure there is a part of her that wishes [he did something] because we all go out [together] and have successful men. But maybe she’s okay with Slade and him following her around.
How does Eddie feel about the show?
He doesn’t love the show. He doesn’t hate the show. He thinks the show is a little toxic for his lifestyle because he lives in a professional lifestyle for his business. He is a very positive person and when anyone fights on the show he kind of walks out and doesn’t want to be seen in the setting. But he gets it and supports me and that’s all I can ask for.
Do you think you and Alexis will ever be friends?
I don’t think we’re enemies. There is actually an upcoming scene where we sit down and she asks me why I don’t like her or why I talk behind her back. And I just kind of told her I don’t like you, we have no connection and we’re just different people. I don’t live in her world at all and I just don’t see me ever hanging out with her. I’ve tried but it’s like ‘hello? Is anyone home?’
Why are you so skeptical towards Vicki Gunvalson’s boyfriend Brooks when he seems like a great guy?
It’s a funny thing and it has a lot to do with editing. Me and Brooks kind of get into a fight at the end of the season. It was the season finale so what they [proucers] have done is taken everything I have said after that fight and they [producers] kind of made it look like I kept saying things about him leading up to our fight but it was all after. So prior to that we got along and everything was fine and I just felt like Vicki was kind of slipping away. I thought it was weird and he does something in the season finale that blows my mind and it’s like ‘are you kidding me?’ You’ll see what he comments about that causes the argument.
So how is it working with Vicki now? You two don’t seem as close?
Well you know what. This is probably hard to hear for her but she’s got so much going on in her life with Briana and now she’s got the wedding coming up!
And Briana’s pregnant!
Yeah Briana’s pregnant and the she’s still dealing with the divorce, traveling, Brooks and I don’t think she has much time for me but we come together because we have a business now. It’s kind of like having a sister. You fight but she’s never going to go anywhere. She’s a good person and has a good heart but does have a lot in her plate right now.
So tell me what’s next for you?
The next 6 months is going to be huge for me. We launched the Wine by Wives and I’m opening a fitness studio and it should be opened in 3 months in Orange County. It’s called CUT Fitness and it stands for Cardio Unique Training. We’re going to have a bunch of classes and Eddie’s involved and has a fitness background. He’s going to be teaching the classes. I’m planning the wedding and a lots just going on!
What made you decide to start Wine by Wives?
Well Vicki and I have been talking about doing something with each other for a long time. And our friend Chris is a huge entrepreneur and he wanted to do something with us. We wanted to do something with charity and came up with the idea. 10% of the proceeds go to a charity of our choice. We’re bringing on different charities and celebrity wives. It kind of just exploded so as soon as we started advertising we had many people signing up! Chris and I are also looking for locations to open a house by wine bar. Just wine, little food, jazz bands and all that fun stuff!
Aside from the Real Housewives of Orange County. Do you watch any Real Housewives series and which is your favorite?
I really record every single one bug my favorite is New Jersey!
So I have to ask you this! Are you team Melissa or Teresa?
Well I know both of them personally and think they both are great. And we’re actually going to talk to Teresa and get her wine in our club! We also met with Ramona about her coming on! Any housewife who has their wine bring it on! We’re all supporting each other and we’re all in this together.
Tamra was great and I think it’s awesome that she finds it so important to support other housewives! Do you think Gretchen and Tamra’s friendship will last? Thoughts on the interview?